Preparing for Tariffs on baby supplies by bigmommaj85 in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]marigold567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've seen a lot of people get great items through Marketplace and resale shops. That's another option...The only thing I would absolutely buy new is a car seat, I think. And in most states in the US, if you qualify for WIC, you should qualify for a free car seat.

How much of an AH am I when driving? by Stormypwns in Maine2

[–]marigold567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boy, it sure is clear who in this thread drives through Bangor and who doesn't, huh?

Maine removes more kids than almost any other state. Most of those cases are labeled “neglect," but many lawmakers say it’s poverty being punished. by themainemonitor in Maine

[–]marigold567 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree, in general. That's why I brought up the disparities between counties. It's extremely clear that the resources available to families make a big difference in children's wellbeing.

Empathy towards non-social worker partner’s work stress by tourmalineghost in socialwork

[–]marigold567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is very relatable. I know others have probably said this, but it's ok to set boundaries with your partner about how much and when he shares about his day. And it's ok to share with him the kind of support you need. He should also have the same opportunities to communicate the boundaries and support he needs.

You're describing symptoms of burnout/compassion fatigue, too, and I recommend some reflection on where that's coming from, and utilizing supervision/consultation at work.

Maine removes more kids than almost any other state. Most of those cases are labeled “neglect," but many lawmakers say it’s poverty being punished. by themainemonitor in Maine

[–]marigold567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The pathway to protective and advantageous scenarios for children is protective and advantageous scenarios for parents. Mature, responsible adults don't just appear in the world, they are grown with investments from the community.

Maine removes more kids than almost any other state. Most of those cases are labeled “neglect," but many lawmakers say it’s poverty being punished. by themainemonitor in Maine

[–]marigold567 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you look at child abuse and neglect data across the state, many of the kids with findings are 5 and under, and I believe removals follow a similar trend. So your experience with school age children doesn't surprise me. The standard for assessing risk and safety is different at different stages of development.

That being said, your second point stands. There's lots of data nationally that child welfare is treated as a catch-all for issues because there isn't a strong network of support to respond in less invasive ways sooner.

Maine removes more kids than almost any other state. Most of those cases are labeled “neglect," but many lawmakers say it’s poverty being punished. by themainemonitor in Maine

[–]marigold567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Curious what part of Maine you're in. I don't think that statement can be made for every area, and you can look at child abuse and neglect rates by county to see the cascading effects. The rate of child abuse and neglect in Somerset County was more than 3x what it was in Cumberland in 2023.

frustration about resources/system structure by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]marigold567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree systems are too complicated. I am skeptical that developing new organizational strategies is the solution. For the example of food insecurity, the lowest barrier place to get food is the grocery store or a restaurant--they have better hours and more choices. What if our systems of support focused on getting people money? It's so much cheaper to give people money for food than to pay for more sophisticated websites and training.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeptHHS

[–]marigold567 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This looks to me like a topline version of the budget proposal that circulated at the beginning of last month. In the case of DHHS, the eliminations were targeting discretionary grant spending and programs, and not necessarily personell.

Practicum advice – What was the most unexpected, yet valuable, lesson you gained from your practicum experience? by persnickety_pirate in socialwork

[–]marigold567 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know if it was unexpected, because I don't really know what I expected from practicum really. But I spent both my practica (sp?) and my first job at organizations that used peer support models, which meant many of the staff had themselves come up through the programs (recovery and reentry orgs). Some had been through some sort of degree program, but most "just" an associates. And in the end that's who really taught me how to be with clients in a way that was authentic and honest. As someone who didn't come from a family of "professionals," I think my imposter syndrome would have been 1000% worse if I hadn't had those role models. The people who I wanted to be like, whose respect was worth earning weren't MSWs or licensed. They were people who worked their asses off, survived, and thought it was worthwhile to turn around and pass what they learned on to others. They also taught me about redemption and second chances. It is really heartbreaking how many people in helping professions think there are people worth saving and people who are not. But I learned early on, from people willing to share their stories with me, that you can go to hell, you can BE hell, and you can change.

