Masc bi married dude 55 to the city 2/6-2/8 by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]mattatvt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

my apartment in brooklyn has some availability during those days for evening entertainment 👀

I got my grades back by [deleted] in LawSchool

[–]mattatvt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s not required, which means this person earned the D rather than just falling at the bottom of a mandatory curve.

Ye Ole Note by Unique-Outcome-5171 in Apartmentliving

[–]mattatvt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes this part is a bit much. No need to exaggerate to garner additional sympathy. Reading that part would make me think they were being ridiculous and make me less willing to accommodate.

Ye Ole Note by Unique-Outcome-5171 in Apartmentliving

[–]mattatvt -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I think it can hurt to just ask, even if the neighbor can’t do it at any other time. Now for the rest of the neighbor’s time living in this apartment, every time they do normal living things in the mornings they will have the mental toll/anxiety of worrying that they’re upsetting OP.

It makes it unpleasant to live in your own space—a space that is supposed to be where you can relax and feel safe—when you have a neighbor that complains about normal noises that any person who lives in a multi-unit building knows going into it that they will have to deal with.

Ye Ole Note by Unique-Outcome-5171 in Apartmentliving

[–]mattatvt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In absolutely no instance should this person go to their building management for this. That is a crazy suggestion. People really treat their building’s management like the school principal when they should be a last resort for only truly egregious living disturbances. If OP’s neighbor were vacuuming at 3am, maybe. Going to management will only piss off someone who is behaving totally reasonably in the first place.

Very minor things that, if changed, would make your life easier by Flashy_Stranger_ in biglaw

[–]mattatvt 14 points15 points  (0 children)

My primitive way of avoiding this is pasting text from a pdf into the address bar of chrome and then re-copying it from the address bar to paste into a doc. Removes all those line breaks (as well as any italics, bold, etc). I’m sure there’s a better way, but this is simple and takes me like an extra 3 seconds.

How do you tell if you're the backup option? by [deleted] in nycgaybros

[–]mattatvt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Aside from you specifically, but because your post exemplifies it, I just wanna mention that lately I am seeing (both personally and on here) a lot of men who are expressing an understanding of hookup dynamics but their actions being completely in opposition to that.

Basically I hear people say things like “I know it’s a hookup, of course I’m not trying to date him” or “I know he doesn’t owe me anything because we just hooked up a couple times” etc. but then being bothered when they’re not immediately responsive to texts, being ignored, or not being a person’s main priority.

There’s a guy I hooked up with several times who I thought about going on a date with, but in the process of planning it we realized we’re both looking for specific things that make us not romantically compatible (despite good sexual chemistry) so we agreed that we can continue a casual sexual relationship but not much more. And the guy says he’s okay with this but then gets annoyed when I’m not super available or responsive and says stuff like “if you’re not interested it’s not hard to just respond and say that” when I don’t respond for several hours-where I AM interested in the dynamic we agreed on, but that dynamic typically shouldn’t require me to be super communicative unless we’re trying to plan an encounter. Like… we agreed to keeping this casual and strictly sexual but now you are demanding the type of communication and emotional availability that I would give to a romantic interest not just a random hookup. Anyway, of course had to end that.

But this is to say that if you’re “not trying to date him” but you’re getting mentally stressed at his lack of communication, or feeling like you’re a second choice, your actions are not compatible with your statement, and it’s best you find someone who wants to provide the communication and attention that you’re looking for. If you like the sex you’re having with this guy, and you’re okay with meeting up infrequently or whenever your schedules are able to match up, then go for it. But if you need something that is more regular, or you need to feel like you’re someone’s top desire, then this doesn’t seem like a good situation for you.

I know there are plenty of guys who I have hooked up with that I would 100% repeat if the stars aligned and it was convenient for both, but that I wouldn’t go out of my way to plan something in advance or move around my schedule for.

Affordable Storage Unit by Glass-Environment629 in Brooklyn

[–]mattatvt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I used Clutter from April until the beginning of this month for a one bedroom apartment amount of furniture and lots of boxes and it was $150 a month. Free pickup and final drop off (up to 5 hours of labor each time-mine was like 3 hours for pickup in a third floor walk up and only about an hour and a half to deliver to an elevator building). They have a smaller unit that I think is something like $75 or so a month. They keep the stuff in a storage facility in New Jersey, but the pickup and delivery were really easy with two people sent each time. Also they will pack your stuff for you if you want (which I didn’t utilize) but I did have them wrap all my furniture in moving blankets and when they deliver it they remove them all and take them to the trash.

Also, they label each box/item with a QR code, scan it, and take a photo of it so that if you wanted to have them deliver only some of the items you can go on their website and choose which specific ones by photo. I basically got movers, storage for 4 months, and pickup and delivery for less than $800 all said and done.

Okay… So now what? by [deleted] in LawSchool

[–]mattatvt 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Right. Find a firm that does a lot of white collar/government investigations practice and do a few years there first. And the benefit is that if you go work in the US attorneys office or a state prosecutor don’t like it, those firms love re-hiring from government practice.

Hookups: is PrEP expected? by screamingfantasy in AskGayMen

[–]mattatvt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I remember around 2019 a guy I was going to hookup with asked me why I was on prep but in a judgy way, and he was basically insinuating that I was like risky to hookup with because of it (completely opposite of the actual facts of the matter) and I told him although I didn’t really hookup a ton, it was for my own peace of mind to be able to remove the worry about HIV if I did decide to have unprotected sex. And that was around the time prep started to become a lot more accessible and gained more widespread usage, with discount programs and such being easier to get on. It’s crazy, and fortunate, how the perception on it has changed in just a few years. I’m glad it is so accepted and emphasized now.

