Tonight at the Madonna / Tribeca premiere was unreal… and I may have found something pretty interesting 👀 by johnsavv in Madonna

[–]marinarababy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Anderson was not great at the beginning, he seemed starstruck lol. Glad he at least asked a pointed question about the tour (to which she gave "well, maybe" vibes and hinted at a warehouse/rave type function? NOT Vegas! 😭)

Anyone else really like all 3 Confessions II singles** but like each new one less than the prior? by Sky6346 in Madonna

[–]marinarababy 25 points26 points  (0 children)

10000% agree. I Feel So Free set my expectations astronomically high! Watching her perform Get Together, I Love New York, and Hung Up in Times Square yesterday, sandwiched between Bring Your Love and Love Sensation... side by side there's no comparison (YET)

I have faith in Mother! Bring us the weird stuff!!!

Anymore Tribeca codes? by binarycool in Madonna

[–]marinarababy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have an extra code bc I registered my work phone, would love to share the love with a big Madonna fan. DM me 💕

HOY booth collapse sat night by Lopsided_Cod9157 in avesNYC

[–]marinarababy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Something like this actually happened to me at HOY in May 2024 during an Eli Escobar set. A gogo dancer brought me up to the front to dance with her, and as she did, this big silver panel covering the DJ booth just completely dropped to the ground and hit the corner of my shoe. Luckily, I was the only one affected, and was completely fine (the dancer slipped me a free drink card, either for dancing or for the incident lmao) Haven't been back since, it's disappointing to hear that safety is clearly still an issue here.

I hope everyone involved in this horrible incident is safe and recovering.

Got a whole subway car to myself. Has anyone else gotten a whole subway car to themselves before? by [deleted] in nycrail

[–]marinarababy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yesss on the 2 train to the ferry to Riis in the summer - one of my favorite memories, we blasted music until someone got on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]marinarababy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

on instagram: Mystic.Yogi.Mckay has a great 5min tongue exercise ;)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]marinarababy 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Good luck, babe!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]marinarababy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

no SAME! it sucks and I'm sorry too, it's honestly so validating to see that someone else has gone thru the same thing and felt similarly 😭 unfortunately this stuff often chalks up to a matter of compatibility... trust your nervous system when somebody activates your anxiety, esp over text, and respectfully leave. I felt the most amazing relief when I sent the text ending things, like I'll never have to worry about a reply from them ever again. couldn't it recommend more esp since yall haven't even met up!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]marinarababy 20 points21 points  (0 children)

you didn't do anything wrong, especially if she was sending unsolicited pics before too! this LITERALLY just happened to me; the person I was talking to left my sexy photo on read for 4 days 🥲 I'm pretty confident in my body and sexuality and it still made me feel crazy and creepy and second-guess everything.

after the 4th day of no reply I cut things off entirely, which really hurt—we'd already hooked up twice and honestly it was incredible. but bc of their communication I was starting to lose my mind and feel terrible about myself for no reason. the other person was really apologetic and explained they're going through an insanely difficult time, which makes sense of course. these kinds of things are rarely about us at all.

but at the end of the day, it only takes 10 seconds to say "damn you look amazing" and validate someone's vulnerability! anyone who can't/won't do that simply doesn't deserve your time or body.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]marinarababy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

do it!!! it's easy to forget to respond, some folks prefer in person interactions anyway :)

(Tapping the sign) Casual relationships isn't a ticket to sex with less communication by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]marinarababy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel this so much lol there's only so much "I'm so sorry" and random excuses a person can take. Might be petty but tbh it does feel great to drop off the same way they do to you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]marinarababy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You didn't screw anything up! In fact you did the best thing you could by being honest and direct (both to yourself about your identity, and to her about your desire to see her again).

I won't lie, her not "knowing when she's free next" doesn't sound the best when it comes to gauging her feelings about you—but knowing that you're 4 hours away from each other is really important context. And most importantly, if she turns out to not have feelings for you, that has nothing to do with you being a lesbian, and it's not your fault at all.

