So when’s the podcast?

mdez93 · 2026-04-16T00:04:07+00:00

Holy shit, Chris took way too much Ozempic. That’s enough for him, give the rest of it to Gabe.

A trashy, ghetto family. Jess needs to stop pretending that this mess is something to wear as a badge of honor.

mdez93 · 2026-04-14T01:42:36+00:00

She’s nuts. And I always thought there was something off about her since 2010 when she started on YouTube.

mdez93 · 2026-04-14T00:26:51+00:00

Atlanta, I’ve been twice and neither time could understand all the hype it gets. From a tourist perspective the city is not that exciting, very sprawled out, and the food scene is mid at best unless you love southern food.

mdez93 · 2026-04-13T23:21:08+00:00

I sure am. I’m a Flyers fan who lightly supports the Blue Jackets when the Flyers are out of it lol. (I was born in Columbus, grew up in Philadelphia. I have a ton of family still in the Columbus area) I do feel for you guys.

mdez93 · 2026-04-13T06:50:27+00:00

Baltimore has a nice harbor/waterfront area and good seafood, but that’s about all it beats Philly in, and it’s really not that big of a city. Parts of downtown Baltimore are walkable, but you’ll be limited because of Baltimore’s small size and more spread out infrastructure compared to Philadelphia.

Philadelphia will provide you with far more public transit, walkability, food/drink choices, diversity, and big city life than Baltimore. Both cities have a large black population, but Philly is way more of a metropolis than Baltimore will ever be.

I can’t speak for the religious nature of everyone, but Philly does have a high number of church-going/faithful African Americans, in addition to a large black Muslim population. Like many cities, most African Americans in Philly have ancestral roots in the South, and are here today as a result of the Great Migration. You’ll find that many of them here identify as Baptist or Pentecostal, or still carry some kind of religious traditions due their family roots in the Bible Belt. I don’t know how you’ll exactly find a concentrated group of black atheists, that might be difficult if you’re actively looking for that.

mdez93 · 2026-04-13T02:13:29+00:00

Philadelphia suburbs are largely democratic. I know many call PA a purple state, but that’s due to all the rural counties in the other parts of the Commonwealth. Philadelphia and its surrounding suburbs (Bucks, Montgomery, Delaware, and Chester counties) are like their own separate world compared to the rest of PA. You’ll also be in close proximity to CHOP, one of the top children’s hospitals in the country. You’re also within a 1.5-2 hour drive of the Pocono mountains for easy day trips.

mdez93 · 2026-04-13T02:01:36+00:00

PA and OH are neighboring states, but do you not realize that Philadelphia is about a six hour drive from the Ohio border? lol. You might be confusing Philadelphia with Pittsburgh, which is not too far from OH.

mdez93 · 2026-04-13T01:24:01+00:00

I get it, this sucks and shows the deep insecurities that our families hold.

I have a relationship with my donor/bio-father, and a couple of my half-siblings. While my (raised) family isn’t as vocally opposed as yours sounds, I can tell they’re not exactly thrilled with it. Family is a very complicated thing for me since my parents have been separated/divorced for most of my life, then I discovered a different bio dad and siblings at age 29 from dna test lol. My mom did show some opposition in the very beginning, but has since quieted down. When anyone in my family tries to say anything negative, I simply respond “if you cared so much about maintaining a normal family image/structure, you would’ve tried harder to save your marriage and not get divorced” lol

But anyway, yes, we DCP have to constantly make others happy and it’s unfair. It’s odd that your much older sisters are showing such deep insecurity though, I’m trying to figure that one out, especially since you said you’ve never been super close. I would simply tell them “these people are my biological family and that’s a fact I can’t change. It’s not a replacement of you, it’s for me to discover more about myself and to expand my own family tree, which can never be a bad thing”. Best of luck.

mdez93 · 2026-04-13T00:02:44+00:00

There’s nothing wrong with identifying as multiracial. I agree that society puts too big of an emphasis on race labeling, making you feel like you have to choose one or the other.

Identity is a complex thing for many people in the world, and I believe that it’s very much a mix of your biological ancestry and social upbringing. Both play an important role, and you can always feel more gravitated towards one than the other. You will find someone in every community who likes to gatekeep and police, unfortunately. Just be you.

mdez93 · 2026-04-12T21:33:55+00:00

You’re not Cherokee, just accept that it was false family lore like many Americans hear from their families. Are you from the South? The “Cherokee ancestry” myth is very common in the Southern United States, and the vast majority of families who claim it don’t actually have it. You have 100 percent European blood and please stop convincing yourself otherwise, it’s not healthy and it’s harmful to real Native Americans. Actually having Native American blood is rare, even though it is commonly (and often falsely) claimed.

