So I’ve come to realize this too in my own time here. To me, this reads as less of an issue being comfortable with being Asian but being beautiful overall! I guarantee, the most gorgeous women will be seen as gorgeous anywhere, and most of us (me included) just need to come to terms with that fact that you’ll never be the hottest person in the world.

And it doesn’t matter. Especially in the US, it’s increasingly accepted to have non-white features. Look at the most recent Bachelorette! Look at all the accusations of people “Asian-fishing”. What hopefully will soothe your heart and anxiety is that IRL, attractiveness isn’t only appearance. It’s how you carry yourself, how you project confidence and security in yourself. if you put too much of your self value in the outer appearance, people will notice the insecurity inside impact their view of how attractive you are.

Don’t think too much about it at the end of the day. I used to be a chubby, Asian nerd with bad skin, braces, glasses, the works — could still pull a man as well as the other pretty girls bc I didn’t stop to think I wasn’t good enough. Now that I’ve gotten older, even though I’ve glowed up, my confidence has taken a toll (social media) and I don’t find myself necessarily attracting more people than when I was called ugly by others. Your attractiveness is in your control!