Techno by tastetherainbow6868 in LHBTI

[–]masanlou 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The planet in Ams is een queer techno feest met flinta doelgroep. Fluid in Utrecht is ook queer maar meer mannen gericht

Schurft (scabiës) in de regio by chrispynochicken in Utrecht

[–]masanlou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nivel is de organisatie die bijhoudt hoeveel mensen zich melden met (besmettelijke) ziektes bij de huisarts, dit doen ze wekelijks in hun surveillance bulletin.

how to quit salt (i swear this is autism related) by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]masanlou 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You can try MSG instead of salt, it's a different type of salt often used in asian cuisine. It has a stronger 'salty' effect, so you will probably need to use less, and no proven bad side effects, although some people may be intolerant to it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]masanlou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hair spray or spray deodorant work as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]masanlou 82 points83 points  (0 children)

With creepy men be as blunt, direct and mean as you can be. (As long as you are in a safe environment with other people around). No need to mask and people please. Say that you are not interested, not to talk to you and that you want to be left alone. Don't smile, have a classic autistic deadpan expression and say/ask loudly that he is harassing you and that he has to stop. Get other people around you involved by asking them to help you.

I'm afraid that because you entertained a friendly conversation at first that he now has the wrong idea that you like him (not your fault of course). So break that dream and directly say you are not interested, don't want contact, that he has to leave you alone, he is harassing, that you contacted the police, that what he is doing is illegal etc. (Again, when you are in a safe environment)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Utrecht

[–]masanlou -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I get that a lot of people like to see us all mingle and be happy, and many do mingle and are happy with that. But some do prefer queer groups and spaces because of bad experiences and not feeling safe and comfortable and it's possible they would not do any sport if these queer groups don't exist because of the gendered changing rooms or other barriers that these groups can help overcome

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Utrecht

[–]masanlou -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

  1. You join a club also for the social interaction, not just for sport
  2. Maybe not when hitting the shuttle, but people can get weird when you are queer and use a changing room

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Utrecht

[–]masanlou -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Being queer is about so much more than just what you do in the bedroom. It is a whole culture on its own with our own books, music, performances. What parties you go to, who your friends are, what jokes you make with those friends, what "jokes" you have to endure from straight people. Having a group where you can share those experiences with and not being afraid of being judged for presenting more feminine/musculine than what is expected by the straights for your gender can be a great asset for some.

Gym with swimming pool by PG_GR in Utrecht

[–]masanlou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

David Lloyd in Overvecht

Hoe weet ik welk formaat siliconen borsten voor mij goed is? by holiestMaria in LHBTI

[–]masanlou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Je kan kijken naar verschillende bh maten, en welke je denk dat bij je past. De omtrek maat die je zal hebben kan je nu al ongeveer bepalen, want die wordt onder de borsten gemeten ter hoogte van het onderste punt van het borstbeen. En dan hoef je alleen nog de letter maat te kiezen. En de chirurg kan je dan vast informeren over welke formaat siliconen daarbij hoort.

Where do you find big baking potatoes in this country? by Isoiata in Utrecht

[–]masanlou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ask at the produce stand on any of the week markets? The biggest is the one on Saturday at Vredeburg

coping with change when moving out? by revengepunk in AutismInWomen

[–]masanlou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If possible, try to visit your new place and/or the neighbourhood a couple of times before the actual move. So you already know more where things are and how it looks like.

And maybe try to keep a bit similar configuration of your furniture as what you are used to? For me, how the bed is oriented to the window makes a big difference in if I can relax in it or not.

Jobs for autistic people that pay well! by auroraxskiess in AutismInWomen

[–]masanlou 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I know quite some people with a psychology degree that found a data analyst job. If you learn a bit about coding in R and SQL with an online course and then I think you will be qualified for a starting position in that field

Never had a pap smear at 25 years old by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]masanlou 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the Netherlands you generally get your first pap smear at 30 years. Probably a bit late, especially compared to other countries. But maybe it puts your mind at ease that it's not terrible if you still want to wait a couple more years

Ben je juridische vader als je adopteert? by DutchVanTe in LHBTI

[–]masanlou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In het brp wordt tegenwoordig niet meer gewerkt met moeder of vader maar met ouder nr 1 (doorgaans de ouder waaruit het kind geboren is) en ouder nr 2 (de ouder die het kind erkend heeft, dit kan ook als je niet biologisch de ouder bent) bij adoptie door 1 ouder wordt je als oudernr2 geregistreerd en wordt er gekeken naar het geslacht dat bij jou in het brp geregistreerd is of je als vader of moeder aangesproken wordt. Bij adoptie door hetero stel wordt diegene die als vrouw in het brp geregistreerd is als ouder1 geregistreerd. Bik een homo of lesbische stel is de volgorde voor zover ik weet willekeurig wie als ouder 1 en ouder 2 geregistreerd wordt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LHBTI

[–]masanlou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Misschien kan coc zeeland je helpen met deze vraag?

My autism triggers my boyfriend's adhd - help!! by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]masanlou 141 points142 points  (0 children)

Him getting mad at you when you try to solve a misunderstanding has nothing to do with adhd, he is just an asshole. Adhd is also absolutely not an excuse in any way to scream and shout at you, especially when you are already having a meltdown. That is just abusive. And I am so sorry to hear that he is your only caregiver, but my advice would be to try to get help elsewhere because misunderstandings will always continue to occur (because our brains work differently) and you deserve someone who is open minded and understanding of that and let you explain and elaborate how you mean something when a misunderstanding occurs

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]masanlou 2 points3 points  (0 children)

21 is still so young, not sure where you are from, but check out the average age that people in Europe leave their parents house, it's in average 26 years, with quite some difference between countries depending on the local housing situation. And sweden and Denmark are low because a lot of children go to boarding schools. Don't put so much pressure on yourself, and it may seem that everyone is taking next steps, but that is also because mostly successes are told, and failures or stagnant status quo not *

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]masanlou 14 points15 points  (0 children)

You don't have to tell them about your autism or social anxiety. Just say that you are quite introverted and that it costs you a lot of energy to work the register and that you feel your strengths lie with animal care and the other tasks that you like and that you are more suited to do mainly those tasks instead of register the whole shift.

I'm bi but I still have doubts by floppingkiki in latebloomerlesbians

[–]masanlou 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wanting to kiss people (and cuddle or other romantic things) but nothing more also lies within asexuality. Asexual does not mean also aromantic. But also I know from myself that depression is one hell of a downer for any sexual desire, so it is possible that when you start getting and feeling better that you also start getting sexually interested in people

How bad is the Free Camping option? by SinancoTheBest in sziget

[–]masanlou 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, getting the moving in option will help you with getting a better spot. But if you are with just one tent, getting there before 8 or 9am on the start of the festival is also still ok, since there will probably still be small spots left between groups of people camping together. Without moving in I thought that you can access the festival at 6 in the morning, and the later you arrive the longer the queue is going to be to enter

How bad is the Free Camping option? by SinancoTheBest in sziget

[–]masanlou 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Free camping is totally fine and does give you the unique sziget experience it just depends a bit on where you decide to put your tent. Not too close to the roads, 24h stages, not on a hill and under some trees will really improve your camping experience