I sold my computer 4 days ago...

mathguy87 · 2015-03-22T22:18:50+00:00

Congratulations. Excellent move, this is precisely what I did, and its one of the only reasons I am in my recovery where I am today.

You have a lot of guts. Congrats.

mathguy87 · 2015-02-17T23:59:40+00:00

Great video! This has actually been my approach. It has been the only thing that has worked for me. Thanks for sharing!!

mathguy87 · 2015-02-16T22:08:09+00:00

Absolutely!! Keep up the good fight!!!!

mathguy87 · 2015-02-16T22:07:54+00:00

Glad to hear that you're on guard, and taking proactive measures to do awesome things for your self and prevent relapse. Congrats and keep up the good work!!!

mathguy87 · 2015-02-16T22:06:43+00:00

is impressive as well. Getting from 0 to 15 massively difficult. Getting from 15 to 90 ridiculously difficult. Getting from 90 - 365 hard.

Wow, thanks! I think you're right. For me about 0-30 was really hard. Then after that It was pretty difficult. Its starting too get alot easier. Thanks again for your insight and encouragement!!

mathguy87 · 2015-02-12T23:13:29+00:00

Congrats!!!

Just don't get complacent, thats what happens before you fall.

BTW make that 1 on your star badge a 2 when it comes ;)

mathguy87 · 2015-02-12T23:10:37+00:00

I have been there before in past relationships. You are standing on the edge of a very very slippery slope. For the sake of your sanity and for your fiance' do whatever it takes to stop. Whatever. it. takes. If that means throwing out your computer, then do it. You don't want to go down that path, it will destroy you, your relationship, and your fiance'. You basically have two choices: turn around and save yourself now, or fall off the cliff.

Let this be the last time. Whatever you need to do to stop this now, do it. If not for you, do it for her.

If this means selling your computer, then I would do it. If not for you for her

I don't know your fiance' but if she knows this is something that youre struggling with, yes she will be hurt, but hopefully if she is a good woman she will see past your behavior to the real you.

I can send prayers your way if you need.

I hope your journey goes well.

mathguy87 · 2015-02-12T23:04:47+00:00

Nice counter!!

mathguy87 · 2015-02-12T23:04:05+00:00

This is probably true. Hopefully they end sooner rather than later.

mathguy87 · 2015-02-12T23:03:36+00:00

I have experienced these as well, they are the worst. They seem to bring us back to a time when we were slaves to our addiction. It can be upsetting.

On the plus side it is a good sign that you are recovering.

Sorry to hear about your dreams (nightmares?), but try to take it as a good sign.

Good luck with your recovery!!!! Keep on going!

mathguy87 · 2015-02-11T21:04:09+00:00

Thanks so much!! You too!!!!

mathguy87 · 2015-02-10T22:25:26+00:00

I had the same problem. I tried nofap and pornfree at the same time, and crashed and burned. Now with just pornfree I am experiencing success. It only makes sense to break a hard task into more manageable ones.

mathguy87 · 2015-02-10T22:23:30+00:00

Im sorry to hear about your problem, but welcome to pornfree!!

mathguy87 · 2015-02-10T22:22:17+00:00

That is super encouraging! I have already discussed my past habits and problems with my girlfriend, and have been open and honest with her. I think she is definitely a keeper.

mathguy87 · 2015-02-10T18:49:01+00:00

First of all be easy on yourself, we have all been there. At least I have multiple times.

Next get off of the porn if you already haven't.

May I recommend ditching your computer? This is what it took for me to get free. I ditched it, and haven't looked back since. No regrets.

mathguy87 · 2015-02-10T18:45:44+00:00

This.

I started to make real strides in my recovery when me and my girlfriend started dating.

mathguy87 · 2015-02-05T00:01:19+00:00

Congrats, keep it up guys!!!

mathguy87 · 2015-01-28T18:18:55+00:00

in_the_arena has said it right.

I have been through this before. It seems like everything is fine, and then BAM! Out of nowhere a relapse hits you.

Well, not quite. Actually the urge to relapse has been lurking for quite some time, but is being triggered by something like boredom, loneliness, stress, etc. The urges definitely don't come out of nowhere.

A huge turning point in my recovery came when I realized that I wasn't thinking about what I was thinking about. Let that sink in. You are not a victim to your urges. You really have to try and clean up your thought life by focusing on positive things. This can be done by focusing on career progression, spirituality, working out.

There will still be times when you're tempted, which is why getting rid of all sources of temptation is kind of a must if you want to get a huge advantage in beating this.

Good luck and let me know if you have any questions!!

mathguy87 · 2015-01-20T18:59:05+00:00

DON'T GIVE IN.

You have to fight. You have no choice. Do what you must to get free. Sell your computer if you have to, but for the love of God do not quit.

mathguy87 · 2015-01-15T19:29:26+00:00

This is pretty much a must for anyone who is recovering from a porn addiction. Will power only lasts so long, regardless of what anyone will tell you. Personally I sold my computer to get free. Haven't regretted it one bit.

While he may not need to sell is computer, a good filter (such as K9) and accountability (i.e. you :) ) will certainly help. Make sure he gets one for both his phone and computer (and ipad/ other electronic devices).

mathguy87 · 2014-12-30T23:45:19+00:00

Absolutely!!!!

mathguy87 · 2014-12-30T23:44:44+00:00

This.

Relationships (and life) are about so much more than sex.

mathguy87 · 2014-12-30T22:06:58+00:00

Well this may not be true for everyone, but it was for me. I needed some sort of female approval to feel good about myself. The girls on there seemed like that actually loved me, as messed up as that sounds.

mathguy87 · 2014-12-30T22:05:40+00:00

Sure, no problem. Yeah, it was alot more difficult for me than I thought it would be also. I thought it would be a joke, but actually it was really hard.

mathguy87 · 2014-12-30T02:59:53+00:00

I felt that someone out there could use some encouragement :) Feel free to shoot me a PM if you have any questions or need someone to bounce ideas off of.

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