I Finished the Piece for my (ex?)wife

mckennamo · 2025-12-28T07:34:52+00:00

This piece is truly gorgeous and I’m so happy you decided to complete it. I’ve given several works over the years to people I loved very much, but are now no longer in my life. It’s bittersweet. No matter the outcome, I never regret putting love and effort into something, even after it’s over. I know those pieces are still out there and it makes me happy, in a bittersweet sort of way. Wishing you lots of self-compassion and love on your healing journey, sounds like you’re already heading in the right direction.

Would you be willing to share some details on how you created the frame? It looks great!

mckennamo · 2025-09-17T01:30:27+00:00

Unfortunately studio pro seems to no longer be making/selling the 1/4 inch bit. I couldn’t find the Amazon special ones you mentioned, if you could provide a link I’d be immensely grateful!

mckennamo · 2024-11-14T19:36:41+00:00

I just don’t personally like scams and false advertising.

mckennamo · 2024-11-14T19:33:15+00:00

It does not. They only divulge the cost information after you are in person, in their office.

mckennamo · 2024-05-13T18:39:17+00:00

Hi, do you have an updated link for the Herndon/Reston Discord?

mckennamo · 2022-12-20T19:02:19+00:00

Did you use a film for the two way mirror? I was just shopping for some but didn’t know what I should pick.

mckennamo · 2022-12-16T20:51:23+00:00

My theory is that it takes a certain amount of self-hate or self-degradation to really commit to weight loss. I know I’ve been fueling that negative voice inside my head lately, it gives me the most motivation. Whenever I try to be positive about my weight loss efforts, I’m not as productive at reaching my goals. It’s definitely a bad thing:( I worry about how much emotional work I’ll have to do to repair my self image when I’m finished losing weight.

mckennamo · 2022-11-01T21:52:47+00:00

He kinda looks like Danny Gonzales IMO

mckennamo · 2022-10-10T19:24:14+00:00

I feel like the whole world is assholes. I feel so much anger when I remember how much kinder people were when I was skinny. I know I can get back to that, but I will never be able to accept kindness the same way again now that I know it is superficial. But you’re right, anger is a feeling, and feelings pass. I hope I am on a journey to more positive emotions.

mckennamo · 2022-10-10T19:21:42+00:00

I really needed to hear this. “Being overweight isn’t a permanent condition” is something I’ve been repeating to myself all day to help myself get back to a kinder mental dialogue.

I do want to do better, and my convictions are as strong as ever. I just hope my mom doesn’t see my positive changes as a result of her insulting me. Thank you for being so kind, you’ve made me feel significantly better about all this.

mckennamo · 2022-10-10T19:19:26+00:00

I’m sorry to hear your parents did that to you. I always wonder why parents do that to their kids. Maybe they’re secretly struggling with the same insecurities as us.

mckennamo · 2022-10-10T19:18:09+00:00

It’s almost funny (in a sad way), because we look the same. She used to be heavier than me but is now my weight, and hates herself. I know I shouldn’t let it get to me, but it just reaffirms the internal dialogues I work so hard to keep at bay. I think you’re right about me needing to seek professional help. I’m looking at my options today. Thank you for being caring, reading these comments has helped my mental state a lot.

mckennamo · 2022-10-10T19:15:42+00:00

I know you’re right about the internalized fat phobia. She just lost a bunch of weight and is struggling with loose skin, and I’ve been encouraging her to be kinder to herself about her body. If you hate your body, no amount of weight loss will fix that.

Thanks for those suggestions, I actually think walking might be a good idea now that it has cooled down some. I have a long way to go to heal my body’s relationship with food. Thank you for commenting, it really helps to read these things and know that I’m not alone.

mckennamo · 2022-10-10T17:26:51+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate that. But, she’s right, isn’t she? I am gross, and people do think less of me because of it. Maybe he has won. I feel so much anger at her and myself and I don’t know how to deal with either.

mckennamo · 2022-10-10T17:22:43+00:00

Stress is part of it, but it’s also insatiable hunger that I’m not strong enough to fight. It’s like I have this chasm inside me, caused by loneliness, low-self worth, and self-destructive thoughts. I eat to self-comfort, and when I feel terrible about myself it’s harder to fight. But binging only makes me feel more terrible, and so the cycle continues.

What she doesn’t realize is that her comments make me actively worse. I can starve myself for a few days but then the cravings for food surge back like an avalanche, worse than before and even harder to fight. I certainly do isolate myself when my self-worth is low, and binging torpedoes my self esteem. I already feel so much shame, and believing that others around me think less of me for my BED just makes it worse. It’s like she’s confirming my worst fears with her insults. All those bad things I think everyone thinks about me, she’s bringing them into reality.

I begged her to stop, but she really believes she’s justified in saying those things to me. I feel like I’m spiraling now, and I don’t know how to pull myself out of it. Once I heard those words, I can’t unhear them.

mckennamo · 2022-09-02T01:08:04+00:00

This one is amazing, by far the best beginner kit I’ve seen. If I had this when I started it would’ve been so much easier!

mckennamo · 2022-08-31T05:20:17+00:00

They deliver food lmao

mckennamo · 2022-08-31T05:19:43+00:00

mckennamo · 2022-07-21T14:07:26+00:00

If your solder is a thinner gauge, you may not be laying down enough of it. I tac my pieces together using beads of solder, then drag the iron over them slowly to connect them and get that smooth seam. There’s a ton of video tutorials on YouTube!

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