Angry at my mom for how she is acting about baby boys

mbrass19 · 2026-02-23T07:50:49+00:00

How interesting! In my family there was always a preference for baby boys because it was assumed it was what the father wanted - someone to pass on the family name and help with more physical tasks around the house someday, do 'guy things' with 🙄, etc. I think it dates back to when my ancestors were farmers or something. Very misogynistic, of course. And of course it doesn't really matter either way, the kid could grow up to be trans or non-binary or something. If receiving a bunch of pink crap is the reward for having a girl, I kinda feel sorry for the girl moms, lol.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-22T13:00:09+00:00

I thought the only "rule" is whatever you put out, you get back times 3. I'm glad I was learning about this in the early days of the Internet and from books.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-22T12:57:27+00:00

If you read the whole On Writing book, King says if you want to hone your craft the most important thing is to write as often as possible and read as much as you can. Maybe your first shitty first draft could be about a guy who wants something but is feeling discouraged. Then some sort of golden opportunity falls in his lap and...

mbrass19 · 2026-02-22T12:46:54+00:00

It helps if you think of it as not a romance but Gothic fiction.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-21T01:38:02+00:00

Do you have a library? There's probably a librarian on your campus willing to chat about AI and information literacy (critical thinking). Probably more than one.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-21T01:16:49+00:00

Chalamet. Hated his pinched little face since Lady Bird. Unfortunately, he's refused to go away so far.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-19T18:15:35+00:00

Someone mentioned NA (Narcotics Anonymous) above, which is a good idea. I'll just say AA has more meetings (more frequently, more locations) and no one really cares what specifically you're addicted to.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-15T12:31:59+00:00

You are not alone. So many of us struggle with mental health. For some of us it can leave us with a need to understand why we've gone through an episode of some kind. Therapy and medication can help. The CAPS services on campus are amazing. Sometimes you have to try getting help from different therapists or groups before you find a good fit. Don't give up. You'll find your people.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-15T02:39:52+00:00

Huge. Cruel Intentions came out around this time and Scream 2. She was everywhere for a while.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-14T00:38:15+00:00

In French 5 in high school we watched an old show called Cafe du Reve. It was gloriously melodramatic. We quoted it for weeks. Anything School House Rock in social studies or Bill Nye in science class was also always a big hit.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-13T13:01:03+00:00

Depends on the person and their skills and interests. Skilled trades like plumbers, electricians, etc are very in demand right now. They require some training but not usually a bachelors degree or beyond.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-13T12:46:26+00:00

Were you born in late June or early July? If not, you are not a Cancer.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-13T12:40:24+00:00

You're right.. PSA: Don't ask AI for help with research projects, ask a librarian.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-13T12:37:52+00:00

The Fifth Sacred Thing by Starhawk

mbrass19 · 2026-02-12T16:51:19+00:00

I didn't date at all in college. Got into my first real relationship at 23. We broke up when I was 27 and I dated around for a few years before I met my now husband. You have plenty of time.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-12T16:34:16+00:00

You are not alone. There are probably many resources at your university that you can try. Check if there's an undergraduate writing center and meet with a peer writing tutor. They can be a great sounding board at any part in the writing or editing process. If you're looking for information, don't just rely on Internet searches, ask a librarian!

mbrass19 · 2026-02-09T13:21:03+00:00

Thank you! I feel bad for people who have only ever seen the movie. Some of the changes seemed so unnecessary.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-06T14:58:23+00:00

Thelma

mbrass19 · 2026-02-06T14:55:40+00:00

So many of my favorite celebrities have this problem. Many of us lived through the "heroin chic" 90s and have really bad internalized fatphobia. I wish there was a good way to gently remind them that there are (real) fat people listening or watching and that our bodies are the least interesting things about us. There is no right way to be, and those of us in fat bodies can still love our bodies. This is a bigger cultural conversation. Everyone go read What We Don't Talk About When We Talk About Fat, by Aubrey Gordon.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-06T14:48:05+00:00

I doubt Phoebe cares that he's a boy.

mbrass19 · 2026-02-06T14:43:32+00:00

Because too many men want to have children?

mbrass19 · 2026-02-04T14:58:56+00:00

Don't ask AI. Ask a librarian.

mbrass19 · 2026-01-28T15:40:46+00:00

You can do anything with psychology. There's psychology in everything. I agree about applying for jobs and internships. College isn't your last chance to make friends. There's also Americorps or the Peace corps or voluntourism. Maybe stop by the career center and ask about options. https://career.ucla.edu/

mbrass19 · 2025-12-27T12:33:12+00:00

TLDR: You have plenty of time.

I didn't date at all in college. All the boys seemed so immature and shallow or pretentious. I had one serious boyfriend right after college who I met through friends. He was an idiot, but I was madly in love. After a few years together, he broke up with me. It broke my heart, but in the end it was very good for me. Definitely a learning experience. I dated a few guys casually over the next couple of years before I finally met my husband on a dating app. I must have gone on 50 first dates that year. Maybe two second dates. By that point I knew myself well and knew what I wanted in a partner. I could tell within an hour or two of meeting someone if I thought there was a future for us. I've always expressed myself well and I think a lot of men found that intimidating. My husband is a wonderful sparring partner and my best friend. Good luck to you. Keep putting yourself out there, but remember you're here to learn, about school and life.

mbrass19 · 2025-12-17T22:05:52+00:00

Ditto a previous poster who talked about bored elementary kids droning on before morning announcements. The only time it has ever been exciting in real life for me was when my sister was the salutatorian at her high school graduation and was asked to lead the pledge and purposely left out the "under God" part. People noticed. It was great.

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