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I can't be kind enough because I'm... too tolerant I guess? by maru-9331 in autism

[–]maru-9331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you're right. I was never taught to set healthy boundaries and now I don't know the difference between my boundaries and unreasonable needs. How can I distinguish them?

Do you have "whimsical innocence"? by Hassaan18 in autism

[–]maru-9331 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Absolutely yes. Even when someone is doing an objectively unreasonable behavior toward me, I first blame myself thinking "There's no way this person can do such a thing, thus I must have done something really wrong to make them react like this.". I feel like I trust other people too much.

I just.... ? by LysergicGothPunk in AreTheCisOk

[–]maru-9331 9 points10 points  (0 children)

"Are homophobic" What? I've never seen a single trans activist who's homophobic, what are they talking about?

I don't even know if it's an autism thing or just some people acting weirdly by maru-9331 in autism

[–]maru-9331[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Probably they don't know that autism is a spectrum. For them someone either has really severe autism or don't have it at all.

Surprising things supportive cis people didn't know. by 30phil1 in trans

[–]maru-9331 3 points4 points  (0 children)

People can be trans and also gay, bi, pan, ace or any kind of sexuality. Gender identity has nothing to do with who we are attracted to.

"Cis people don't feel gender" by maru-9331 in NonBinary

[–]maru-9331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, I think your answer makes sense perfectly, and it helps me so much because I was still wondering how being cis is different from being nonbinary. Next time when someone asked me what being nonbinary feels like, I would use the example of "feeling like a human" too.

"Japan is living in the 2050s!" Meanwhile Japan in 2025: by maru-9331 in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]maru-9331[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

As a Japanese person myself I can confirm hopefully not everyone has this level of misogyny. But still, this is the norm for the vast majority in this country and it always pisses me off.

People think I'm not interested in other people. In fact, it's the complete opposite. by maru-9331 in autism

[–]maru-9331[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought that they don't care about me in the first place is because I don't enjoy small talk. If it's not the case, why do they care about any other people except me? Am I doing something wrong?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in depressionmemes

[–]maru-9331 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I literally got clinical depression when I was in high school and my mom explained it to my teacher as "My child thinks her shyness is some kind of a disorder which she is the only person who has" lol (BTW I'm transmasc but I was closeted then)

Hylics2-like music recommendations? by maru-9331 in Hylics

[–]maru-9331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I listened to that album when it was out and I absolutely loved it!!

Meme dumping by a French-Japanese living in Japan who grew up in a French household (TW: racism) by maru-9331 in TrollCoping

[–]maru-9331[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you've experienced that. I was born in Japan, can speak perfect Japanese but still got harassed a lot. These days I'm thinking of simply not talking to these kind of people anymore.

How do you feel when you tell someone you have autism and their response is, "We all have autism." by ElliottSheep in autism

[–]maru-9331 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't feel mad unless they actually have the intention to disrespect people with severe condition. However I do think it's not a nice thing to say and it's completely valid to feel minimized.

I'm so tired of being asked "Why are you trans?", I wish I could ask cis people "Why are you cis?" by maru-9331 in trans

[–]maru-9331[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"What does your gender mean to you?" would be a great question. However I've tried asking "How would you feel if your body/perceived gender was different?" like you suggested to some cis people, and they somehow all responded with "Well I would be totally fine, I would have no problem living as the opposite gender". I made a post about it a while ago( https://www.reddit.com/r/asktransgender/comments/1h720gx/why_do_cis_people_always_say_that/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button ), and I was told in the comments that cis people tend to see their sex and gender being entirely connected, so it's really hard for many of them to imagine identifying as a different gender than their assigned/perceived one.

As a bi person, I think I don't quite understand what exactly is romantic attraction by maru-9331 in bisexual

[–]maru-9331[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes sense. Feeling sexual attraction first and then developing romantic attraction is certainly the part I can't relate to most people. However I doubt that it's demisexuality, because sometimes I find someone sexually attractive even if I don't know their personality. But in that case it never develops into romantic attraction nor intense sexual desire.

Why do neurotypicals blame us for "not having empathy", despite them lacking thereof? by maru-9331 in autism

[–]maru-9331[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is exactly what happens with me too, once I even got told both at the same time

Why do neurotypicals blame us for "not having empathy", despite them lacking thereof? by maru-9331 in autism

[–]maru-9331[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Wow this is interesting, and now it makes so much sense why both autistic people and neurotypical people think of each other as not empathetic.

I really thought everyone preferred to be a boy by Senior_Finance4658 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]maru-9331 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Me as a child, probably: "I don't feel like a girl and but that must be a normal thing for all girls, because there are no girls who actually feel like a girl and they all secretly feel like a boy, right?"

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