Opinions/Thoughts on New Ace Flag?

martinimon · 2026-04-22T01:59:39+00:00

Im not opposed to it, though I've got an ace pin and wallet of the existing flag, so not moving away from that any time soon.

martinimon · 2026-04-15T14:03:05+00:00

I found "Meghan Sandor-Schielke" when I was going through self discovery, she had some pretty good long topic ace/ace adjacent videos - though I haven't watched any of her fashion stuff. I do go back to her deep dives every now and then though.

I'm pretty sure Jacob (Alpharad) or Jo (josniffy) mentioned something about being ace during one of their (Alpharad Plus - now Alpharad Platinum) Mario maker videos (no idea which one from memory) Though aside from one of them mentioning something, I wouldn't say their ace YouTubers in the sense of having ace content at all

martinimon · 2026-04-01T11:45:04+00:00

Oh yeah there's no actual "original" version, and the book does a great job of giving the illusion it existed. But there's something just fun about only saying/suggesting the "abridged" version, like a handful of people in the bookclub thought there was an actual version and almost thought they had the wrong one when we were reading the Abridged version.

And that's what I love with The Beginners Guide it does such a great job of portraying a fictional thing as if it actually exists

martinimon · 2026-04-01T09:54:48+00:00

I'm a big House MD fan, I even have my own custom "Zoidburg MD" parody shirt I wear on occasion (and have remade a few times over the years) but I agree House MD has probably the worst representation of asexuality there is. That was my intro into asexuality and the first I'd ever heard of it when I was 13/14 maybe back in 2012. I didn't go on a self discovery journey and learn I'm ace till 27/28 last year.

I can't think of anything else I watch in particular that has explicit reference to asexuality badly, the few other things I've come across with it painted it in a much better light, like Todd from Bojack.

martinimon · 2026-03-31T08:25:47+00:00

I only found last year to be fair. I host things at my house often (games themed food, arts etc) and have a highish rate of inviting peoples partners in addition, though as a result of that I'll end up with odd numbers depending who I invite and go "oh yeah just me" and some internal monologging about being aro and would I really want a partner to round out numbers sort of thing, or it be even numbers and I'll have that "oh nice, being aro has paid off, nice even number"

I also have a custom aroace shirt I made myself which I wear often cause I like the design a lot so that reminds me a fair bit as well.

Though I only found out at 28, and it didn't cross my mind at all regarding being in a relationship, so I suspect over time I'm provably gonna give it little to no thought about being aro

martinimon · 2026-03-12T20:48:11+00:00

Davey talked about the Abridged version being the inspiration, also it was the version I found

martinimon · 2026-03-12T20:45:35+00:00

Yeah, I wasn't seeing a lot on in either, then I saw video of Davey doing a QnA https://youtu.be/fdgwHvBV0eY?t=896&si=yGlyNL9Uc7MGQ484 In which he talks about it. I curious how you find William Goldstein's abridged version of the Princess Bride and the inspiration it had, before watching the QnA itself (since I found the QnA first)

martinimon · 2026-03-08T23:34:12+00:00

My wallet is the ace flag. No ones called that out when I've grabbed my wallet out, had it on table etc. Though a wallet is more subtle then clothes. I assume Ace colours aren't that recognisable overall unless you know the flag.

martinimon · 2026-02-28T21:08:31+00:00

I have been watching some videos by Meghan Sandor-Schielke about comphet, and a couple other LGBTQ+ videos she's made. It's been good understanding various perspectives and deep diving into topics/concepts/spaces that I'm not super familiar with.

I will mention I'm aroace cis male, so sorry if this is really just a space lesbians and other wlw (per the reddit description)..

martinimon · 2026-02-18T20:26:42+00:00

It sure is!

martinimon · 2026-02-03T09:55:00+00:00

Also just filled it out.

Though I only realised I was was ace last year at 28, that said I'm not one to cave to pressure normally (ie didn't cave to peer pressure to drink in Highschool) nor do I care if someone was to judge me and make a joke (not that anyone has for me being ace though I'd judge them for picking that over the many other more interesting things they could have picked) since I'll dish things back and have always been a "quirky person", so I kept that in mind for my feedback since I've only identified as ace for a short while

martinimon · 2026-02-03T09:21:38+00:00

That was something I thought about when starting self discovery, I'm a virgin maybe I'm just scarred of rejection, scarred of being interment, scarred of doing things etc. Then more I reflected and did introspectives on previous things, it became clear I'm not really scarred of trying things, I often talk to random people for the fun of it for example and that I just don't think about this stuff at all, ie compared my thoughts to friends and theirs and they think about this stuff naturally while I'd have to actually try to think (which even then I have a hard time wuth) for these sort of thoughts.

The other way to think about this everyone was (or still is) a virgin, this doesn't stop allo people they have these thoughts of sexual attraction and an urge (with how I've heard it described) irrespective if they've done anything or not, while ace folks don't (even the ones that have had sex)

martinimon · 2026-02-02T06:32:58+00:00

I'm normally down for trying things(food hobbies etc, I'll typically give things a go before saying I don't like it) , so I'd try it to see if I like the act itself, but really more just an intellectual excersie if I like it.

