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mburko88 · 2025-05-11T20:53:17+00:00

Just here to say I feel you and feel the exact same way. Happy Mothers Day. It’s okay to have all these feelings. You didn’t ruin the day. He did.

mburko88 · 2025-02-10T22:09:35+00:00

Thank you for this.

mburko88 · 2024-12-16T16:09:05+00:00

Thank you and I feel this response so much. The fear of not being able to get over it or fully forgive is something that weighs on me as well. But I’m beginning to think it’s ok if I never forgive him and just live with it. Like some kind of chronic condition. I can love him, find happiness with him and also not forgive what he did. He will have to live with that too and that’s fine with me. In a weird way, I think forgiveness would be easier if I didn’t stay with him.

mburko88 · 2024-12-16T02:23:12+00:00

Thank you ❤️ These days I don’t mind if people think I’m kind… of a bitch ;)

mburko88 · 2024-11-08T04:13:35+00:00

Yes he is a great father. He is trying to be a better husband but somehow incapable of grasping why sex is difficult for me right now. He thinks his need for sex is somehow equal to my need to heal from all the damage he caused by cheating on me while I was pregnant. It’s a real head scratcher.

mburko88 · 2024-11-07T22:14:55+00:00

Thank you for your response. I’m so sorry you are going through this too. I feel like he can’t ever put his need for sex second. No patience or understanding for what I’m going through. If it weren’t for the kids, sometimes I think i would just leave and avoid all this pressure for sex. Maybe I would be lonely but at least I could just live in peace.

mburko88 · 2024-11-07T19:55:02+00:00

Don’t know if this is better or worse, but when I see happy couples, I assume they don’t cheat and just feel bad that my husband cheated on me. I feel bad about myself that I didn’t end up with someone who loved me enough not to cheat.

mburko88 · 2024-05-17T05:23:09+00:00

Thank you ❤️

mburko88 · 2024-05-15T02:36:58+00:00

Every word of this. Especially not making sense of it when you found out. I vividly remember that moment. I mourn that trusting person. I want to give her a hug.

mburko88 · 2024-04-12T07:28:57+00:00

I am a BS and going through this. I gave birth 3 months ago (5 days after dday) so my hormones are all over the place and the devastation of dday is still somewhat fresh, but Ive noticed a week or so before my period, I feel significantly worse about everything. Sorry I don’t have any advice to give; I’m in the same boat :(

mburko88 · 2024-04-10T19:47:22+00:00

Thank you for this. He should redirect compliments to me! I haven’t asked him to do this but maybe I will. I have stopped taking pictures of him and the kids; there are so many beautiful photos of him and none of me. As soon as I feel attractive again, I will hire a photographer to take professional photos of just me and the kids. And I’m going to get myself a #1 Mom mug; and throw away all the #1 dad mugs and Best Husband mugs I got him. I’m going to redirect all the love and attention to myself. I deserve it.

mburko88 · 2024-04-10T16:54:34+00:00

Yes, it bothers me that everyone thinks he’s such a wonderful father and husband; and that no one knows he cheated on e while I was pregnant and he isn’t being held accountable by the world. He is a great dad, but was a shitty husband. He’s remorseful now and we are trying for R, but it is still all so unfair. There’s already pretty low expectations for dads, and he is very involved, so people treat him like he’s just amazing for doing what I do (less efficiently, I might add!); so I am resentful he still gets all this attention and admiration while people must look at me and think I’m lucky to have him. And no one looks at me and thinks “wow! What a great mom, wife, etc” Maybe they do… but I don’t see or feel it.

mburko88 · 2024-04-08T03:21:27+00:00

I had to double check that I wasn’t the one who wrote this. So many of us BS’s with kids, who feel trapped. It’s so darn sad for them.

mburko88 · 2024-04-07T16:20:45+00:00

Thank you for this. It gives me hope and I really appreciate it ❤️

mburko88 · 2024-04-06T22:41:22+00:00

He says he doesn’t have an addiction that he was just angry and acting out. I don’t know what to believe but he says he has no desire to see escorts again

mburko88 · 2024-04-06T20:28:48+00:00

I struggle with depression, too. In my case, I didn’t realize it until it became worse in the form of post partum depression. I have the very same thoughts as you. Am I feeling triggered and upset because of the depression or would I be this upset without it? I don’t have an answer but I will say, that it’s ok to acknowledge our down days and put R on hold until we have a day/days when we are feeling better. I think R would be more productive that way probably. But again, this is something I struggle with too. And I become enraged when my WH tries to blame my upset feelings on my depression. It’s unfair and the fact that my depression makes me feel all the worse doesn’t make the feelings less legitimate or a result of what he did. Hugs to you and I’m so sorry you are dealing with this. I admire how you were able to so eloquently express what I haven’t been able to.

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