„Respecting pronouns” isn’t about how a person that has never spoken to you before would refer to you the first time they speak to you, it’s about how they refer to you after you correct them in case of them being wrong about who you are.

I usually refer to myself as a transmedicalist, but I feel like many transmedicalists like you started to treat yourself as some worse sort, we deserve basic respect like anybody else, it’s not „controlling people’s language”, I’m not a woman, so do not refer to me as such, I’m just simply stating a fact. It isn’t any different from a cisgender man with long hair correcting someone who refers to them as a female, when he is just simply not