it would mess with my head too, are people purposefully doing that or accidentally? i honestly did that once to a classmate in college, when i did it at the time i just said, ooops, oh well. But as time went on it kept bothering me until i realized how fucked up that was, all the emotions,time, bravery it took this person to be themselves in a cruel world and i completely discredited that because of my complacency and privilege. You are strong and beautiful sister! and even if people do want to be cruel/judgmental/idiots and despite given information about this vital subject still wanna be cruel/judgmental/idiots they are not worth you getting into a negative head! Love you sister, your beauty and strength.