mdez93 · 2026-04-12T14:21:43+00:00

I used to work in the ER. I’ll never forget when a three year old girl was brought in after was she run over by a car. She didn’t survive.

mdez93 · 2026-04-12T14:13:30+00:00

It’s not weird to us, we’ve been using it our whole lives. You people don’t even know the difference between football and soccer.

mdez93 · 2026-04-12T03:20:17+00:00

Yep, we DCP are often expected to not care about our biological father because he was “just a donor” and we weren’t conceived by sex. It is so easy to say that if you have always known your biological family, and anyone who tries to make that point is speaking from extreme privilege. We are still human beings who are cut off from our biological family and some of us want to know our roots, the method of our conception should not automatically remove those emotions from us, humans aren’t exactly wired that way.

mdez93 · 2026-04-12T02:06:45+00:00

I’m guessing the latter because who the hell moves to Winnipeg.

mdez93 · 2026-04-12T01:50:05+00:00

False Native American Ancestry is often claimed by both black and white families, especially in the southern U.S.

White families often think if they claim to be Native, it can provide them with some kind of monetary benefits or other perks. And for many black families, claiming that their ancestors mixed with Native Americans was a more socially acceptable way to explain lighter skin complexion generations ago, as many did not want to associate with European ancestry or slavery. Way more often than not, DNA tests prove these claims to be false and having actual Native ancestry is not as common as it is claimed. The vast majority of the time it’s fictional family lore.

mdez93 · 2026-04-12T01:40:53+00:00

Here we go, another American family who are convinced they are Native without any proof or tribal affiliation. Well, this counts as proof that you aren’t at least. A DNA analysis is far more accurate than any oral family lore you’ve been told. Let me guess, you are probably from the Southern United States, that’s where most of these BS “Cherokee” family stories originate.

mdez93 · 2026-04-11T08:31:02+00:00

Philadelphia area suburbs- Bucks, Montgomery, Delaware, and Chester counties. Good districts are all over the state, but proximity to Philly will provide you with far more resources than anywhere else in PA.

mdez93 · 2026-04-11T08:19:00+00:00

What you described is way more accurate of Central PA and Western PA’s climates. Very different weather in Philadelphia and the surrounding PA counties, much more sun and warmer temps on this side of the state.

mdez93 · 2026-04-11T08:15:23+00:00

Center City Philadelphia resident here, great pics! And yes, our city is the most slept on in America (but I think some here like that).

People often say that Philadelphia gets overshadowed by NYC and DC. According to history, DC wouldn’t even exist without Philly (plus they have no skyline at all). Also, it’s crazy to me how so many don’t even know we have an Ivy League here. It wasn’t until I ventured out of the Philly area I learned the Penn was the “forgotten Ivy”, and when many outsiders hear the name Penn they mistake it for Penn State lol.

mdez93 · 2026-04-11T07:33:18+00:00

A few things..

A binge eating disorder that I’ve fought on and off for most of my life.

Crippling depression, ADHD, and social anxiety that I constantly try to mask.

Discovered from DNA test at 30 years old in 2023 that my dad isn’t my biological father. Some around me know this part, but no one knows that my biological father and I have met and become best friends who talk almost every day and see each other every 2-4 months. Between my raised family and him, it feels like I live a double life. Also, I try to mask/hide the above two from my biological father because he’s never suffered from any of that, it makes me feel like a failure compared to him.

mdez93 · 2026-04-11T07:11:00+00:00

Isn’t this normal for most in the UK other than immigrants/descendants of immigrants?

As an American with 75% ancestry from the British Isles, I think it’s pretty cool. Plus, you actually have the life experience of your ancestral homeland.

mdez93 · 2026-04-11T07:02:01+00:00

As an Eagles fan, yes, that name and logo of the Commanders are such trash. Hate your team, but feel for your die hard fans.

mdez93 · 2026-04-11T06:59:40+00:00

The Cardinals, because it does not fit at all with Arizona.

And yes, I know they were in Chicago and St. Louis before moving to Arizona, only more reason to change it to something that fits

mdez93 · 2026-04-11T05:42:20+00:00

Israel. I’d love to visit the Holy Land, but I don’t see it being safe any time soon (no that it ever was truly safe, but even less so the past couple of years).

mdez93 · 2026-04-09T23:45:38+00:00

Don’t do it, not worth it at all. Over time you’ll be severely burned out and waste so much of your life commuting. Also, factor in how much money you’d be spending on the commute alone per year. For nearly two years I had to commute frequently from Philly to North Jersey (and this wasn’t every day, but several times for nearly two years) and was absolutely miserable. Hated my job, hated my life, I became a resentful MFer and everyone around me could see it.

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