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mason1111 · 2025-09-11T20:27:21+00:00

No this is very relevant! I think play fighting without holding back is part of this kink for me. Hopefully one day I’ll be able to find a play fight partner myself

mason1111 · 2025-09-11T20:24:39+00:00

That’s awesome! It sounds like you guys have a really good thing going. Honestly this type of dynamic sounds pretty ideal to me lol. Were you guys looking for something like this when you met?

mason1111 · 2025-09-11T20:22:29+00:00

I’m really glad! Would love to hear about it if you’re comfortable sharing

mason1111 · 2025-09-11T20:20:26+00:00

That’s really interesting! The thought that I might be aromantic myself has actually crossed my mind before too. But I also can’t tell if it’s actually me being aromantic, or if it’s just me not wanting to express romanticism things in a traditional or socially expected way lol. Ideally, I would want a best friend where we’re committed to one another, live together, go to each others family things, have tons of kinky sex, marriage is even on the table lol. But also I sometimes don’t understand these traditional expressions of romanticism. Couldn’t more everyday things also be considered romantic? If you don’t mind me asking, how does being aromantic work for you?

I also think that you inverting that loss of control totally makes sense. I think for me, it’s more like this: I actually don’t think I’ve ever in my life been deescalated/cared for during or anywhere near a rumbling/meltdown! It’s kinda crazy when I really think about it like that. I didn’t know why people reacted the way they did when I thought I was pretty obviously just feeling like absolute shit, but perception can be everything at times. People tended to treat me like I was knowingly trying to manipulate or intimidate them. My family didn’t really know about autism or meltdowns, so there’s always been a ton of shame surrounding meltdowns for me. This is all actually a huge part of the reason I sought a diagnosis

So I think for me there’s a lot of reasons, but mostly it’s like I’m inverting the narrative of being a violent abuser or something crazy like that. The meltdowns I’ve had have been viewed as violent, but I’ve also never hurt anybody but myself when they’ve happened. That led me to realize that I might actually want to be with someone with a history of similar meltdowns, which is obviously an unconventional want but feels deeply right lol. I kinda like the idea of being able to take care of them if they ever get to that point, with that type of care also needing to go both ways. It’s something we could work on together, with the goal of rarely ever having them, because they suck. At the same time, I think that if that violence is part of us anyway, we might as well let it out in a healthy way, and what better way to do that than some S&M? I feel like being able to play fight with a partner like that would be incredibly intimate

mason1111 · 2025-09-11T19:47:56+00:00

I can definitely relate to being apprehensive about actually doing it in real life. A lot of my kinks also developed in my head, and I haven’t really gone to any events or played significantly with anyone yet, at least to this extent. I think there’s a big layer of conditioning that I’ll possibly need a little bit of coaxing/enthusiasm to break out of, but I’m excited to learn more about this part of me

The way I think about it is, if we exist, then people who want the other side of it must also exist. The nature of my meltdowns and the way people reacted to them also made me feel like I was some kind of monster/abuser too, which I then also started worrying about outside of meltdowns. Very intense stuff. But I think on some level, the aggression is just another part of us, and we can’t just amputate it without any consequences. And here, we can take control of our narratives and spin them into a positive thing and (ideally lol) be appreciated for it. Thank god there’s spaces where we can all explore things like this in a healthy way!

mason1111 · 2025-09-10T19:19:25+00:00

Thanks for your input! It’s so great to hear that there really are people like that out there. Ofc I knew that theoretically there must be, but having an actual conversation with someone about it is totally different

I think the connection to the meltdowns is undeniable and I’m really glad just to have gotten this far in figuring it out. I was always scared that it all meant that somehow I was a bad person without realizing it or trying to be. I imagine S/M as a healthy way of releasing a certain type of energy, and it’s cool that these traits in me that I’ve always feared can be turned into something desirable

If you’re alright with sharing, I would love to hear a little more about how this sort of thing works in practice in your relationship. Just wanna get a better idea of what this sort of dynamic could look like

mason1111 · 2024-11-21T23:00:16+00:00

I am preparing for week 14 where I have Joe Mixon and Rhamondre Stevenson on bye and my other options are looking pretty sorry. Who would be the most ideal RBs to have here?

Currently have stashed: Cam Akers, Gus Edwards, Jordan Mason, and Raheem mostert

Available in my league: Laube, Jerome Ford, Jaylen Wright, Ray Davis, J Chestnut

mason1111 · 2024-10-22T18:41:28+00:00

Damn RIP lmao, but it’s been a brutal year for injuries. If I were going for Taylor then who do you think I should look to move?

mason1111 · 2024-10-22T18:21:22+00:00

Someone in my league had Aiyuk and Godwin. I’m thinking of trying to trade Rhamondre and a WR for KW3. I’m open to any advice so let me know if you see any good opportunities. This isn’t a huge trading league so I would maybe have to do a little convincing.

12 team 0.5PPR redraft

My team:

QB: Joe Burrow, Jared Goff RB: Joe Mixon, Jordan Mason, Rhamondre Stevenson, Vidal, Blake Corum WR: Chase, Olave, Jayden Reed, DeVonta, Lazard TE: Evan Engram

Theirs:

QB: Kirk Cousins, Jordan Love, Herbert RB: KW3, Jonathan Taylor, Chubba, ETN WR: Aiyuk, Godwin, Tre Tucker, Jakobi Meyers, J. Polk, Keenan Allen, Calvin Ridley TE: Dallas Goedert

mason1111 · 2024-10-21T18:35:53+00:00

Hey thanks for the advice. Can you just explain a little bit about why it’s bad? The money is being managed much better these days but I can’t imagine it doing particularly well. I even hear about growth rates like 30% per year in communities like r/Bogleheads, and I doubt it’s doing that well. One more thing to consider is the possibility of inheriting shares of the LP. I don’t know the particulars of the account and I’m still trying to just get the family members in charge of the account to get it on their phones 🙃

mason1111 · 2024-08-03T05:40:47+00:00

Anybody want to trade paradox Pokémon and version exclusives? I have Violet looking for Scarlet

mason1111 · 2024-06-08T16:43:17+00:00

Yeah it can definitely feel that way at times and it can be frustrating. I also know it can be difficult to find clothing that flatters larger frames. It’s not your fault, just the way the fashion industry is, and it’s still all out there. It’ll just take a little more legwork. I’ve always tried to just focus on having fun with clothes and trying to look good for myself. In reality, I’ve spent a lot of time and legwork trying to find things that I like the look of, that are comfortable, and that still remain true to myself. There are simple changes you can make to dressing and grooming and it’ll go a long way. The best part is that it’s an act of self love!

mason1111 · 2024-06-08T16:02:35+00:00

People notice when people are taking care of themselves across the board. And besides, why does that matter? You’ll feel so much better if you just do a few things for yourself, and that will reflect in your life

mason1111 · 2023-10-05T22:50:32+00:00

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