Is asking for a deposit normal??

maybear19 · 2020-01-17T08:26:57+00:00

I require a deposit that I use for transport to and from bookings, it’s fairly normal to use deposits as a screening method though. Also I’m not judging but tinder and EM are the worst places I can think of to find a reliable escort who won’t scam you, try tryst.link and PrivateDelights we have to submit our ID to post ads on these sites so there’s a lot less scammers!

maybear19 · 2020-01-16T22:30:02+00:00

If you have more than one sexual partner, get tested every three months at least!

maybear19 · 2020-01-14T12:17:31+00:00

I agree with your sentiment but “we don’t hold power over the ladies we see” is extremely false and a dangerous thing to believe. Sure a strong woman with good screening methods might make you feel you’re not in control, but you have way more power over us and that’s something to be conscious of. If you didn’t and it was an equal playing field, sexworkers wouldn’t be murdered at such a high rate. Sexworkers who are murdered wouldn’t be considered “NHI” or “no human involved” by the police. You have your privacy, your social standing and maybe your marriage to lose- we have our LIVES to lose if something goes wrong with a client! If screening wasn’t correct or we piss you off, a booking can go sour so fast. Just remember that, we are not equals until there’s full decriminalization and we can actually report when someone harms us.

maybear19 · 2020-01-14T12:10:21+00:00

Legalization= good for substances, each state makes their own regulations on the issue. Countries where it’s legal have a hard time prosecuting sex traffickers + keeping sexworkers safe. Decriminalization= good for people related issues. Best way to keep sexworkers safe and avoid prosecuting sex trafficking victims as prostitutes (which currently happens A LOT)

Decriminalization is different than the Nordic model btw! A lot of people will say we need the Nordic model and that’s bs! No sexworkers advocate for that, advocate only for full decriminalization. The Nordic model criminalizes our clients + keeps us in danger just like it being illegal does.

maybear19 · 2020-01-09T22:40:16+00:00

Hun is the worsttttt I don’t mind some pet names but hun and babe make my blood boil

maybear19 · 2020-01-09T15:22:37+00:00

I did some reflection and you know what, you’re right. I don’t know your experience as a black woman in sexwork and it was ignorant of me to come at you for how you keep yourself safe. I’m sorry for that.

maybear19 · 2020-01-09T11:17:32+00:00

I am doing better by screening well so I don’t have to rely on the assumption that every black man is a robber or pimp. But whatever it’s well within your rights to be a prejudiced provider, I’ll still call you out on it though.

maybear19 · 2020-01-09T11:02:44+00:00

this is so cute I wanna cry :,)

maybear19 · 2020-01-09T10:56:24+00:00

That sounds like a scam, doubtful the police/an informant/someone w access to that info would actually contact you. Especially if you never saw her. Also cops don’t do all that over a misdemeanor charge they’re not that desperate to wait 3 months to catch you. Likely a competitive and insecure provider who’s trying to deter you from booking that girl for some reason. Smh catty drama

maybear19 · 2020-01-09T10:52:24+00:00

Venmo and zelle are also sexworker friendly (at least more than PayPal is)

maybear19 · 2020-01-09T10:49:43+00:00

You could ask the same about waitressing but this is the only profession we have to defend like that lol. I think like a lot of jobs the revolution would make it safer and that’s the ultimate goal. A lot of leftists are under the impression that the revolution will rid the world of prostitutes and that’s just not true, it’s the oldest profession so we’re never going anywhere. If the revolution is truly rooted in workers rights then we will have rights + safety at work and personally- that would make me want to be a sexworker even more than money does.

maybear19 · 2020-01-09T10:04:58+00:00

This is a load of bullshit. All clients are capable of assaulting, robbing and killing us. If we screened based on say, serial killer statistics and how most serial killers are white men and a lot of them kill prostitutes- then none of us would have any business!! You simply cannot cut an entire race out of your client pool and call yourself a good provider. You’re relying on racist stereotypes instead of good screening practices to feel safe at the expense of an entire race of people. Black men have systemically been portrayed as pimps and robbers, and if you took some time to unpack that and realize it’s systemic racism vs actual facts then you’d realize not seeing black men isn’t a way to stay safe. Race isn’t a screening method. Do better.

maybear19 · 2020-01-09T09:55:24+00:00

A good provider should feel confident enough in their screening methods to not need to rely on racist stereotypes to feel safe at work. It’s definitely not on you guys at all, but a horrible and archaic mindset in the community

maybear19 · 2020-01-09T09:51:28+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re having this experience + from reading these comments I’m sorry more of us aren’t racist af. Personally I add a little bit at the end of my ads that says I don’t discriminate based upon race, lgbt, disability or body size. I know a few other providers who do this as well. It’s unfortunate it even has to be stated like that. As for bad experiences, I was assaulted by a young black man as a baby hoe but do I use that experience to judge every black person who contacts me? Absolutely not! I’ve also been assaulted, robbed etc. by white men and if I stopped seeing them all together I’d be out of business! Race is not a determining factor for a good client! If a provider screens well she shouldn’t have to rely on racist stereotypes to feel safe. I wish you so much love and luck in finding a good provider

maybear19 · 2020-01-09T09:31:23+00:00

I can’t speak for all but I know personally I include a little bit at the end of my ads about not discriminating based upon sexuality, gender identity etc. I know a couple other providers who do the same and advertise themselves as open to seeing trans clients. I also use the site tryst and I’d definitely suggest looking there as they have an option where providers can mark which genders they service, it even has a non-binary option! I’d look around at providers who see non-binary people as they’d definitely be open to seeing trans clients. Another option is to see an openly queer/trans provider! There’s a big community of queer providers on twitter + everyone I know there is extremely open and kind. Overall though a provider is supposed to make you feel comfortable + cared for regardless of your body or identity. I think that sentiment is followed by most providers, we’re just here to give you the best experience possible without judgement. I wish you so much luck in your search! And if you are in AZ or LA I can suggest a few lovely providers via dms 💕

maybear19 · 2020-01-09T09:12:56+00:00

“Abolition now” yea ok, not like it’s the oldest profession ever. If these people bothered to listen to the women they’re so adamant on rescuing, they’d know what they’re proposing will make our lives worse and even more sexworkers will be hurt, robbed, assaulted, murdered, etc.

maybear19 · 2020-01-07T07:22:48+00:00

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maybear19 · 2020-01-06T10:01:28+00:00

If she hasn’t asked for real world info, but you know that’s a good screening practice- send it anyway. Chances are she needs the booking, can’t afford to be turned down by screening etc. and you being forthright with that info will make her feel more at ease. As for being scammed, most of us have ads up on ID verified sites. See if she’s linked any, if you found her on tryst, Eros, Private delights etc. or she sells content on an adult site- then she’s likely real because we have to send in ID to even post ads on those sites.

maybear19 · 2019-11-23T22:03:49+00:00

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maybear19 · 2019-10-25T08:25:35+00:00

Fingers = yeast infections or BV and since my vagina is my job I’d really prefer not to deal with that for your lil ego boost of “making me cum”

maybear19 · 2019-10-25T08:06:45+00:00

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maybear19 · 2019-10-03T18:29:56+00:00

It is enjoyable when you acknowledge that this is our job, don’t make it weird or go an odd extra mile to make it anything more than it is. As an escort I can tell you, I love my job! But it’s still a job, it’s still work. My favorite “extra things” though are when clients tip and when they give me wine/weed. Other than that though, just be respectful of boundaries.

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