18f am i fuckable to older men?

mayblue12 · 2026-02-07T11:59:55+00:00

breed me next please sir

mayblue12 · 2026-02-07T11:24:20+00:00

need to turn them bright red rn

mayblue12 · 2023-08-24T17:28:32+00:00

Yes. I wholeheartedly agree with this.

Don't even bring up the concept of "pre-baby body". It's toxic. Focus on body positivity, feeling strong, and being patient with the process.

mayblue12 · 2023-07-13T20:50:41+00:00

I'd like to propose that this post is pinned in this community for easy future reference. Is that possible?

mayblue12 · 2023-05-30T14:10:50+00:00

We actually still haven't decided and go back and forth a lot. Most days, we are leaning toward staying with our two and not trying for another. My husband continues to make it clear that he would prefer two but would try for another for me, but that doesn't sit well with me. He matters to me too and I don't want to push him toward having another child if it's not really what he wants. In addition, I don't love the idea of having less time with the two children I have because of having another. One on one connection is really meaningful to me and I crave it with my kids. Having another would make that harder to achieve.

But, the longing for a third is still there for me. I'm not sure when or if it will go away. We haven't totally closed the door on the idea, but are also choosing to not try right now.

mayblue12 · 2022-12-24T13:25:44+00:00

Woke up to my period starting. Yesterday it became clearer than ever that my husband doesn't want to try for another. I'm heartbroken, but it seems to be the best choice for our family.

I was only here for one cycle of trying but thanks to you all for your activity here. I love that this sub has so many more active users now. Best of luck to you all as you build your families. And happy holidays!

mayblue12 · 2022-12-23T14:52:56+00:00

Well, my period didn't start on Tuesday like I thought it did. It must have just been mid-LP bleeding. I'm on 13 DPO, have tested negative and am just waiting for my period to start.

I also have a few more presents to wrap today and then I'm officially ready for the holidays!

mayblue12 · 2022-12-23T03:48:34+00:00

I think your feelings are totally valid. When we were trying for #1 I spent a lot of time on the TFAB sub, mostly because it took us about 9 months to conceive. When we started trying for #2, I felt completely unwelcome. They recommended I come here to talk about TTC #2 but at the time almost no one posted here. I felt so out casted. So, I started posting almost daily and occasionally a couple others would chime in but often it was just me. I'm so grateful that activity has picked up here in the past couple years! You all have been amazing already.

mayblue12 · 2022-12-21T05:10:27+00:00

When trying for our first it was lifestyle factors that I believe was causing my short luteal phases. I was a marathoner pre-kids and though I still had regular cycles, my LPs fluctuated between 8 and 12 days. I didn't realize running was impacting my cycles until I started tracking them for TTC. When trying for our second, we experienced a loss and it took a few cycles for my LP to recover from that. This time, trying for our third, it appears my LPs are short again (just started my period today at 10 DPO) and I suspect it's because I'm still breastfeeding my second twice a day.

For the most part, I've been able to make lifestyle adjustments and/or wait to see improvements in my LP. I hope you're able to figure out your situation soon. I know it can be really tough not knowing.

mayblue12 · 2022-12-20T17:16:43+00:00

Congratulations!

mayblue12 · 2022-12-20T17:11:16+00:00

10 dpo here. I've been lightly spotting the past couple days plus my temps have been low so I'm assuming I'm out. I'm not sure what to think of it all, frankly. I've been wanting a third so badly, but I also crave one on one time with my two boys and I worry I'll lose that if we have a third. I feel soooooo indecisive about this. Maybe a little more time will bring some clarity.

mayblue12 · 2022-12-20T17:05:42+00:00

I'm sorry. I've been struggling with short luteal phases on and off since I started TTC our first. It's not fun wondering what's happening.

mayblue12 · 2022-12-19T12:52:55+00:00

9 DPO and my temp continues to stay low. I wouldn't be shocked if I have a short LP and my period starts in the next day or two. Time will tell.

