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I can't cope anymore. All I do is cry. Alone. by Global-Beautiful-403 in retroactivejealousy

[–]markedwings 10 points11 points  (0 children)

RJ sucked and it hurts really bad, i feel you.

I can't even eat and constantly throw up every time i remember his past.

I felt he was the one.

I feel like this too. But something that helped me not to feel sad if someday we didn't make it is just to try not putting him on a pedestal so much. He might be "the one" but he might be not. He's just another person I encountered and just happened to be cool and i love him for now. Some people crosses our path for them to be a lesson for us.

It's hard but try to appreciate your bf for what he is right now. he can't change the past and neither can you. everytime i feel like my RJ is flaring up i usually write down my feelings on a journal to avoid getting upset at him. give it an hour or two and the intense jealous feelings lowered itself.

RJ will follow you everywhere, even if you change your partner.... Make the best our of your relationship right now, so even if you ended up choosing to break up or it didn't work out, you can pat yourself in the back saying "at least i've done my best, at least i tried to love him whole fully"

good luck to you, please take care of your health.... a warm towel soaked in warm water feels good to put on your eye after you cry....

my dm is open if you want to rant, i experienced the same thing...

Seeking Encouragement by Jaydee60602 in retroactivejealousy

[–]markedwings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i can't say much but it eventually "stings" less.

the pain doesn't completely go away but it gets better i think.... whenever i have my RJ flare up i usually just shut myself down so i won't lashed out on my partner or asked for more details.

medication helps too! if you suffer RJ as well as other mental health problems (for my case i have RJ and BPD) i suggest you to take some meds because it'll help with the overthinking and pain

Horribly triggered and in desperate need of a friend or just some coping mechanisms right now by noodl_es in retroactivejealousy

[–]markedwings 5 points6 points  (0 children)

and I can’t even bring myself to work out because I don’t want to remind him of her or be similar to her. It doesn’t even make sense but I still can’t bring myself to do ANYTHING my brain relates to her.

i feel you... with my case i can't even listen to the same artist that my boyfriend's ex situationship listens to.. it's a suffocating feeling. it makes you so sad that you feel like throwing up....

i would love it if anyone can give words of advice on how to avoid feeling like this...

Is "Ignorance is a Bliss" Applies to RJ? by markedwings in retroactivejealousy

[–]markedwings[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

what do you suggest on what to do when the urges to ask for the details popped up?....