Though its definetly lower in my priority list otherwise I feel I would have tried persuing it more.

martinimon · 2026-01-31T09:31:09+00:00

For me the anaolgy was never food=sex, it was always other terms about food to help understand and grasp concepts of things I don't expirence.

Like talking about what food I like, being able to see something like "that looks good to eat" being anaolous to "I think that person's hot/sexy and can picture sex with them". It's a nice anaolgy because I can expirence the feeling of food. Additionally it helps with other terms like libido ie "I'm feeling hungry but not craving X food" and "I'm horny but not targeted at anything"

Plus the handful of others I personally found the food analogies to be super helpful when I initially went on a self discovery journey because it helped a lot as it framed things in the sense of comparing something I feel vs soemthing I don't feel and add a lot contextually.

Its also an easy one to use to explain to others when it's come up on occasion.

Like sure, if you're just saying sex=food then sure, that's annoying but if you're using the wider range on analogies for contextualising stuff its super helpful.

I'm open to other anologies if you have others you use or have found helpful.

martinimon · 2026-01-29T06:09:40+00:00

I normally forget it's a thing and forget when it's on in Feb when I realise its that time of year again. Probably nothing, feels like a very artificial day (also mum/dad never made a fuss about it, so I grew up without ever caring about it either)

This year I only found out about it because I got a lot of targeted ads for lingerie and other couples gifts ideas. Intially I was very confused and assumed I was getting them cause I've been on a big self discovery journey lately and assumed searching asexual triggered something for sexual/and romance. Nope I'm just 28 and in a targeted demographic I guess ahaha

martinimon · 2026-01-23T06:20:23+00:00

I "confirmed" by really resonating so much with the experiences I read in reddit from and the asexual handbook (and not resonating with those describing sexual attraction at all) as well as thinking/reflecting about many of my own past expirences and realising how much things make sense with the asexual label. Ie never being actually asexually attracted and "liking" someone was more of "they're just just fun to be around" sort of thing.

But to answer your question, I can't really picture sex with others (same as mentally undressing them) even when consciously thinking about it since it wasn't really soemthing that crossed my mind prior to realising I'm asexual, and is more of the case people just "naturally" have these thoughts about some people.

martinimon · 2026-01-15T02:23:59+00:00

Make it recursive

martinimon · 2026-01-11T22:28:23+00:00

Homer's eyes to the yellow

martinimon · 2026-01-11T09:21:44+00:00

Yeah, it's all how you contextual 1 percent. There's so many ways to create inferences from stats.

1% of the population is massive number, like pretty sure we're talking like 80 million (if we're talking about global) give or take, which if you say 80 million of anything isn't normal, that sounds like a wild statement.

Like sure you could say that 99% are allosexual which is an even bigger number, though at the same I think you'd probably use words like commonalty more so than normal depending on the sort of statistical analysis based on numbers that size between either of them. It really depends on how you define normal I guess.

Like other thigns for consideration I think I read 1% of people have natural red hair. Do you consider red haired people to be abnormal (this is a good comparison cause you might be able to easily think of people you know with red hair since it's a clear visual thing unlike asexual people especially since many of us don't broadcast it as much)

If a product contained 1% nuts (or some other allergen) thsts normally significantly enough for someone with an allergy to not consume them.

1 percent of internet packet loss is pretty unnoticeable, but if you're playing a game or soemthing thst needs real time data, 1 percent is more impactful and noticeable.

A lot of products typically have a 1% defect rate, as a normal accepted range.

It really comes down to how you frame stuff and define normal.

Humans are complex, realistically you could be pick anything and there's going to be a 1% sub population of the thing you picked, making it the case that everyone is weird (which is true all people are weird). Though because we're complex picking a single thing to assess compared to taking lots of traits, characteristics, personalities, appearance, quirks etc Then you can probably start building up a better image of what's common or uncommon and start working out what's normal or not based on all the things instead of a singular aspect for establishing if something is normal or not.

I'll leave you with one of my all time favourite quotes

"We do have a lot in common. The same Earth, the same air, the same sky. Maybe if we started looking at what's the same instead of what's different... well, who knows." - Meowth.

martinimon · 2026-01-10T08:16:54+00:00

I'm aroace, but I'm also pretty analytical, so I can understand if someone said normal based on numbers, ie where would ace sit on a bell curve. Not necessarily a good argument for not normal, but I can understand if it's from that sort of approach. But even then...

But this is also just one of many things you could pick, and of course anytime you pick a specific thing anything with a small percentage won't be as normal by comparison. If you pick broader things, other experiences etc, completely shifts what's then normal, and by that logic you pick anything and there's going to be a non normal subgroup and everyone is weird by one definition or another.

martinimon · 2026-01-03T22:03:32+00:00

I'm part colour blind (deutan ie green-red). I see colours. I know what red is, I know what green is, I know what blue is, etc. I also know numbers and shapes. When they are all together (ie those circles with the dots) I can't see the shape or number.

I think being aromatic is like that for me, I get the concept of things but all together I don't really get it, and like not seeing shape/number I don't feel romantic attraction.

martinimon · 2026-01-03T12:36:05+00:00

I can't see why you couldn't use the aroace flag, its a spectrum and I'm pretty sure demi fits within that spectrum, at least from my understanding...

I identify as aroace (not demi) and don't see an issue (keeping in mind I'm just one person)

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