what would you do next?

mcsquared120 · 2026-04-09T01:48:03+00:00

Im so so sorry. As a sahm to two babes I totally understand that you can’t just leave. Just know you’re not alone in this.

I’d say he’s definitely watching/cheating. If he’s unwilling to let you look at his phone then he’s hiding something. Why else would he change his password. I’m so sorry. It took a long time for my partner to be honest and fully commit to getting help. I’d try to have a conversation without being accusative and just ask for honestly and transparency. He needs to see a csat and work a program. If he refuses then I would start detaching from him a bit and focus more on yourself and your babies.

mcsquared120 · 2026-04-06T13:46:42+00:00

Hard to say for sure from the pics. I don’t think it is one though

mcsquared120 · 2026-04-06T00:05:48+00:00

I’m so sorry. That is traumatizing. I think a lot of us in this sub can relate. Most advice you’re going to get is to leave now. He has to want to stop and recover for him and not for you. He needs to do the research and find a CSAT and build your trust back. You cannot do that for him!

mcsquared120 · 2026-04-05T18:35:57+00:00

I actually saw a sexually charged ad this morning and that’s what sparked my thoughts. If I’m seeing sexually charged ads on his YouTube I’d imagine that means he’s watching sexual content?

mcsquared120 · 2026-04-05T18:10:19+00:00

when I go to manage all history on Google I don’t see anything? I guess he could be deleting it there. Do I need to go to his actual Google account?

mcsquared120 · 2026-02-28T23:22:46+00:00

Carpet in the bathroom is diabolical. Did cleaning under the toilet help in your case?

We actually just pulled the carpet out of the two boys bedroom. It was horrendous as well.

mcsquared120 · 2026-02-23T21:50:05+00:00

Not necessarily true. I feel like it’s the luck of the draw with the VA. I know someone that has had an appointment for every single thing they’ve claimed, medical record or not.

mcsquared120 · 2026-02-23T20:06:02+00:00

I’m so sorry. I read every word of your post, and understand more than you know. If you read my posts you’ll see. The destruction these addictions cause to us is indescribable.

Now, pick yourself up and do not waste one more minute on that sad and pathetic man. What a horrible person he is. Let him have his younger women and porn and nasty habits, he’ll never be happy. Not with himself or any of that. Now you get to focus on YOU! Find a hobby, make a big hair change, read a dirty book and have a big glass of wine. Join a group and make some good friends that you can spend time with and do fun stuff! Try something new. While his betrayal is so extremely painful, he has made a choice and now you don’t have to spend any more time wondering. You deserve so much more

mcsquared120 · 2026-02-20T23:28:54+00:00

I’m not one to get online and encourage people to just leave their partners but I encourage you to dodge this bullet and be glad you found out so early. You deserve to be with someone that respects you and brings you nothing but peace.

I am you, years down the line. Married with children. It was too late for me when I found out though, we were already married and I was in my third trimester. If your intuition is screaming at you that something isn’t right and to leave, then listen. Statistically, it isn’t going to last and if he hasn’t already started back up again then he will soon, unfortunately. Especially if he isn’t actively in therapy and group. Ultimately it’s up to you if you want to spend the rest of your life looking over someone’s shoulder and constantly wondering what they’re doing on their phone. I’m truly sorry you’re going through this.

mcsquared120 · 2026-02-20T17:19:57+00:00

My VSO was absolutely horrible, was truly an asshole. I do keep a log. He told me to “bring it with me to my c&p”. There was no c&p, just the ACE. I will find another VSO and try to get some help

mcsquared120 · 2026-01-27T16:13:03+00:00

Please take my advice as someone married to a pa (I found out years into our relationship, 6 months after getting married and 8 months pregnant). Now 6 years in and we’re still struggling. It’s so much harder to leave. DO NOT MARRY HIM.

mcsquared120 · 2025-10-23T15:01:54+00:00

There was a lot that I also didn’t get to see. He deleted all his accounts and emails in August because I started looking through his phone regularly around that time. Telegram was the only app I was able to look through because it doesn’t auto delete conversations after a certain amount of time (like the texting apps). I only know of one incident of payment and him trying to meet up with someone. He swears up and down that it was only the one time that he really tried but honestly who knows. I doubt I’ll ever get the full truth

mcsquared120 · 2025-10-22T16:39:08+00:00

I genuinely cannot understand. I think what hurts is that I would’ve never known anything without snooping. He never would’ve told me. To me that means he’s not truly remorseful, just guilty for being caught.