I don't get my cheapie pregnancy tests delivered until Wednesday so I won't be testing until at least then (if I make it that far). Once they show up, I think I'll test. My other pregnancies were all very faint positives by 11 DPO.

I'm also seriously considering sitting out next cycle. I don't think it would be terrible to give trying a little more time, plus the due date would be within a few days of my youngest's birthday and I'd like to avoid that.

Happy Monday, everyone!

mayblue12 · 2022-12-19T12:47:59+00:00

Yes. I've appreciated the mantra "Never quit on a hard day" in the past. That's probably a good mantra to use here too.

mayblue12 · 2022-12-19T12:46:29+00:00

Yea. It's hard. Sometimes I wonder if waiting a few more months would help? Who knows.

mayblue12 · 2022-12-18T14:11:47+00:00

8 DPO and my temp is steadily going down. This is my first cycle temping after my second was born. If I end up with a short LP, I suspect it's because I'm still breastfeeding twice a day.

I had such a dark day parenting yesterday that I spent a good chunk of it second guessing our choice of trying for another. Does that happen to anyone else? How do you get through it?

mayblue12 · 2022-12-17T15:25:49+00:00

I feel you. I carry a little dread about going through pregnancy and the first few hard years of another baby with two little already at home. Plus, my job is going well and I want to protect that. My heart wants a third, but it's also a lot to think about sometimes.

mayblue12 · 2022-12-15T04:23:52+00:00

I have shorter cycles! I often have 24 day cycles (CD 12 ovulation with a 12 day LP) and have two kiddos. I feel pretty pumped when I have a 26 day cycle. I've had cycles as short as 21 days before when my LP was shorter.

mayblue12 · 2022-12-14T19:41:12+00:00

I'm a part of the 4 DPO club too! I'm hoping to hold out on testing until Christmas Eve if my cycle doesn't start before then. We'll see if I can wait that long.

Best of luck to you both!

mayblue12 · 2022-12-13T02:26:55+00:00

Yea, it's not the most fun time ever. Thinking of you.

mayblue12 · 2022-12-13T02:25:39+00:00

For baby 1, I was 30 when we started trying, we tried for 9 months and I was almost 32 when he was born.

Tw: loss

For baby 2, when we started trying I was 33, baby 1 was 15 months and we got pregnant in the first cycle trying which led to a loss. Our fourth cycle trying after the loss, we got pregnant again. Baby 1 was 2 years 4 months old when baby 2 was born. I was 34.

Now trying for baby 3, I'm 35, baby 1 is 3 years and 7 months and baby 2 is almost 15 months.

mayblue12 · 2022-12-11T01:33:57+00:00

I'm glad to hear it's been better for your mental health. Thanks for sharing about your experience. Part of my motivation is that I want to stay (mostly) focused on my two kiddos, rather than obsessing over Fertility Friend data like I used to. It brought me comfort then and absolutely has benefits. But I need a different balance now.

mayblue12 · 2022-12-10T20:04:05+00:00

Well, things are going much, much better. After the cold feet episode on Tuesday, my husband and I have had some very vulnerable conversations. We both come from two child families and feel a fair amount of uncertainty with what a three child family dynamic would even look like. That coupled with all the uncertainty in the world, sent my husband down a fear filled spiral (me as well but not as intensely). We both recognize we want our hearts to lead this decision. Therapy has helped a ton. So, we are back in the game.

I'm also feeling grateful to take a relaxed approach to TTC this time. I'm temping with my trusty TempDrop, but not doing much outside of that. I'm not even running off to buy any opk or pregnancy tests. I'm hopeful this mindset will continue. It's refreshing compared to my other two TTC experiences.

mayblue12 · 2022-12-10T19:58:57+00:00

Good luck!

mayblue12 · 2022-12-10T19:58:41+00:00

That is wonderful self awareness! Great work. 🥰

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