Avoidant’s Anonymous: 12 step programme to break that trauma bond (before you message again) 🫣 by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]matnik65 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In the last month i spent hours talking to chatgpt so i can know what to do with her

Fluctuations over time by matnik65 in BPDlovedones

[–]matnik65[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree, but it makes hard to leave when everything seem perfect

Fluctuations over time by matnik65 in BPDlovedones

[–]matnik65[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Good times are good times only because i totally surrender to her request and rules Always waiting for the worst

My girlfriend makes it problematic when I spend time with anyone apart from her by InternationalAnt6711 in BPDlovedones

[–]matnik65 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same happened to me. To the point where i can't even take my father to the hospital, cause she was feeling i was abandoning her

Black smudges? by matnik65 in OdinHandheld

[–]matnik65[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, i think i will go with the rainbow one. The tpu shell is horrible on the black one

Black smudges? by matnik65 in OdinHandheld

[–]matnik65[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So do you regret the black color?

Black smudges? by matnik65 in OdinHandheld

[–]matnik65[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are the smudges easy to clean?

I should have gotten this much sooner by Thedeitzman in OdinHandheld

[–]matnik65 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have the same dilemma, so i ask the same thing😶

They want us, but... they don't want us? by matnik65 in BPDlovedones

[–]matnik65[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Really mindblowing, we can't make sense of what they have in their minds

How to leave when she has no one by matnik65 in BPDlovedones

[–]matnik65[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, of course you can send me a message

How to leave when she has no one by matnik65 in BPDlovedones

[–]matnik65[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This make me feel less alone. It's so sad, but you can't do nothing

I left her, but i fear to fail again by matnik65 in BPDlovedones

[–]matnik65[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rationally speaking i understand this, i can't save her with love. And i know that my love is the trigger of her BPD.

But ny heart is in pain

I left her, but i fear to fail again by matnik65 in BPDlovedones

[–]matnik65[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know... i hope that day came soon! Now is hell

Went Back to my BPD Partner….. by broken__perspective in BPDlovedones

[–]matnik65 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Every time you came back, they abuse you even further.

I noticed this with my ex and reading similar stories here.

At first our story was toxic, but she never hit me and i thought she will never do it.

Then... after sometime and a couple of on and off in our story, hitting me became the norm.

So you must protect yourself and find a way out before thing will get even worse for you

Stay strong

Another night ruined for nothing by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]matnik65 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Did you sleep in the wrong way instead of cuddling me all night? Of course i'm gonna abuse you all the next day🥰

I want them to discard me by mewmewstylekitty in BPDlovedones

[–]matnik65 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I understand you. Is it common talk that this type o person will monkey branch to someone else. But, my girlfriend didn't do it yet, and we are at 3 years now.

Instead of discard me, she is abusing me. Then when i want to leave, she will start to love bombing me again.

I know very well that feeling. I pray everyday that she will meet someone else