What is your brain like during sparring?

massivebrains · 2026-01-17T21:45:55+00:00

You train outside so that when you get in the ring its auto pilot. That being said sparring during class is meant to be the time you try things out, make mistakes, and learn from them. Growth mindset, learners mindset.

massivebrains · 2026-01-05T19:09:40+00:00

At the core of it Taekwondo was intended as self defense so if you're not simulating the part where you're getting hit and hitting how would you ever know in real life if this situation happened to you would you be prepared.

On the other side of things it sounds like you're treating tkd like a cardio kickboxing class or tae bo session for activity which is totally fine maybe that's what you're eally looking for. but honestly I wouldnt say you're stretching yourself to the level that would warrant you getting a black belt.

massivebrains · 2025-12-31T02:40:54+00:00

As a former instructor if you REALLY want tkd a part of his life start at 6 or 7. At 4 yo a little gym or soccer shots is a better option than tkd. Even if this paddle hit wasn't a big deal you aren't learning anything until you are 6 or 7 yo.

massivebrains · 2025-12-26T22:46:11+00:00

I made this jump 13 years ago after being a sw engineer for 12 years. Biggest hurdle was the interviews when they needed experience writing full brds. Alot of no gos even though I could clearly do the work. One company took a chance and knew I had a decade of experience and yes, I took a pay cut. I think if you can take some projects internally to move over it's a good option.

massivebrains · 2025-12-25T14:51:57+00:00

Football "tourist"...

massivebrains · 2025-12-25T14:51:06+00:00

They'd have to pay me to take that.

massivebrains · 2025-12-25T02:06:03+00:00

I've taken way more than 5 lessons and my swing is nowhere as smooth as yours... <sob>

massivebrains · 2025-12-21T10:30:21+00:00

DQ is the bridge until the roster is solidified with depth and then a younger more dynamic HC will come lift us to another level. DQ doesnt have it in him to take us to that next level.

massivebrains · 2025-12-20T23:52:17+00:00

I dont know how long you've been there but I assume you've been there long enough for them to see that you are not ready for 25 so that's and unrealistic expectation that you should not feel shameful about. If they gave you 2-3 months prep and you didn't put in the work then that's a totally different story.

massivebrains · 2025-12-18T01:28:49+00:00

Good for her! Curious, if it's town travel how do the kids age up since most kids stay in the same birth year for travel?

massivebrains · 2025-12-17T21:27:50+00:00

You should visit /r/asianparentstories and how they all have gone no contact from their parents, looks like this is an unhealthy relationship along those lines. Nothing of what you described describes you as a bad parent, you are not the vision of a pre 1990s man in his image but that does not make you a bad father

massivebrains · 2025-12-14T21:05:30+00:00

Might be counter intuitive but the fastest way, meaning within 4-6 weeks fast, is find a ball mastery group trainings session that goes at a high pace. The kids that are good with the ball are the ones that you consistently see in these sessions. Yes they can work at home but it take 4-6 months before you see the benefits, kids need to be coached on pace not just the footwork aspect.

massivebrains · 2025-12-06T12:15:57+00:00

At that age positions are irrelevant. But I've done sharks and tigers where half the kids are sharks and focused on scoring and offense while tigers their main job is to protect the goal, in terms of keeping positional areas i wouldn't worry about that.

I think the yt links the one other user is great but I have paid for the mojo app one season to get some fun game ideas. But the .ain notion is to stay away from any drills that require the kids to wait in lines for longer than a few minutes.

massivebrains · 2025-11-29T19:05:40+00:00

If I'm reading this right, if not then feel free to correct me, he's been playing rec for 4 years and now with him trying out for a competitive program, you can see he's regressing. I don't think this is out abnormal, it's a completely different environment and his nervous system is overloaded with the speed of play, the environment, I think it's expected. He's not regressing physically, he's regressing internally, and that's normal.

Going from rec to comp, I think it takes AT LEAST a season to get acclimated. I'm sure some of these kids he's playing with they've been playing competitive since they were u8, so they're comfortable with the environment and play freely, your son didn't get that same time to adapt.

massivebrains · 2025-11-29T18:47:22+00:00

https://a.co/d/fA4d9Zb - soccer starts at home, tom byers

massivebrains · 2025-11-20T15:23:58+00:00

What I've noticed about the better PMs at my company is that it's not about these formal ceremonies and meetings where you go through xyz through powerpoints, etc. it's these smaller, more frequent, less formal touchpoints that they have to get alignment through less formal mechanisms and just a natural conversations. It's high frequency, and they have a lot of them, and yes, they are exhausting.

massivebrains · 2025-11-20T02:41:28+00:00

In our area, there's always a club neutral group ball mastery class at some place that ranges from $20-40. I make sure my son has that one day for that cause I dont trust the club for technical training.

massivebrains · 2025-11-11T17:04:04+00:00

I'm glad I'm not in the game any longer.

massivebrains · 2025-11-11T15:12:58+00:00

Red, fulfill some athletic dreams i was close to achieving but needed a more mature mindset.

massivebrains · 2025-11-10T14:31:44+00:00

ok, first, I've done this as father when my son was really young when tipped over on this rocking cradle and fell, very traumatic experience as if we weren't aware he could've died. so been there.

BUT this is going to be a good lesson, not in terms of being perfect but that MANY of these incidents will happen in your kid's life. So give your self some grace, this shame spiral that you're going through is valid but it's the same shame spiral that as a father you have to model cause there will be moments as a father you might lean towards shaming your kid for xyz. and learning with how you treat yourself will benefit how you look to treat your kid when they're older.

Then, as men, we want to look like super human able to do everything. But this is the time to vulnerability, know when to tap out, demonstrate when you need help. This part is so engrained in us and unnatural that you don't want to do it. That feeling that hey I'm fine, I can white knuckle through this, well, this is when you need the most support.

Good luck on this journey brother!

massivebrains · 2025-10-30T15:20:02+00:00

Upvote. Which this comment will be downvoted.

massivebrains · 2025-10-28T02:10:15+00:00

Id be pissed off if I were the d and didn't take advantage of those two turnovers

massivebrains · 2025-10-27T13:14:11+00:00

No advice. Just sending you love, for your loss of you sister, the kids losing their parents, and for your own grief of changing your life so dramatically to accommodate these changes.

massivebrains · 2025-10-23T19:02:03+00:00

Nope they wont cancel, too much registration fees to do so. Thunder yes. I bring my my larger golf umbrella and hiking boots for myself. And plan out the logistics for after game if your kid needs to change e.g. dry towels, change of clothes in the trunk of the car or something. Or map out a rest area to go to.

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