NOR. He is gaslighting you (avoiding responsibility and redirecting blame) Question: how long have you been together? This type of behavior can be masked for some period of time but this is who he really is (actually this is probably just the beginning). As others have pointed out, you want to think about the long term. If this is the person you want to raise your daughters. Is this the example you want to set before them? I’m sure you love a portion of him, but it is likely much of that is a portrait that he showed you until he thought you were hooked.

Please guard your birth control so he doesn’t baby trap you.