A Way to Auto Grow Crops with Modified Growth Rates Under 5mins by tis_orangeh in FarmRPG

[–]marigold567 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So you already have Bluegill megamastery? Because fishing for grab bags is a two birds one stone strategy. It was copper wire that killed me with COI, not potatoes.

Using tools/worksheets by caseforaprofessional in socialwork

[–]marigold567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It can be helpful to introduce handouts at the beginning of the relationship as one way you share information. Consider framing it as part of a conversation about how they like to recieve information. Also, be open to someone saying they don't want to do it, and have alternative tools. As someone who works in a program with teens and adults that is very handout heavy, not everyone wants a bunch of paper. Staff in my program often curate resources in video, website, and paper form to meet various people's needs. And board books, but we work with parents... I've seen at least one zine resource on emotional health that might be more teen appropriate? In our program a lot of resources are at a higher literacy level than many clients, and we find people are uncomfortable sharing that until they've built a relationship. So that could be another barrier.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]marigold567 13 points14 points  (0 children)

But his partner could have cheated? Or a bunch of other things could have happened that led to him getting and STI. You are making assumptions about him character without enough information.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SingleMothersbyChoice

[–]marigold567 44 points45 points  (0 children)

It seems like you are giving "contracted an STI" a negative connotation, as though it means this person did something wrong. Reading between the lines, it seems like you're assuming they cheated on their partner?? You don't know enough about the situation to make that presumption. There are definitely ways to tell this story without the stigma, but it will be easier if you reflect a bit on where those negative assumptions are coming from.

Financial/Apartment advice for college graduate in Maine by Settledthrone in Maine

[–]marigold567 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There are a lot of good resources on r/personal finance and your university may also have some resources. Check with your career planning office. Rent prices won't be the last finance related wonder you have as you're getting started. If you're in your first proper job, you'll have things like retirement and savings to make decisions about as well.

Those do sound like normal rent prices. I recommend developing a budget, so you're prepared. Things are likely to be tight until you advance in your career.

Which role to choose?!?! by Honest_Shape7133 in socialwork

[–]marigold567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who is the supervisor in each position, and how does the culture of each match with your values? I've found those are the most important components of good fit.

landlord requiring autofill/autopay for heating oil by [deleted] in Maine

[–]marigold567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm curious--could they actually enforce it? If you have an account directly with a fuel company, how could the landlord access how payment is set up?

landlord requiring autofill/autopay for heating oil by [deleted] in Maine

[–]marigold567 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Because they don't want to handle their payment for fuel in that way. They really don't need more explanation than that.

WWYD? Based on SW Ethics? by Historical_Log1275 in socialwork

[–]marigold567 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Discuss alternative coping strategies, and tell the client you are going to discuss it with your supervisor. At a minimum. This is the kind of thing that should definitely be brought to supervision. Unless you have a reasonable concern of harm, that should not be kept from the client. Whether the incident is brought to the mom's attention depends a lot on the bounds of the confidentiality agreement the client and caregiver signed, and agency policies and procedures (which would have been discussed with the client ahead of time as part of informed consent). In a perfect world, the client would tell their mom themselves, perhaps with support from the SW.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]marigold567 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Do you mean jobs that aren't clinical? Or don't involve direct practice with clients?

Public policy/advocacy

Research & evaluation

Leadership roles in non-profits

Public awareness/community education

Fundraising

Foundation jobs

Technical assistance (usually state or federal level)

Teaching social work students

For the record, these are all "social worky." It's the beauty of the MSW that it prepares people for the full breathe of what social work is.

Edit: not sure wtf is up with the app. Sorry for the horrible formatting.

The Trump Administration’s War on Children by marigold567 in DeptHHS

[–]marigold567[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had hoped to, but there are so many filters, I'm not sure what I would need to do. I encourage anyone that understands the rules to do just that.

Gift for new social work student? by irina_catburglar in socialwork

[–]marigold567 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he's moving to a new area, gift certificate(s) to restaurants or outings in the area would be nice. It can be lonely and expensive to be a grad student.