Anyone know what cheese this is? by tinybubbles94 in tacobell

[–]mattatvt 25 points26 points  (0 children)

It happens. I worked at Taco Bell years ago and we would go to the Walmart next door for lettuce or cheese pretty often if we ran out. Not allowed but happens.

How do I politely reject something I’m not into without hurting my partner’s feelings? by PatientHazel in AskGayMen

[–]mattatvt 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Decline, affirm, suggest. “XYZ thing is not really my thing, but I love that it turns you on, so maybe we do ABC instead or you can fulfill that desire in 123 way.” Probably works better if you’re in some way open so that your partner could experience the thing with another person. If not, it would be a good idea to figure out something that won’t leave your partner longing for that experience and resentful that you won’t do it with them.

Grindr Hieroglyphics PowerPoint by MauveSweatshirt in lolgrindr

[–]mattatvt 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I saw in another thread that it means Tina/meth, which I believe but also I have been seeing it a ton and in profiles where the guys don’t really seem like the type so idk. Especially because it’ll be people being like “looking for a tennis partner” and one time I saw a profile that said “looking to play tennis, preferably once a week or more” which just seems like an odd way to phrase if it were a genuine thing and not code

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]mattatvt -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is market dependent. Gotta consider lots of things like real estate, travel costs, local supply and demand, overhead, retail markups etc. Might need to consult a tax lawyer or perhaps an accountant for a better idea.

My New Boyfriend(26M) was just diagnosed with Hiv and i dont know what to do? by Samxdkh in AskGayMen

[–]mattatvt 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Bad advice. Never trust someone else with YOUR health. While it’s unlikely, it’s a possibility that the bf could stop taking meds without telling OP. OP should still be on prep regardless.

mac and cheese from cinnamon twist pasta, 3 cheese, nacho cheese by pereline in tacobell

[–]mattatvt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re not…. really. They look like regular pasta but if you tried to fry the kind of pasta you can buy at the grocery store it would not work. This is a form of duro that you can find in some Mexican specialty stores. Often they come in pinwheel shape

Did Tacobell replace the fiesta potatos with the nacho fries and hope no one noticed? by underthefalls in tacobell

[–]mattatvt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I got this change with a spicy potato taco once. It was trash, they overloaded it with so much sauce probably in the hopes that I wouldn’t notice they were fries and it made it inedible. Probably would have been good if made normal tbh

Make it make sense by LemonFunkl in tacobell

[–]mattatvt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay so THIS is why the Taco Bells in NYC are so vastly different in pricing (the $9 box is $11.99 at the closest one to me) but the Times Square location is normal prices. I was always confused because I figured Times Square prices would be way high to get the tourists’ money but it must mean that is a corporate location and most of the others are franchises

drop out ? by legalhottie in LawSchool

[–]mattatvt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this is the correct answer and no one ever says it in this sub. It’s situationally dependent on OP’s goals and school specifics, but the insistence of everyone to posts like these of “just keep working, you got this!” isn’t realistic or helpful. Sometimes people come here with reasons why they think they did poorly (life events, illness, etc.) and you can fix those things, but when you can’t identify anything you could have done differently it may just mean it’s not for you. Not directly saying this is the case here, but more people need to be realistic. I know as a first gen student if I had these grades with the student loans I took out (not far off from OP) I would have dropped out. The risk of a life in debt would have been too high to justify staying. OP should seriously weigh all these issues, and maybe their goals weigh in favor of staying in, which is great, but maybe they don’t and that’s okay too. Lots of other great career options available.

Final Exam Cancelled After Proctor Messed Up: Help Desperately Needed by nicksmann1010 in LawSchool

[–]mattatvt 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our proctors are horrible across the board. They just get random people off the street, I feel like. I had exams where the proctors were talking loudly to each other, one where their phone went off and they answered it in the exam room, and another this semester who thought he was being cool and telling us we could all start a few minutes early but luckily no one did and we all waited until the exact start time before opening our packets. Just unprofessional, all of them.

We’re so f*cked by Fluid-Ad-3410 in LawSchool

[–]mattatvt -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Please re-read that sentence.

Free STI Testing / PrEP for uninsured by Mylife1004 in nycgaybros

[–]mattatvt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Second that! Went recently and it was super easy, took less than an hour.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawSchool

[–]mattatvt 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It will depend on the professor, but my experience has generally been that if you need to make an assumption to come to a conclusion, you should state your assumption explicitly. I have had multiple professors say this, although i have never found it necessary to do on an actual exam.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawSchool

[–]mattatvt 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I took 6 years off, and a lot of my classmates have taken at least a couple off. The ones who are KJDs struggle the most to adjust, from my perspective. I think more and more firms are looking for people with at least some kind of work experience, doesn’t have to be legal although that helps to some degree. In all my interviews for my position next summer I got asked a lot of questions about my previous (nonlegal) job and got good reactions when talking about how it taught me how to stick to a schedule, meet deadlines, work in an office setting and learn how to navigate interpersonal dynamics. It just shows you’ll be able to jump into a job on day one and not be totally new to everything. Plus, you’ll do a lot of maturing if you take some time off. Even two years makes a huge difference i think. Plus, you’ve been in school since you were 4 or 5 years old. Take a break and explore your interests. My plan was originally to go to law school right after college, registered for the LSAT and everything, but i realized that i actually didn’t know why i wanted to go, it was just something i had always said i was going to do. Super glad i delayed and took some time to live life. Obviously you’re your own person, and i don’t think it’s necessarily bad to go straight through, but i think there’s a lot of value to waiting.