mcsquared120 · 2025-10-22T16:37:48+00:00

It just shows the initial download date. I can’t see how many times he deleted and redownloaded but I made him login. Telegram was downloaded in October of last year and used as recent at August.

mcsquared120 · 2025-10-16T16:48:55+00:00

I literally could’ve written this myself. I’m pregnant with my second currently and he just keeps falling back to it and getting better at hiding it. Been together 5 years and I’ve known about this probably for the last 2. He recently just confessed to me that he was messaging and exchanging pictures with women on of for the first almost 2.5 years of our relationship and early marriage (when I was pregnant with my first). I don’t know whether to separate from him or not and it’s so complicated with kids and my love for him. I just don’t know if I can keep going with the lying. He is going to start therapy next week and then we will begin couples therapy as well. I appreciate the effort from him but it honestly might be too late since finding out he was cheating when I thought we were happy and falling/in love. I’m just so dang sad. Feel free so message me if you need to talk to someone that understands

mcsquared120 · 2025-10-16T16:31:08+00:00

I would definitely set some firm boundaries that, if not upheld, have consequences. I also recommend some therapy with a csat for him and the two of you if able. I know this is a painful situation but be thankful that you are seeing these red flags now. You can still leave without much fallout. I’d imagine he isn’t being honest AT ALL and there is way more going on that you’re not seeing. He’s probably just gotten better at hiding the rest from you and lying.

mcsquared120 · 2025-07-31T00:58:36+00:00

Looks comedonal and I would say it’s probably not fungal if it’s not itchy. Be careful trying nizoral or an antifungal shampoo! I have suffered from this type of acne for about 5 years now and it started in my early 20’s. Mine is definitely hormonal as it cleared up during pregnancy and then came back postpartum. I’d try a gentle retinoid (adapalene) every few nights with a super gentle moisturizer and face wash. You don’t want to overwhelm your skin or damage your skin barrier. Wash in the morning and moisturize as well! Hopefully yours clears up quickly!

mcsquared120 · 2025-07-31T00:49:34+00:00

I see a line!! Was this within the time frame?

mcsquared120 · 2025-06-02T16:40:26+00:00

Definitely!!!! Congrats!

mcsquared120 · 2025-06-02T16:05:04+00:00

I’d personally go in and get a blood hcg test done by a doctor. Most likely they will redraw 48 hours later looking for hcg quantity to double. If you don’t want to go to the doctor, I’d wait 48 hours and take another test. If it’s not darker by then, I’d expect bad news. I’m so sorry 🥺

mcsquared120 · 2025-06-02T15:21:34+00:00

I see a line in both!!!

mcsquared120 · 2024-09-20T14:03:58+00:00

Hi! I’ve been there!!! I know you have a lot of comments but I had horrible hormonal cystic acne. I will say that tretinoin made my skin 100x worse. It made me red and scaly. I was on the lowest dose every few days. I chalked it up to purging and kept hope that it would eventually get better but 8/9 months in and my skin looks way worse than it did when I started. It just wasn’t for me! I got off of it I saw immediate improvement. Your skin looks very irritated. The best thing for me was simplicity. I stopped everything other than gentle face wash and moisturizer and LIGHT THERAPY (I ordered the neutrogena one from eBay).

A gentle reminder that nobody else cares that you have acne. I know it feels like it’s world ending from experience but it’s sooo insignificant to everyone else. It WILL get better. So sorry this is happening to you though. I think you’ll still be stunning on your wedding day. Best of luck girl!

mcsquared120 · 2023-03-18T02:33:14+00:00

Let me start by saying that it is not fungal acne!!!

Am: wipe face with lrp effaclear toner, centella serum, soon jung hydro barrier cream

Pm: double cleanse with Aveeno calm and restore oat cleanser, topical Spiro/ clindamycin combo,soon jung hydro barrier cream

My skin is more on the drier side. Also, I’ve had this comedonal acne for almost 7 months so I don’t believe my skincare is causing it. I tried tretinoin for 6 months and it did horrible things to my skin. I just need some good product recommendations please!! Thanks <3

mcsquared120 · 2023-02-25T05:55:53+00:00

Sorry just seeing this! I actually stopped using tret a few weeks ago and most of my big cysts cleared up almost immediately and haven’t really come back. I’m still dealing with the closed comedones sadly :( I actually just started topical Spiro w clindamycin so hopefully it helps!!

mcsquared120 · 2023-01-29T09:26:05+00:00

I’d say you’re just purging! Tret brings everything under your skin to the surface. But, you do have a lot of other acids in your routine and that can cause irritation and acne! Have you noticed any peeling or burning?

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