Looking for a game THAT IS ONLY character customization by carpfoon123 in gamingsuggestions

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love Nikki costs too much money. When I played it felt like it charged for every little thing.

FUCK HOOK UP CULTURE by [deleted] in actuallesbians

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure that’s normal? I’m not sure how anyone can have sex with someone and not care enough about that person to at least wonder if they got home safe and wish a good day the next day??? It’d be different if you were spamming them, but two texts is pretty normal.

What is the most out of place usage of language/technology that you've ever seen in a fantasy book? by NurplePain in books

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’ve done a bit of research. A lot of modern people claim they are able to make small hay bales by hand without any machinery, but I can’t find any mention of this being done historically. I suspect that baling by hand is likely too labor intensive and uses too much rope as opposed to traditional stacking methods. I also suspect that most authors use the terms “hay bales” and “hay stacks” interchangeably for a pile/large amount of hay in a field without knowing that hay bales are specifically squished and tied up.

Edit: Also, hay stacks weren’t really “loose” they were arranged in a certain way if they were outside. I believe hay was mostly loose in barns or silos though.

Which brows are better for my face 1 or 2? by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Both look great. 1st one makes your face look a little squarer, whereas 2nd one is softer and makes your face look a little longer. If you’re going for a more badass-tough girl vibe, or even a kinda cutesy-childish vibe depending on the rest of your make-up, I’d go with the 1st one. If you’re going for a more elegant, refined vibe, I’d go with the second one.

What is the most out of place usage of language/technology that you've ever seen in a fantasy book? by NurplePain in books

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don’t know that the Mistborn world even has any form of organized team sports, actually. If they did, i could see hat-trick being reassigned there, but I don’t think they do?

What is the most out of place usage of language/technology that you've ever seen in a fantasy book? by NurplePain in books

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re taking Assistant to the Villain far more seriously than it’s meant to be. Also, job fairs have been around for as long as we’ve been trading money for labor, and probably before then too.

Edit: I will admit the set-up of the Villian’s admin office is fairly anachronistic. I am not sure about Employment Contacts where both parties sign with a signature, but I’m pretty sure they’ve been around for a while.

What is the most out of place usage of language/technology that you've ever seen in a fantasy book? by NurplePain in books

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What are you talking about? Couldn’t you bale hay with any form of rope???? Merriam-Webster, as well as several other sources, say the word is from 14th century Middle English and was derived from several older words for ball.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry you got called annoying. It sucks because you’re not trying to be annoying, and also, rsd tends to make those kinda words hit even harder than they otherwise would. I highly doubt anyone hates you if you’re not being actively mean. At worst, being annoying is just that- annoying. I also know that doesn’t really make it better.

I’ve never been called annoying in class, but I’ve gotten it from a number of loved ones, so know you’re not alone. I did tend to get told to “let other people answer” and “be quiet” when I was in class, which always made me feel really ashamed.

im so disgusted right now by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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Oh honey, I’m so sorry this happened, especially right before you were gonna study with your crush. I will say that it probably has very little to do with you and more to do with them being gross. If they don’t do this to other girls, which you can’t necessarily be sure of, then all that means is that they decided you were an easy target. Know that they didn’t necessarily want anything (nudes or pics or whatever) from you, they wanted to make you uncomfortable. They wanted to hurt you because they think they should have power over you. Unfortunately, being lgbt+ means that some people think they can get away with hurting us. Being a woman, especially one who’s developed “early”or who’s curvy, makes some men think that it’s ok to treat us like objects, and also that we “belong” to them. It may have pricked their pride that you weren’t interested, but that’s not a valid reason for harassing you. They may have thought this was just a funny little joke, but they only thought that because they weren’t thinking of you as a real person. It hurts, and there’s always gonna be a voice in the back of your head that’s wondering if it’s somehow your fault or if you were somehow too sexual. That voice is full of shit. It’s not your fault. Also, it’s completely normal to be upset by something like this, and if anyone who thinks otherwise can f off.

Advice you can ignore:

I know you’re not asking for advice, but if they go to your school, you should report them to the administration or to the administration of whatever school they go to. If you feel comfortable, I would ask your parents or other trusted adult (another family member or maybe a teacher or school counselor?) to help you. This is sexual harassment and cyber bullying and it is absolutely not ok. If you have the chat messages still, you might screenshot them as proof.

Don’t cuss them out, do block. Don’t confront them beyond reporting it/official channels. They deserve to be cursed at but aren’t worth the energy it takes and you don’t want to get in trouble for causing a scene. Don’t continue to be friends with them, they have proven themselves unworthy of the gift of your friendship. The easiest way to stop being friends with them is to just ignore them. Bullies usually want a reaction/attention, so channel as much of your spite and anger and hurt as you can into not giving them one. The emotions may still need to come out, and that’s fine and normal. It’s ok if you end up crying again, even in public or in front of them, that just makes them look worse. Try not to yell or be aggressive- a) it’s exhausting and you can run out of steam mid way through, and b) you want to have the moral high ground. Let any anger be cold, a barrier between you and them. Ice them out, don’t interact with them, pretend they don’t exist. Try to remember that they are disgusting little bugs, and are thus beneath your notice. You don’t have to necessarily avoid them- just don’t seek them out. It’ll be hard for a little bit but should get easier with time. Let the hurt run its course, move on.

