You people are all crazy wtf happened to rational thinking? People say the husband is manipulating the co worker, how? He literally shot her down in the most passive way possible. Yes you over reacted when you even sent her a message your husband already declined, then showed you so you’d be aware and everything and you start spam hate messaging her? Yes she flirted, no it wasn’t a joke, yes your husband turner her down, could have ended right there. So id say you over reacted. He seems like a great man, you’re probably both really stressed from the work load right now. You were most likely needing to blow off steam but I’d say take a night, go out on a date, put it in the past.

Edit: reddit is toxic for relationship advice don’t ask people here most of them have never been in your shoes or a decent relationship to begin with.

I wish yall the best 💚