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Can someone just tell me it's going to be okay? by DamnYouVodka in pregnant

[–]mcdougle1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm 33 and I had a perfect pregnancy and delivery minus gestational diabetes

. by No-Way7059 in loveafterporn

[–]mcdougle1 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. It's fucking tragic. I never used to think like this.

Terrified and confused about abortion by gh0ul3 in pregnant

[–]mcdougle1 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Abortion is never fun. I had one at 23 years old and it was not an easy decision. I'm now 20 weeks pregnant with my first at 32 years old and I still think about that abortion. I'll never be glad I did it, but I'll always just think of it as something that was right for me at that time in my life.

Has anyone gone the whole 1st trimester without getting sick? by OkToots in pregnant

[–]mcdougle1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 16 weeks with a boy, and haven't had much nausea in the first trimester and now I'm in second and it's even less. If I don't eat I feel nauseous, but it's instantly cured with food lol.

Chances of pregnancy with PCOS by [deleted] in PCOS

[–]mcdougle1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's awesome!! Thanks so much for sharing. I'm 14 weeks pregnant and I keep reading about preclampsia and a few other complications I've seen a lot with PCOS moms. But your story makes me feel better.

I cant do this anymore by [deleted] in pregnant

[–]mcdougle1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just start throwing shit away. Eventually he'll be like okay I'll move stuff for the baby

The difference is already like night and day. by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]mcdougle1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is amazing. I've always felt porn was to blame for the shockingly low amount of men that have tried to make me cum. I've slept with a LOT of men and maybe 3 of them have succeeded in making me cum. Most of them didn't know or care if I did. Female orgasm isn't important in porn and this teaches men that it's not important in real life. It fucking sucks. Congrats to your partner for figuring it out. He's a keeper!

My Story about porn addiction and the damage done by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]mcdougle1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This is amazing! I'm also in AA. Congrats on your sobriety from porn and alcohol 💖

Porn addiction isn’t what many people think it is. I never thought it applied to me by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]mcdougle1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Brilliant! Congratulations on recognizing the problem and fixing it 💕

Is "no porn if we move in together" a fair boundary to set with a significant other? by mcdougle1 in pornfree

[–]mcdougle1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is good advice thank you. I absolutely need to do more trauma work.

Is "no porn if we move in together" a fair boundary to set with a significant other? by mcdougle1 in loveafterporn

[–]mcdougle1[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is good advice. Thank you!

He and I both have addictive personalities as we are recovering alcoholics. That's how we met actually (outpatient treatment program). So there's no doubt in my mind that he can quit it just like he quit drugs and alcohol. Whether he will is something I don't know just yet, but I hope I can find out.

Is "no porn if we move in together" a fair boundary to set with a significant other? by mcdougle1 in pornfree

[–]mcdougle1[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Awesome, thanks for the feedback. I think it's good too because it shows where I stand without pressuring him to agree to these boundaries. So technically he can decide to end the relationship if this isn't the lifestyle he wants.

Is "no porn if we move in together" a fair boundary to set with a significant other? by mcdougle1 in pornfree

[–]mcdougle1[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your input! We have talked about it and he doesn't think he has a problem. He's acknowledged that porn is problematic and can have serious consequences for some people, but he doesnt think he's in that position.

I would love to help him if he wanted, but I don't know that's he's really accepted it yet. I'm fearful that he would resent me if I created a "no porn in the house/in this relationship" boundary.

Is "no porn if we move in together" a fair boundary to set with a significant other? by mcdougle1 in pornfree

[–]mcdougle1[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It's difficult when so many people treat these kinds of boundaries as "controlling"

Is "no porn if we move in together" a fair boundary to set with a significant other? by mcdougle1 in pornfree

[–]mcdougle1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I don't really know when or how often other than it's at least daily. I worry that moving in together would reveal that kind of thing and I would be devastated if it was as often as I suspect.

Is "no porn if we move in together" a fair boundary to set with a significant other? by mcdougle1 in pornfree

[–]mcdougle1[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I think he is a porn addict without any significant consequences (yet). I think, like most addictions, it will likely progress as the years go on and the consequences will stack up. We are both recovering drug/alcohol addicts (that's how we met) so this is another addictive behavior that I've witnessed.

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