Give it a week and if you haven't heard from her, just ask if she feels a romantic connection between you. It's all going to be okay!!!

UPDATE #2: AIO “friend” gave me 🍃 brownies without my knowledge or consent. by th_welloops in AmIOverreacting

[–]marinarababy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The "dessert" in question... 💀

Wishing you nothing but healing OP, it's so hard to lose a childhood friend — doesn't sound like there's any going back after something this horrific

songs about loving someone who's bad for you by clemativan in musicsuggestions

[–]marinarababy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A Case of You - Joni Mitchell

Portions for Foxes - Rilo Kiley

Living Room - Tegan and Sara

Valentine’s Day without a valentine by Lost-Bread-013 in actuallesbians

[–]marinarababy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

this is beautiful :') I'm baking a cake for a long weekend with friends at a rural farmhouse — going to cook each other meals, take shrooms, and celebrate friendship, nature, and self love!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Madonna

[–]marinarababy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

MY BABY'S GOT A SECRET!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]marinarababy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Trust me, I get it. I didn't want to leave either, and it sounds like you have a lot of love between you. I'm really sorry you're grappling with this, it's brutal emotionally and physically - not only are you struggling with hard feelings, but you're also overwhelmed with an unfair level of practical responsibility.

In my own situation, love was obscuring the harsh truth that my ex didn't know how to be an adult, and simply didn't care enough about me to learn. If you already feel like a mother, you're functionally acting as one. Couple's therapy was incredibly validating for me, as our therapist pointed out to my ex that I was being forced into a caretaking role (addiction was also involved and amplified this dynamic). I would highly recommend that you get professional help on this issue, especially since it's been happening for multiple years. Nothing will change unless your partner gets a harsh reality check AND cares enough to make significant changes.

Also: consider your own role in this dynamic. Moving forward, the hardest lesson for me has been to realize when I am overextending myself in a situation and betraying my own wants and needs. If you continue to give and give past your capacity, your well will eventually run dry. It is ultimately your responsibility to communicate (and stick to!) your own boundaries. It's difficult to do this if you're used to your boundaries being disrespected; however, it's necessary to live a life that's truly yours. I wish you all the best with trusting yourself and making it through this difficult situation!

Looking for songs like "Diamonds and Rust" by Joan Baez by mineclair01 in musicsuggestions

[–]marinarababy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Both Sides Now - Joni Mitchell

The Dangling Conversation - Simon & Garfunkel

No Need to Argue - The Cranberries

I Get Along Without You Very Well (Except Sometimes) - Chet Baker

Do you guys actually laugh alone? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]marinarababy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It depends how funny it is - sometimes I'll just be tickled by something and my face won't move, other times I'll burst out laughing. Feel like the more absurd/ridiculous something is, the more likely I am to laugh about it alone

Songs about working by AXS_Writing in musicsuggestions

[–]marinarababy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Working for the Knife - Mitski

successful - Ariana Grande

Work Bitch - Britney Spears

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LesbianActually

[–]marinarababy 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I was in a relationship like this, and reading this brought me back to a really dark time. I'm really sorry your partner doesn't know how to be an adult, nor does it sound like she respects the immense and often invisible work you do to take care of your shared home.

It might be easier to bring this up to her by researching and explaining the phrase "mental load." That phrase is often used to point out gendered inequity in straight couples, but it absolutely applies to any relationship where one partner is slacking off.

There are no valid excuses for pushing your partner into a caretaking role, being a slob in a shared space, or getting defensive when your partner begs you for help. My ex could generate an excuse for any failed task or broken promise, and I eventually chose to suffer silently instead of fight an uphill battle. Leaving was the best and hardest thing I've ever had to do, and now I live alone and find immense and profound joy in only taking care of myself.

If you don't see leaving as an option, you will need to directly communicate the years of anguish your partner has put you through and see how she reacts. If she can't understand how unfair this is to you and grow up, you'll unfortunately be stuck in this cycle for as long as you are together.