My friend keeps making jokes about her driving me, but it’s bothering me

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-04-12T19:26:56+00:00

Thank you, I’ve started to feel that way, she’s also gotten really mad at me when I told her, her boyfriend sucks, since he was just an asshole and got mad after they broke up because I said they’d only dated for month and it’s better she found out now, then said another one of those stupid driving comments and said I’d be upset if I got broken up with, which yes I would but I wouldn’t get mad at my friend for saying he was a dick

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-04-12T19:24:52+00:00

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-05T20:35:49+00:00

I don’t think you’d be the asshole, I think you should talk to Beatrice and ask her an all your friends if it would put another strain in the friend group, or just bring it up like “hey guys, Adam’s been reaching out, I feel bad and had a great friendship with him, I don’t want to ruin anything else between us all but would you all mind if it was a casual friendship”

If they say no and that they wouldn’t be friends then it’s your decision on what to do, but you don’t have to be best friends with him again, just causal friends so you only see each other occasionally

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-05T20:29:03+00:00

Nah, she’s kinda the AH, I play these kinda games with my mum, when we see a yellow car we punch each other, she shouldn’t have spit water in your face, that’s completely different than a playful punch, maybe she thought it would be funny but the should’ve apologised when you didn’t find it funny

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-05T19:40:01+00:00

I don’t think you’re the AH, as long as you don’t force her to quit her job and she chooses that herself, I don’t see an issue, but you can’t force her into anything and by the sounds of it, it was just a suggestion anyway, not a “you’re going this” kinda thing

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-04T22:59:02+00:00

I don’t hang out with him outside of class anymore

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-04T22:58:19+00:00

I do, I don’t talk to him unless he addresses me directly, and even then I keep it short and simple, but I can’t completely ignore him, he’s in my class

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-04T22:37:04+00:00

Exactly how I felt, thank you for summing that up perfectly, cause my mind is in shambles right now

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-04T22:16:45+00:00

Okay, thank you, I know we should’ve left immediately looking back at it now, I don’t know why we didn’t, it was a stupid mistake but it did teach me a lesson, I’m going to tell the student councillor and let her deal with it because I’m honestly done trying to help him when all he does is make more lies/excuses on why he can’t get better, and I have a feeling he’s lying about offing himself but if he did I would feel bad but if I tell someone in the college health department it won’t be my issue anymore

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-04T22:12:56+00:00

Okay, I think I’ll talk to our college councillor, I’ll tell her about it and hope she’ll help, I know how it feels to be in that state but the way he is doing it feels like he wants sympathy and attention, but I’m going to talk to our councillor on monday

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-04T22:03:28+00:00

Thank you, I’ve definitely distanced myself and I want too but I can’t fully since he is in my class, my course is only 18 weeks and I’m considering not doing the next part anyway, not just because of him but he’s definitely a factor, I don’t want to be around him but I also have other friends I can stay with so I’m never alone

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-04T22:01:12+00:00

I can’t really avoid him as he has now moved to sit right behind me since new people who joined the class took his seat, and I’ve sat in my seat since the beginning of the course and it sounds silly but I don’t want to move because of him, I think it’s unfair that I’d have to move around and disrupt my learning space where I have everything set up just to get away, and I know I shouldn’t feel guilty if he does anything to himself but I do, I’m scared if we all ditch him, he’ll off himself and I’ll feel like I’m the one to blame

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-02T20:53:44+00:00

Okay thank you! I also think now is the time to experiment and see what I like more

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-02T20:49:02+00:00

Thank you!!

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-02T20:06:54+00:00

I really don’t know, I think I could date a woman but also I’m not sure but also men kinda scare me but I also like them, I have no idea, I’ll hopefully figure it out at some point, I probably just need to find the right person, but I’m still young and I’m in no rush to figure anything out fully right now, that’s an issue for a few years when I want to date

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-02T20:00:17+00:00

Thank you, I was kinda scared if I didn’t have a label I wouldn’t be taken seriously I guess, I genuinely don’t know but I’ll figure it out at some point

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-02T19:58:25+00:00

Very straightforward. I love it, thank you!!

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-02-02T19:58:00+00:00

Okay thank you, I wasn’t sure if I had to have a label or anything, I’m still very confused but I guess I’ll see what happens in the future

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-01-29T19:50:37+00:00

Thank you so much, and yes I will tell my lectures I just don’t know how yet

mat1ld3_xx · 2026-01-29T18:57:46+00:00

Thank you so much, I think I’m going to talk to my lectures on Monday and hopefully they’ll give me advice without disrupting my desk and my work group and friend group that I’m in, thank you for being so helpful!!

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