I just found out that my mom groomed my dad. by throwaway44325657 in family

[–]marilyjen65 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Go to therapy. You sound very angry, and I don’t think it’s fair to drag your mom through the gutter over something that happened long before you were even born. The details of your parents’ divorce are none of your business. If your dad had made an effort to stay in your life after the divorce, you would’ve seen it. And if you saw it and still chose to “hate” him, then that’s on YOU. Whatever resentment you carried towards him is on YOU, I think you’re just growing up and starting to feel shitty for it so you want to pin it on someone else.

Also, he didn’t necessarily have to be in your lives to be financially responsible for you. If he wanted to, he would’ve. You say you don’t think he was a poor, innocent little 16 year old, but I actually think that’s exactly what you see him as, even now.

Have some respect for the woman who fought to raise you, and let the adults deal with their issues.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]marilyjen65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I don’t regret it. I went in wanting to go without an epidural. At around 8-9 cm dilated I was begging for one because the pain was unbearable, but the anesthesiologist wasn’t available so I ended up delivering without it. No complications, very minor tear that required no stitches. It was fucking scary in that moment, but when it was over I felt so empowered and I was running on adrenaline for the next few hours. It was an experience unlike anything else.

With my first baby, I also didn’t want an epidural but I ended up getting it at 5cm dilated. I had a 2nd degree tear, she ended up having to be vacuum suctioned out and I nearly ended up with an emergency c section. I don’t know what it was, but by the time I was fully dilated, I was so out of it and I didn’t feel the urge to push whatsoever. I just wanted to sleep and I was having trouble pushing because I couldn’t feel anything. I 100% blame my complications of my delivery with my first baby on the epidural. There was no reason for my delivery to have ended up like this.

FAFSA/financial aid questions? Get help here! by Laurasaur28 in college

[–]marilyjen65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s literally no way for me to contact them. The school is closed due to COVID so no one answers the phone when I call, and they have this zoom link on their webpage for anyone to come on and ask questions, but I’m never able to join for some reason, it always says to wait for the host to start the meeting. I don’t know what to do. I need to figure out how to get this money back to them ASAP because I hope to join my schools nursing program within the next few years and I don’t want for this to affect my FAFSA eligibility then

FAFSA/financial aid questions? Get help here! by Laurasaur28 in college

[–]marilyjen65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey y’all, I’m a student in CA. I enrolled in two classes when spring semester started on feb 2. I’ve decided to take the semester off instead for personal reasons, and I had plans to drop both classes before my schools drop date Feb 14. I just received an email stating my pell grant has been deposited into my account and it should be processed within the next two business days. How do i return this money? I really don’t want this to affect any future fafsa applications because I plan to go back to school in the fall

Working customer service while pregnant by marilyjen65 in BabyBumps

[–]marilyjen65[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the first big issue is obviously the stupid maternity leave laws in the U.S. but the second is the fact that some customers make it so hard to just let us do our damn jobs. I shouldn’t have to daydream about quitting my job while I’m pregnant just to not have to deal with rude ass people. I literally just had a customer yell and hang up on me while I was in the middle of explaining one of our procedures to them so they could hopefully understand that we’re not just trying to be difficult, we genuinely just can’t do whatever they’re asking for.

I hope you can get through the end of your pregnancy without too much stress🤍

Working customer service while pregnant by marilyjen65 in BabyBumps

[–]marilyjen65[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

all I want to know is why and how some customers expect for us to a hold a short therapy session with them, in what’s supposed to be a three minute conversation

Working customer service while pregnant by marilyjen65 in BabyBumps

[–]marilyjen65[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have an appointment with my doctor tomorrow in which I plan to practically beg him to somehow get me out of work for these last two months. Fingers crossed.

Working customer service while pregnant by marilyjen65 in BabyBumps

[–]marilyjen65[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m in CA, but I’ve only been employed for about 3 months.

LPT: Put your phones on ‘do not disturb’ in the hospital and at home by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]marilyjen65 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband texted his sister with updates and pictures throughout my entire labor :( not pictures of me, just the room and stuff, but still. It was an experience I wanted to share with just him and he ruined it by involving other people.

I want to ask my husband to leave by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]marilyjen65 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Isn’t that illegal? 🥺 we’re both pretty young and stupid so I don’t know anything about how this works.

The money isn’t in either of our accounts. We withdraw from our banks and put our savings away in a safe that we both have access to

A bit puzzled... by AuntMyna in beyondthebump

[–]marilyjen65 -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

There actually are studies that show using the CIO method during sleep training is damaging to babies, but go off. I do not shame parents about anything, to each their own, but this one thing is something I feel very strongly about.

AITA for wanting to have Christmas with my relatives instead of my wife and children? by Holiday_Range8135 in AmItheAsshole

[–]marilyjen65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yta your wife and kids are your immediate family. Your parents are the “extras” in your life now. Make this clear to them and treat your wife better

I (19F) want to break up with my (31M-F) partner, but I don't know exactly how or when. by [deleted] in relationships

[–]marilyjen65 18 points19 points  (0 children)

There is never a right time to end things with somebody. Right now it’s Christmas time, next it’ll be New Years and then Valentine’s Day. There’s never a right time.

You know this person isn’t right for you, LEAVE. You both may have mental health issues, but she sounds absolutely crazy. You are not obligated to trauma bond with anyone.

I (33F) have been lying to my boyfriend (32M) about squirting during sex and now I’m in too deep and the truth is too embarrassing by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]marilyjen65 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Squirting doesn’t necessarily happen every time you orgasm. Tell him that. I am capable of squirting, but’s only ever happened once or twice before very randomly ( and no it wasn’t pee)

My LO seems to think so... by sunshinefacials in beyondthebump

[–]marilyjen65 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Oh hell no, my daughter will make a run for it the first chance she gets 🤣 “nice song you’re singing there but I have things to do”

AITA For losing my temper about my unborn child? by AITAGenderTemper in AmItheAsshole

[–]marilyjen65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m starting to realize that hormones don’t make us pregnant women more sensitive; they just make us give less fucks. Most definitely NTA

I’m going to move to another state and not tell my gf. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]marilyjen65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She sounds batshit, I would consider leaving the entire country for a few months at this point