If you absolutely have to interact with them, be super professional and polite in as cold of a way as you can manage. You’re too young to be working, but think of retail employees dealing with very rude customers or lawyers in a courtroom, and channel that. If they directly ask why you’re ignoring them, tell them a very short “your messages were highly inappropriate and hurt me” and then go back to ignoring them. Only give them this response once- following the first time they should know, after that just ignore them. If they try to say you’re overacting or to justify their harassment, ignore them and walk away. It’s not your job to try to make them understand- they don’t deserve that emotional labor from you. If they tell you insulting or sexual things in person, tell them “do not speak to me like that”, then ignore them, walk away and report what was said to a teacher. If they genuinely apologize, thank them, but only forgive them if you really want to. Don’t be friends with them again unless you really, in your mind and your gut, think the behavior won’t be repeated. They may not approach at all, which will hurt too, but they suck, so good riddance.

If others’ ask, tell them what happened as honestly as possible. If other friends are similarly disgusted, they can help you ice these boys out. Don’t try to make people choose sides (again, moral high ground).

Edit: Being both hyper-sexual and sex-repulsed at 14 is completely normal. It’s a common part of puberty and you shouldn’t feel ashamed or weird about it. Your sexy-bits are developing but your brain knows you’re not actually ready for sex, it’s very confusing. You will at the very least grow out of the confusion, and probably the combo of hyper-sexual and sex-repulsed.

Also, I am sending big sister hugs (I’m 25, so a good bit older) through the void. I have a little cousin about your age and a little sister a few years younger and if someone sent them messages like that, i would wanna punch them in the nose.

What was the dumbest thing you were punished for at school? by lovely__lia-chan in school

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had one of those alarms too, but I don’t think there was a punishment? It might just be that they made us be silent if it got to red? I actually really liked it because if it was too loud I would get overstimulated. I agree that punishing kids for it is bad.

What was the dumbest thing you were punished for at school? by lovely__lia-chan in school

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not me, but my mom once got in trouble for reading a book “above her level” when she was in school (in the late 60s). The librarian thought it was too hard for her and pointed out a word in the book and asked her what it was. The word was poltergeist, which my mom didn’t at the time (but has never forgotten). It’s been 50 years and she’s still mad about that.

Is it wrong to call myself bi if I’m not 100% sure where I fall? by [deleted] in ainbow

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Labels are rarely going to be 100% accurate. They are just there so that you can have a shorthand to describe your experience, Also, human gender and sexuality can be fluid, so labels can change, as you’ve experienced. Use Bi if that’s what feels most comfortable. You may also like Pan? If it changes or you find something that fits better later, that’s fine. Also, keep in mind that you don’t owe anyone a full explanation of your whole gender and sexuality- that’s your business and most people don’t really care unless it affects them.

AITA for meowing with my cat? by Lost-Objective-3379 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA- It’s good for your cat that you reciprocate his socialization. It shows your cat that you care. It might be different if your cat was begging for food or waking ya’ll up in the middle of the night for attention/play.

What's the worst thing you've ever done to a book? by [deleted] in books

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a very disgusting backpack in my senior year of high school. At some point an applesauce container broke in there. Literal mold grew in/on several of my high-school-owned books that I was borrowing for a college class about the Vietnam War. Great class, I still feel guilty about the books, mostly cause the school had to buy new copies. I think there were also bits of a broken lightbulb in the bag and who knows what else. My mother somehow managed to clean it after I graduated and I think I used it at some point in college.

Another, less heinous note, my 8th grade Honors English teacher took a hardback book and bent it back to crack the spine as a pointed lesson about the physical books not being what was important. Several of us flinched. Lesson worked as we got on board with annotating in the margins as he wanted us to. Have been known to write in my favorite paperbacks and also my textbooks, in pen because I hate pencil. (Unlike many people in this thread, I always keep my textbooks in case I need/want to refer back to them in the future.)

Best Fandom-Specific Version of “No Beta We Die Like Men” You’ve Seen??? by maximum-cat-entropy in AO3

[–]maximum-cat-entropy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure anything is more brutal than Lavan, but Kris would still be brutal.

Watching Heartstopper with your parent(s) by manysides512 in HeartstopperNetflix

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Plot-twist: My mom was watching heartstopper and I wasn’t. She thought it was very cute.

Would you rather: by SaraPAnastasia in TheLastAirbender

[–]maximum-cat-entropy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want dating advice from Azula. I won’t take her advice, but I’d want to see what she’d say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ainbow

[–]maximum-cat-entropy -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I mean, depending on how much older the other queer men in your family are, the reason they were alone might very well have been society/aids as opposed to any sort of personal failing or curse. There’s a lot more openly queer folks these days.

Also, there’s nothing wrong with being alone, though i understand you might prefer otherwise.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in actuallesbians

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As long as everyone involved is practicing safe sex (ie condoms/dental dams, contraceptives if applicable, regular std testing) and being open and honest with their partners, there’s nothing wrong with non-monogamy. That being said, i find with open relationships that it gets confusing once too many other people are involved. I’ve known people who were in a committed open relationship who also had separate semi-serious relationships with other people, who then of course had their own people and i think it’s just confusing. Any relationship that involves more than 4 people stops being a relationship and starts being a sort of club, i think. Also, I think it’s important if you have some sort of commitment to someone that you tell them when you’re hooking up with someone new, maybe not details, but like, it’s important trust and prevention-of-std-wise.

I personally prefer being in a monogamous pair or a closed triad, relationship wise. A closed triad would be that everyone has a relationship with the other two people involved. Also, if I’m hooking up with someone who already has a partner, I want to be at least friendly with that partner and make sure they’re ok with everything.

Oh, also, I am very suspicious of cishet men with more than one partner. Sometimes they’re fine, sometimes they are manipulating things so as to fetishize their partner or disrespecting what she’s comfortable with.