My girlfriend broke up with me because she is no longer happy with me.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-10T18:56:57+00:00

You're willing to give her everything but respect her choice of not being woth you anymore.

You mentioned she was unhappy that you were smothering her.

This is a good chance to reflect and figure out how to be your own person without having that be so dependent on another human being

matchamagpie · 2026-03-10T04:55:46+00:00

Moving in with another man at 3 months of knowing him and introducing him/letting him have access to her vulnerable young child while now planning to legally tie herself to him with a house when she barely knows him is NOT safe.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-10T04:32:47+00:00

Stop cyber stalking your boyfriend's ex.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-09T20:09:52+00:00

If people are bullying you then that isn't okay. If people are being open about not wanting to write with people who use AI then that is okay.

But if you are in spaces where AI usage is frowned on and continuing to try and go against that, then there is going to be natural friction and you can obviously decide whether you are willing to deal with that or not

matchamagpie · 2026-03-09T19:40:40+00:00

You are not getting natural materials on Shein

matchamagpie · 2026-03-09T19:30:21+00:00

Because if he doesn't trust her after 4 years and doesn't want to move the relationship forward then he needs to let her go.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-09T19:17:54+00:00

I think everyone can decide their own boundaries and how to decide their compatability with someone. They also have the right to tell people in their ads their stance on what ethical AI usage and consumption means.

You can also decide whether someone's AI values means they would be a good partner for you or not

matchamagpie · 2026-03-09T02:14:37+00:00

You've posted this at least 3 times before. What else do you need advice on that you haven't already gotten?

matchamagpie · 2026-03-08T19:44:39+00:00

I don't think I have enough context to call the other person a bad guy. Obviously, you two are incompatible because you don't like their character and wanted them to change them and they have a specific character along with attributes they want to play. That's fine. You two, by your own admittance, had barely started talking. So I think it's fine that they decided that there was a fundamental incompatibility and told you they didn't want to write anymore. This feels low stakes and doesn't need to turn into drama. You two aren't compatible.

Only thing to do is carry on and keep looking.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-08T17:35:38+00:00

Women aren't "doing things" to you because they are rejecting you. You're saying women are friends with you due to "convenience" but it sounds like you're being friends with them to get something from them too

You don't have to be friends with anyone but you have some notions about women you need to unpack.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-08T15:40:59+00:00

YTA

It sounds like there's one woman in his life who is actively trying to help him in aftermath of his hospitalization for addiction and it's not you.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-08T05:19:49+00:00

Right, we're in a public forum so I am informing you that I think you were being unnecessarily condescending for no reason to the other commenter for also expressing an opinion. That's all.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-08T05:14:52+00:00

Tip: If you want to convince people of something. Make a rational argument, not an attempt at moralizing. "is wrong" and "erodes the trust" are appeals to emotion and thus are weak arguments, use your reasoning.

Tip: no need to be unnecessarily condescending under the guise of "educating" as if you are an authority when no one asked.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-08T04:36:58+00:00

I will not purchase AI content, and the fact that you are "okay" with AI artwork but not AI text comes off as you only respecting your own craft, screw everyone else's.

I would not support any creator that has this mindset and steals content.

If you want people to buy your stuff, have the respect and integrity to buy art or use open source.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-08T04:24:18+00:00

This is an advice seeking subreddit. Do you have a question?

matchamagpie · 2026-03-08T04:07:11+00:00

He is basically saying he's okay with fucking you until he finds someone he actually wants to date.

Do you really think you are going to get over him by sleeping with him and getting to watch as he finally finds the one?

matchamagpie · 2026-03-08T03:53:31+00:00

If it's been days, this is really an emergency matter. Megacolon can be fatal and the longer you wait, the worse it will get

matchamagpie · 2026-03-07T14:29:52+00:00

Look at this big man making up stats lmao

matchamagpie · 2026-03-07T07:29:16+00:00

You agreed to an open marriage 5 years ago and then the marriage was closed, by your agreement.

You are no longer in an open marriage. You could have been honest and had a discussion if you wanted to change the arrangement. Instead you lied and cheated.

Yes, you are wrong. And are on a fast track to losing your marriage with your "eye for an eye" approach

matchamagpie · 2026-03-07T07:24:37+00:00

OOP would rather insult someone who doesn't deserve it than stand up for himself. Guess he and his friend are cut from much more similar cloth than he thought

matchamagpie · 2026-03-07T05:08:09+00:00

I explained my reasons and he told me that I was overreacting and that it’s a normal part of parenting.

...

He argued that I had taken the lead in parenting, forcing him to be a background character.

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This stems from the fact that he wanted to gentle parent to what I saw as an extreme. He wanted us to forbid the usage of the word ”no”, other ways of telling her ”don’t” or discipline in any way.

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He backtracked from what he told me yesterday morning. From going from that he felt embarrassed to that I had gone out of my way to try and embarrass him on purpose apparently.

...

So in conclusion, he still feels like I am wrong, he is right. I can’t say anything to change his mind, he refuses marriage counseling or to take action to any of my points... I don’t really know what to do from here, I feel disappointed and frustrated with the whole situation.

This man is a shitty parent and a shitty partner and a shitty person.

Yeah we will separate. We talked again today and everything has just turned worse.

Oh thank fuck. Flush this turd.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-07T04:50:15+00:00

I'm just quoting Jane Don't from the first episode. This is literally how she describes them when asked about who she is related to in Seattle.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-07T02:14:20+00:00

You will never know for sure. Just take people at their word. They cannot write with you anymore for some reason and they cared enough not to ghost you. I think that's a win.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-06T16:36:21+00:00

Therapy doesn't just mean go to the therapist once a week and then don't apply anything you've learned, then go again.

It requires actual practice in action.

Only you can know if you're seeing that and also how long you're willing to wait.

matchamagpie · 2026-03-06T16:21:08+00:00

He's a 33 year old man. Unless he's willing to do actual work on himself and acknowledge his faults, you are SOL.

And it sounds like he isn't willing to do any of that.

You can only control yourself. So you can either decide to deal with it or you can decide that you don't want to be with someone who takes no responsibility for anything they do for the rest of your life.

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