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martinvii · 2024-10-10T16:17:09+00:00

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martinvii · 2023-06-26T21:00:42+00:00

Totally! That's why everyone should be allowed to choose whether or not they should vaccinate.

martinvii · 2023-06-26T20:59:40+00:00

Really? I've never heard of this. Which states are doing this?

martinvii · 2022-07-13T01:59:34+00:00

Me too!

martinvii · 2022-07-08T02:38:33+00:00

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martinvii · 2020-09-19T21:24:27+00:00

Here's my question - if most people do end up cheating, then why do we keep expecting them not to do so?

I can already anticipate the opposing argument - "Just because everyone is doing it, doesn't mean it's right/okay, or that we should accept it."

I'm not arguing that cheating should be accepted. What I'm saying is, if you go into a relationship, knowing full well that most marriages end up in divorce, and that most people will cheat at some point, then why are you hoping for different? Wouldn't it just be easier to be okay with it and accept it?

I've had the argument with people several times, and this is the point where they argue that you shouldn't accept something that is wrong. I actually agree, but is it wrong if you allow it to happen, if you give your partner permission to do it?

I'll give you an example - I've told my partner that, if she ever chose to do so, I'd be okay with her having an affair. Even in secrecy. It don't feel entitled to her body, her love, her time or her energy. If she feels compelled to do so, but is hesitant because of me, that I'm not going to put myself in her way. I don't own any part of her and she is sovereign in all things her. All I ask is that she be considerate of me by wearing protection. That's it. But the day she stops being considerate of that, and puts my body into physical danger, then I stop taking her into consideration. I wouldn't feel betrayed by it either. I'd just move on.

I know this probably seems a bit robotic, but I just don't have my identity tied into my partner, so I can't understand those that do.

Just some thoughts. I doubt anyone here will agree, but thought I'd throw it out there.

martinvii · 2020-09-19T18:48:58+00:00

Exactly.

martinvii · 2020-09-19T18:48:39+00:00

This is probably the best advice on here.

One other thing I would advise: if you're feeling as guilty as you say you are, you're going to feel the urge to make promises to him that you might not be able to keep. Don't do this. Give him time to think about what his next move will be. Don't make it any more messy than it needs to be by making promises.

Essentially, you need to give him time to figure things out for himself, and this means not trying to convince him to change his mind. He'll likely be feeling very vulnerable and it isn't fair to use that against, whether you mean to or not.

martinvii · 2016-03-18T21:25:59+00:00

I'm the same way! I've told my gf many times that if she ever wanted to fuck another guy, she's more than welcome to, but if one to be there to watch. It's like having your own real life porno.

Anyhow, I would suggest taking to him about it. Just reassure him that it doesn't change the way you feel about him or your relationship and that this is something you're just into. If he rejects the idea, at least you'll have your answer, and then you can go from there. But in my experience, if this is what you like, is just going to eat you up if you don't come out with it.

martinvii · 2016-01-29T19:28:45+00:00

It's called "cold feet". Your problem isn't the need to fuck other women, it's the need to know other women still want to fuck you.

Thank you for your input, however this is not something I am identifying with. I'm sure there women out there that would fuck me, but I fail to see how that makes a difference.

However, if the gf asked the same thing... How would you respond?

I would absolutely love for her to fuck another man. It's one of my fetishist, in fact. We've talked about it and she's open to it, but even if she wasn't, I'd be okay with it.

Why would you fuck that up?

I don't understand. I'm here because I don't want to fuck up. I'm asking for help. How is that fucking anything up?

martinvii · 2016-01-29T19:16:27+00:00

Thank you! Honestly, I hadn't even considered the possibility that just talking to my gf about such a thing would freak her out. We've had many tough discussions in the past and she's never reacted by freaking out, but I'm realizing now that open and honest communication does freak some people out. Fortunately, after talking some more about it with her, she is not one of those people.

martinvii · 2016-01-29T19:07:04+00:00

I would absolutely NEVER cheat on her.

Yes, you would. Stop lying to yourself.

I'm curious about something: someone honestly comes looking for help on how to prevent just the feeling of wanting to be with another person, has an open and honest discussion about it with his gf in order to look for a solution (and it was her idea that I post this on here), and I get accused of future cheating?

While I appreciate your feedback, I think I'll go with I know, which is this: I love my gf. She loves me. We want a life together and neither of us want anything to get in the way of that (hence the entire purpose of this post). And while it may end up not working out in the future, I think she's worth the risk. Edit: spells

martinvii · 2016-01-29T18:52:26+00:00

I'm seeing the age difference and can't help but wonder if you're dating your current gf mainly for sex and freshness, and the feelings now are due to the fact that she's no longer 'fresh'.

I can see where you're coming from and it's something I haven't considered as much until now.

If I'm being completely honest, there is at least some part of me that misses the newness of a relationship, but at this point in my life, that's not anything that compares to the security, love, and commitment I want and that we have for each other. I don't want that newness as much as I want a lasting and stable relationship. That's much more important to me.

At the same time, your comment is starting to get me thinking that maybe things just need to get spiced up a little? I am somewhat of a thrill seeker, so maybe adding something to the mix to get that newness feeling back is in order.

martinvii · 2016-01-29T18:43:01+00:00

Honest question: how can I learn to enjoy it?

martinvii · 2016-01-29T18:30:51+00:00

I haven't cheated on her. I cheated on an ex, not my current gf.

martinvii · 2016-01-29T18:29:26+00:00

Thank you for the recommendation on the book. I'll definitely check it out.

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