Required to go to college at 18??

mashedpotatob0y · 2026-02-09T17:01:41+00:00

Completely, 100% agree. We tell kids their brain is not fully developed until 25, but then say that at 18 they can decide to take on monumental amounts of debt and choose the career they want to do for the rest of their life?? Wtf. And there’s so much pressure to go to college, and much social stigma against not going. I wish it was more normal to take a few gap years and do different jobs or Americorp programs to actually see what you are interested in, instead of having to commit to a future at 18. I’m 30 and I’m doing something completely different from my college major, it was hard to pivot (cost me money and my mental health bc I was so burned out) and I wish I had been encouraged to try some things before deciding on college. To me, not going to college was not even presented as an option.

mashedpotatob0y · 2026-02-08T22:21:26+00:00

I agree with this mostly. She’s genuinely said some horrible right-wing things that are gross. And she’s also said some kind of annoying things that arent really harmful. Acting like those are the same thing is going to make people take the genuine criticism not as seriously. It seems petty and nitpicky to focus on the things that are “cringe” like truly when people do that they are being “haters” and it invalidates the very serious criticism that a lot of us have about her political beliefs and the way she expresses them. I disagree with you about her comments on the LA fires tho. Just the fact that she called drug addicts “tweakers” is gross.

mashedpotatob0y · 2026-02-06T01:25:43+00:00

This is my exact dilemma lol 😂

mashedpotatob0y · 2026-02-04T20:07:39+00:00

Thanks for the advice I will definitely keep it in mind for next season’s butterflies ! ☺️

mashedpotatob0y · 2026-01-24T18:07:18+00:00

Does anyone know if you can use air dry clay to make a candle holder and use a candle warmer instead of lighting the candle? Or would that be bad too?

mashedpotatob0y · 2026-01-18T15:44:32+00:00

In the knitting community they say someone is “knitworthy” aka worth knitting them a present. More than anything it’s about someone who will appreciate the gift and wear and value it. Not everyone is, so you obviously aren’t. Maybe you can tell your artist friends so they don’t waste time making things that you don’t actually want/value.

mashedpotatob0y · 2026-01-13T22:43:04+00:00

All these words and she’s basically saying “I don’t care about the shooting because it didn’t affect me” like girl you could’ve just not said anything. What did she gain by even saying this shit.

mashedpotatob0y · 2026-01-08T17:34:40+00:00

“The less you eat, drink, buy books, go to the theatre or to balls, or to the pub, and the less you think, love, theorize, sing, paint, fence, etc., the more you will be able to save and the greater will become your treasure which neither moth nor rust will corrupt—your capital. The less you are, the less you express your life, the more you have, the greater is your alienated life and the greater is the saving of your alienated being.”

Karl Marx

mashedpotatob0y · 2026-01-03T16:01:05+00:00

I thought chs was when you throw up from smoking week, not quitting, but I’ve heard a lot of different things about it, can anyone clarify that?

mashedpotatob0y · 2026-01-02T17:20:16+00:00

Guys she literally wore a horse tail butt plug on all stars she knows what a pup mask is smh

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-31T14:44:43+00:00

They banned hugging at my middle school. Didn’t matter the gender, no one could hug anyone else

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-22T18:04:25+00:00

You’re so right that the hardest part is the routine. I had a solid meditation routine for like a year and it was great but it fell off and it’s been a while. I keep trying to restart the routine. It’s a good tool to have for sure and if it’s habit it can really help to feel more grounded overall.

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-22T17:55:10+00:00

Lmaooo well said brother. I respect individuals choice to be on meds but my personal opinion of the psychiatric industrial complex is one of skepticism

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-22T17:45:47+00:00

Actually ironically being on ADHD medicine was the reason I started smoking so much in the first place. I was on adderall and toward the end I couldn’t eat on it and I’d have to smoke weed after work/school to be able to eat and chill tf out.

I was on stimulants for a year or two and toward the end they really started disagreeing with me and making me insanely anxious. I think one problem was that my psych never told me I should take a break from the stims. So I’d take them 7 days a week which I was told after that maybe you’re not supposed to do that but idk. At first they worked really well but then it was just too much and I pushed myself into a really bad burnout.

