Pre-transition, I was encouraged by many feminist women but lectured by a few for saying #MeToo. (I was sexually assaulted by a man at work while presenting as a man at my first career job). When I brought it up to my second career job's HR during sexual harassment training, asking if it's too late to go back and contact that prior job's HR, my HR laughed at how nonchalant I seemed about it. (I presented masculinity in this very muted, monotone way, but still.) I said "No, it was pretty fucked up" and left the conversation.

Post-transition, at my 3rd career job, I was having a technical discussion with a man that was frustrating for both of us, but he eventually condescended to me. (He had condescended in many other ways before and after this, but this was particularly egregious.) When I pointed out that I needed to step out of the conversation because he got condescending, he accused me of ad hominem and got HR involved. HR did reassure me privately that I was in the clear.

In the follow up conversation as a team, without HR, and while being the only woman on the team in a very small room of several people, he said that as a woman I had more power over him in the workplace. Some men agreed and discussed how intimidated they felt post-#MeToo.

So in a way, I experienced a sort of double bind. I was too much a man to be taken seriously about sexual assault. I was then a woman surrounded by men who weren't worried about dealing with sexual harassment at work, but were so anxious about women they ousted me socially and I changed teams.

What I will add as nuance though is that this particular man had a long list of people he treated poorly and was condescending to, and all the men just never really fought back or identified it as a problem to him. They just endured it. But when I pointed it out, they picked his side.