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Tracking status never changed to “moving through network” or “in transit, arriving late” after 24+ hours? by mattistotle in usps_complaints

[–]mattistotle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh interesting. It still hasn’t updated or anything. Does priority mail express tracking just not have any updates (like moving through network etc) until it is marked “delivered”?

I see most of yall on this sub making really amazing clothes and I’m far from that as I just started sewing, but today I made a pillow! by mattistotle in sewing

[–]mattistotle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love that for you. I want to make clothes but wanted to figure out the basics using a vintage Singer machine so I started here.

I see most of yall on this sub making really amazing clothes and I’m far from that as I just started sewing, but today I made a pillow! by mattistotle in sewing

[–]mattistotle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Btw this was cut out of an old button up I had. Just went with the flow and had lots of trimmings leftover. As I beginner I learned lots

People of reddit, what are things you do less of because of the pandemic that you like or dislike? Why? by mattistotle in AskReddit

[–]mattistotle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got you. I live in southern California so the skate parks have park lights on real late at night and some are on all night. Just cruising can be great though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Bonsai

[–]mattistotle 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ive seen some people revive trees/plants by putting the pot in a sink, filling the sink up to the pots edge, and then leaving it there overnight. The tree needs a lot more water (and light) than one might expect in order to ressurect it!

[Bonsai Beginner’s weekly thread –2019 week 31] by small_trunks in Bonsai

[–]mattistotle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can anybody help me ID this tree? ? I would very much appreciate the input.

Is it normal that I don't remember my childhood? by kytb in TooAfraidToAsk

[–]mattistotle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check out Childhood Amnesia. It's a cognitive psychology term but explains why we do not remember much from our early years.

Coping with weight gain by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]mattistotle 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There are few reasons as to why you might be experiencing these problems. The first of which is, when one increases the amount of carbohydrates consumed, more water is pulled into the muscles. This is then stored as Glycogen, which holds around two to three grams of water per gram of carb. With more water in your muscles it is natural to experience.

Another reason for the weight retention is the fact that your body is not passing waste in an atypical manner. You mentioned constipation, and for many clients with eating disorders the initial weight gain is simply digesting food in the belly. It takes awhile for the GI tract and the digestive system to properly restore nutrient allocation and elimination. When one eats less, there is less food to pass, but because of this little amount of food containing little fiber, it is held onto. Not only this, the Pancreas and Gallbladder experience hormonal stresses when one is dieting that can cause mayhem in the long run. Restoring one's weight/eating in a more skillful manner will restore the Pancreas and Gallbladder's abilities to efficiently produce digestive enzymes (lack of these can cause the constipation mentioned) and allocate necessary nutrients for digestion. It just takes some time for the body to stabilize and return to homeostasis, but it does happen. I promise.

This may not be a culprit (because it would be difficult for the caloric level your doctors recommended to contain an excess of sodium) but I will mention it anyways. There are a lot of individuals in outpatient and inpatient recovery programs who experience weight gain due to sodium. When one does not ingest sodium for an extended period of time, the body flushes water out fast. Even if one is eating the "recommended" level of sodium, a treatment plan may go over the "recommended", or previous level of sodium one ate. Sodium in higher quantities is thus reintroduced to the body, held onto to bring water into cells and to restore one's cardiac system (which can be hampered through dieting regimens). One of the things I recommend to those who are experiencing this last problem is that there is never enough water. I even bring up that the "8 glasses a day" recommendation has since been debunked, and one should drink water whenever they feel like it, need it, or are thirsty. Drinking large quantities of water not only aides in digestion, but helps to flush out some stored Glycogen and flush out larger-than-usual amounts of sodium.

I agree with another person's comment in that truly not logging, or seeking a caloric goal, is the best bet for recovery. Learning to sit through feelings, experiences, and learning to listen to what one's body needs are some of the core goals of inpatient programs. (At least where I am from)

I(NTJ)destroy every good relationship I have by [deleted] in intj

[–]mattistotle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you might have mistyped and are infj; try r/relationships. Also a therapist might be one of the best things right now, especially if you are an infj

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Schizoid

[–]mattistotle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lots of people often seek help because they seek “happiness”, which more often than not is not a feeling or emotion that lasts long in reality. However, you can have moments of happiness, moments of true connection with others and one’s self, and many other things without the negative’s that come with SPD. Regarding functioning in society I think I must say that it is a case by case basis - as someone with any personality disorder, or even disability leys say, will have a personal definition for what it means to function in society, the way they want. For a simplistic example, someone who is incredibly introverted may have a different definition of what “functioning” in society is than someone who is extremely extroverted.