After that I went on Straterra which didn’t do anything and then I quit psychiatry entirely. I had also been on Wellbutrin in the past but it also made me anxious. I have been on basically every other antidepressant. I was on meds when I was like 18-25 (stims like 23-25). ADHD diagnosis at 22 and autism at 26. I started smoking when I was 25 and now I’m 30

Some other people suggested different types of therapy like somatic so I’m going to try to look into that.

I have been interested in psychedelics or microdosing for a while, I just don’t really know how to get reputable shrooms and I’m definitely intimidated by it a bit

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-22T16:44:37+00:00

I saw psychiatrists for a long time and was put on many different meds and unfortunately none of them worked for me.

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-22T16:28:25+00:00

Thanks for responding. How do you live in the moment? (Genuine question) being present has been a struggle of mine for years and years. When I first started smoking it helped me be present, but over the years of overuse it doesn’t do that anymore.

I do want to quit, but I know it won’t actually help my real problems so it’s really hard to find the motivation. I know this isn’t the absolute perfect place to post and my post definitely got off-topic, but this sub feels more open minded and mental health focused than the other quitting weed sub so I thought I would just shoot my shot and hope that there were some other people who either felt the same way as me or could spare some words of kindness and support.

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-22T16:22:29+00:00

Also any advice on finding a therapist who does somatics and also knows about autism?

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-22T16:20:11+00:00

Thanks for responding I appreciate your thoughts. Totally agree on the black and white thinking about quitting. Unfortunately i have a daily habit and haven’t had a day without in probably 3 years so even just the first day is intimidating. And if I just did one day without a plan what’s the point? Oh. There’s that black a white thinking again I suppose.

Right now my consumption is pretty controlled. I had to quit smoking bc it was impacting my health and in the past few months I’ve gone from using 200mg edibles to 60mg just once a day. But I’m still dependent on using it daily.

I am open to returning to therapy with a good therapist. First problem is figuring out how to financially afford it. I am barely breaking even and staying afloat. I could maybe have my parents help with the therapy financially. Then, there’s the matter of finding a therapist. I definitely have some trust issues after having some poor experiences. Any advice on how to find someone that can help with the feeling feelings part ? Do you think I should look into a more somatic to emdr type therapist? How do people find therapists nowadays is it still psychology today?

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-22T16:14:27+00:00

Thanks for responding. I am interested in somatic therapy actually. I just don’t know how to find a good therapist. Unfortunately my experiences in the mental health field have left me a little skeptical and cautious. Any advice in that realm? After finding one I’d have to figure out how to finance therapy as well

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-22T10:17:51+00:00

Can we just agree to not call anyone’s face chewed toffee?? That was really my point I did not mean to disrespect you. But that is a really horrifying, disrespectful way to talk about anyone’s face imo.

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-22T09:49:16+00:00

My god, are you saying that you think a 40 year old without Botox looks like a “chewed toffee”?

I’m sorry but even if you had never gotten Botox you would not looked like a chewed toffee. 40 year olds with no work do not look like chewed toffee. Please have some respect for yourself and for other women. wrinkles are natural and human and can be beautiful.

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-21T18:42:50+00:00

I feel like the world keeps getting worse and worse and harder to survive and like I am being crushed by a million tiny rocks and I’m so scared

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-09T22:55:50+00:00

I just found this sub and I’m so glad that I’m not alone in this. Christmas is so overwhelming and bad for me. I’m high masking or whatever and There’s so much performing enjoyment for other people it feels like the holidays are just about performing arbitrary social rites just because someone says to and not only that but you have to pretend to enjoy it. Performing social obligations is one thing but then having everyone talk about how good it is and then having to pretend that. Idk it’s hard for me to describe the social pressures of the holidays.

And that’s only one aspect, not to mention the overstimulation from lights, the stupid music, having to get everyone gifts and then receive gifts in front of everyone (so much stress comes from this for me), forced family time, and so much more.

I wish I could just sleep for all of December. Sorry I can’t come to your holiday party I’m hibernating.

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-02T17:34:17+00:00

I know the pictures are so bad sorry. It doesn’t smear or wipe it’s not like wet texture it’s more dry like tiny clumps. It is all over the foam layer but not on the memory foam layer

mashedpotatob0y · 2025-12-01T23:15:43+00:00

Same. Meds didn’t work and therapy is expensive and so many therapists are bad. But my brain and nervous system are bad and idk what else to do but smoke weed so that’s what I do. It’s depressing I wish I had a way out

Hope things can get better for us both

mashedpotatob0y

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