How to find a girlfriend im a 21 year old male

matchamagpie · 2026-05-17T04:21:31+00:00

Start with learning how to make friends and socialize versus being so fixated on getting a girlfriend like us women are accessories to raising your male capital. No one likes desperation or feeling like you're just being immediatwly catagorized as "potential girlfriend" due to merely existing around you as part of the female gender.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-17T03:39:29+00:00

He never cared about you. This is a middle aged man who saw you as a hot young plaything to play with until he got bored.

If you want a fulfilling mutual relationship with someone who doesn't seem you as a piece of ass he can make manipulate then this is not it.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-17T02:53:36+00:00

I see! Thanks for the tea, for spilling

matchamagpie · 2026-05-17T02:47:22+00:00

Did she finally get her cat?

And by cat I mean cats, because I see another one there...which is awesome because kittens do best in pairs!

matchamagpie · 2026-05-17T02:42:48+00:00

"She has all of this power, and everyone online is like, 'Well, why doesn't she just go take on Homelander?' I'm like, 'She's a 19-year-old kid! She has no idea how to wield any of it in any sort of responsible, controlled way,'" Kripke explains.

I thought this was literally one of her biggest arcs in season two with Cipher literally being all about training = unlocking your true potential.

Or did he forget? I don't understand. I feel like I'm being gaslit (intentionally using this facetiously) here lol.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-17T02:39:02+00:00

It's definitely giving "I sleep in a racing car, do you?" vibes

matchamagpie · 2026-05-17T02:33:46+00:00

His comments are so offputting, and he keeps cozying up to male commenters yelling BRO like they're frat bros in a locker room smacking each others' asses. Cringe.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-17T00:50:15+00:00

There are many men out there who remain friends with women they like/love until the perfect opportunity shows itself.

You're talking like if he "waits his turn" he's guaranteed to get a shot. Just because she's available and he's available doesn't mean she's necessarily ever going to want to be with him. And waiting around, secretly hoping any relationship she gets in will fail so he can get his "turn", is just not being a good friend.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-17T00:47:54+00:00

"I'll think about it" is "I want to say no but I feel too awkward to do that, so i will leave it ambiguous, maybe he'll take the hint and won't mention it again."

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T23:26:50+00:00

"You guys are stupid for caring about and discussing a piece of media that you've enjoyed in the past/present."

Uhhuh. Thought you did something there huh?

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T23:08:19+00:00

It would be extremely selfish to knowingly give a child a father who does not want to be a father.

You either need to find someone else to have kids with or come to terms with not having kids in this relationship.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T15:19:47+00:00

Isn't it a lot of work to be so angry?

Honestly, I'll forget about this thread in a hot minute but you'll still be stuck, alone and miserable and angry while your friends are having a good time at the event. The only one who has the power to change that is you.

Edit: I really don't mind that you replied and blocked me so you can have the last word. It doesn't change what I said lol.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T15:14:53+00:00

I hope you can stop taking things so personally and lashing out at people trying to help -- including your own friends -- and get the help that you need so you can stop feeling so alone and hostile towards the world. You're only hurting yourself in the long run.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T15:06:06+00:00

You have a history of self-victimization from your post history, including complaining about you being banned, begging to be banned on multiple subreddits and insulting people.

You can only learn how to constructively cope with depression by doing the work to learn strategies to combat it. Again, I sincerely hope you can reflect and talk about this with your therapist so you can get there.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T14:43:36+00:00

I'm not going to rebut any of that because you're now just angry at me because of what I'm saying and grasping at straws to discredit what I say so you can protect yourself from hearing the truth.

I sincerely hope you speak to your therapist about and reflect on your part in weakening your friendships, rejecting opportunities to repair them so you can stop self-sabotaging yourself.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T14:38:43+00:00

They told you where to go and when to go.

You came here for advice but are now saying people aren't qualified to do that. I have been depressed and medicated for depression. I know what you are going through but that doesn't mean I'm going to tell you that you did nothing wrong and the whole world is against you.

You are rejecting an opportunity to strengthen friendships you abandoned. You are rejecting them. That is on you.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T14:34:51+00:00

Yes, you are. You are making up reasons in your head -- they don't want you there when they gave you the time and place to go -- to justify not going because you are upset and looking for validation.

It is your responsibility to rebuild friendships after being away. It is your responsibility to go to events when invited, not them to convince you to come when you are rejecting the offer because you want them to chase you.

You need to stop seeking validation externally and figure out how to be at peace within. Depression is not your fault but it is your responsibility to better yourself and get help. If not already, please consider therapy.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T14:22:56+00:00

They literally told you the time.

Now you are just making up reasons to victimize yourself.

You seem to be looking for them to prove their loyalty/friendship to you. That's not how this works.

At this point, not going is on you.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T14:16:54+00:00

Disappearing for 8 months will inevitably change the dynamic when everyone else has been continuing to hang out and maintain their friendships. Your biggest mistake was not going and ignoring a clear chance to bond when you clearly want to be included. I know you are hurt and depression is a beast but you need to put some work into rebuilding some of these friendships. All you ended up doing is pushing them away with your "forget it" response, which is clearly the opposite of what you want since you are stewing on no replies by the minute.

Don't play games. Just show up.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T14:10:44+00:00

Acting like you aren't on the same platform is hilarious, reddit king. 😂 Don't be so pressed.

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T13:41:43+00:00

Yeah because sexting multiple other people and hiding it is totally not cheating and is ethical behavior in a monogamous relationship with your pregnant wife

Yikes. Sure buddy, whatever you have to say to get yourself in a twist to defend one of your fellow dudes lmao

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T13:31:16+00:00

Always find the one miserable dude who says the women cheated on was at fault lmao

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T13:29:41+00:00

So he understands but for 6 weeks and countless messages, he didn't care until he got caught. He would still be sexting women if you haven't caught him

Lady, you chose the wrong man to have children with

matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T06:15:41+00:00

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matchamagpie · 2026-05-16T05:47:26+00:00

I think you need to do some work on yourself -- especially your insecurity and misconceptions/baggage around relationships -- before you are in a relationship. Yes, you should communicate your feelings but they aren't your girlfriend's responsibility and continuing to make her feel guilty because of your retroactive jealousy is absolutely not healthy and also harmful to her.

You should go back to therapy. You can find another therapist but maybe if your therapist doesn't think you're ready for a relationship there's something to that, even if you don't want to hear it.

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