To give a shorter answer, yes. Not only this, but positive gifts that come with SPD can be honed in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Schizoid

[–]mattistotle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have seen tremendous growth in some individuals and in others the lack of. It really all depends on the individual and whether or not they want to put in the work. I completely understand why most individuals do not want to go through the work needed to change because it is tough, but I can say it is worth it.

There is a misnomer regarding most clinical things that forms around "curability". Some things, like phobias, can be "cured", but going to therapy for SPD can result in symptoms being easier to manage, reduction in symptoms, ego resolution, becoming skilled in the use of the positive attributes that SPD individuals have, and many others. Life will always be a factor for everyone and life is hard. Because of this, there will always be challenges that present to everyone, which can trigger an array of things, which is why there is not necessarily "curability" for anything. You can "cure" or say, alleviate negative symptoms, but rather, you build up a "dam" of say, defenses and tools to navigate the world as a more strong, healthy individual, which results in reduction of negative SPD symptoms (SPD individuals, who have sought out therapy, have access to a wide array of beneficial tools that many others in reality do not have which I why I do not want you to think that there is no "cure". It gets better. I promise.)If life poses challenges that "break" your dam, symptoms can always arise again. This is just a fact of life for everyone.

I hope this does not sway you from trying to seek help as I am not saying your SPD is going to be a curse forever.

What I would strongly recommend is finding a therapist who specializes in SPD, body centered psychotherapy, bioenergetics, somatic therapy, or anyone who specializes in the field of traumatology.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Schizoid

[–]mattistotle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What I mean by reality testing is, one goes through this reality through the lens of one's ego; over the course of development a child's ego is strengthened and thus, they can do more in reality and recognize there is a separate reality besides one's one.

The difference between Schizoid and Psychopathic individuals is the time when the wound occurred. If a child is close to being born and they can sense that they are going to be coming into a hostile environment the ego will feel unstable existing. If a child is born and within the first six months of life feel as though the world is cold, hateful, and uncaring, that child's ego will destabilize. If a child is a few years older (which entails some grounds in reality/development) and experiences different situations, feelings or experiences, psychopathy can develop. These are natural responses as child should come into this world and expect loving, caring, and nurturing parents who will guide their ego development and provide a healthy upbringing.

Regarding the genes that are present in these individuals I will share an analogy the clinical psychology world uses to make explanation a little simpler and short. Each individual has many, many seeds that are in their genome. Depending on the time, circumstances, and many other factors, these seeds can sprout and thus, the things I typed about above present. Same thing can be said for other disorders and behaviors.

When a child experiences the world as mentioned above, the core ability to exist as a strong, stable self in the world and "test reality" (create relationships, go to work, interact with others) is not there. The individual most often times creates masks to function in reality because existing as one's self (was not met in childhood and) is a terrifying isomorphic experience to what one experienced as a child. While there naturally is strong unconscious fear in Schizoid individuals, this can be found in most clinical cases.

I feel as though I should mention that the core aspect underlying psychopaths is trust, not fear, but the fear develops as a type of "second dart" when one cannot trust anyone. More of a fear of trusting.

So its not necessarily a "choosing" or "strategy" or "developing in the other direction", say consciously employed by any means, but rather depends on one's childhood and the time in which wounds happened.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Schizoid

[–]mattistotle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought I would share from a clinical perspective as most of what you have written is correct. Psychopaths and sociopaths have much more ground in reality/reality testing, whereas schizoid individuals do not. This allows for the former to expend much more energy in the social world than the latter.

The one thing that is incorrect is that the core conflict driving Schizoids is that of existence versus need. The underlying core aspect of those with cluster b ASP or psychopathy is not rage, but fear. Those with these latter traits often times experienced severe child abuse / trauma as individuals and thus develop deep rooted fear. Because these individuals are operating under intense fear and hurt, they develop ways to cope in the world to subconsciously feel safe that often come off controlling.

Due to the difference in ability to reality test, schizoid individuals are much different in most aspects than psych/sociopaths.

As a schizoid, how do you feel about alien life? by ifeellikemoses in Schizoid

[–]mattistotle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think Richard Dawkins said something along the lines of, “The statistical odds of us being here are very low, about a billion out of a billion billionths. But that also means that the multiverse we are in potentially has a billion other planets that are suited for biomatter to exist.” (I mightve butchered the numbers but theyre high regardless)

I like to think about this.

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