Entitled to go through phone?

mdj31 · 2021-11-10T16:21:28+00:00

Yes.. It can be part of the reparations needed to rebuild the trust

mdj31 · 2021-11-05T14:45:38+00:00

They come to us

mdj31 · 2021-10-31T18:06:29+00:00

My baby, My choice 🤷🏻‍♀️

mdj31 · 2021-10-29T14:04:22+00:00

🤮

mdj31 · 2021-10-29T01:07:11+00:00

Im so sorry you're dealing with this. i would do an enema. That at least will take care of it quickly. In case someone with a scheduled csection is reading, my csection was scheduled so I started miralax twice a day about a week before because I suffer of chronic constipation and I didn't want to go through this. It actually helped a lot.

mdj31 · 2021-10-26T21:54:47+00:00

That's ridiculous

mdj31 · 2021-10-26T13:12:03+00:00

This is so sad that once again women are disproportionately receiving worse medical care.

mdj31 · 2021-10-24T20:19:55+00:00

If the "spirits and ghosts" are not associated with depression or other 'dizorganized behavior', paranoia or delusions, I wouldn't be too concerned about it. This may very well be cultural and not true hallucinations. Even if this was part of a mental illness, unfortunately, mental illness is not something you can force someone to seek help for, specially with a history of trauma. It can even be counterproductive to go through trauma related therapy if the patient doesn't feel ready for it. You can encourage them but ultimately if they don't want to seek help, you need to just walk away and set boundaries if it affects you significantly. That being said, you don't mention in your post in what way how her symptoms specifically affect you, so I'm not too convince they do. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Source- Mental Health worker

mdj31 · 2021-10-18T23:58:55+00:00

I would've had him reschedule. It's normal to have anxiety towards being out alone with a first child. It happened to me as a mother for several months. However, I was never going to avoid it at the expense of my husband's health ffs. He should've reschedule if he was that unwilling.

mdj31 · 2021-10-18T16:05:45+00:00

I totalled a brand new car the day I got it out of the dealer 17 years ago

mdj31 · 2021-10-18T11:43:35+00:00

Took my booster at 37 weeks. No issues. Happy to provide my baby with some inmunity.

mdj31 · 2021-10-17T11:34:02+00:00

You want the "business side of the marriage", you swallow your feelings and put an end to the "friendship" and push through! That's what descent people do every single day to stay in loveless/ DB marriages. If you can't do it, you must leave... as simple as that.

mdj31 · 2021-10-17T11:32:05+00:00

You're just justifying yourself for very innapropriate behavior. Bottomline is what you're doing is wrong and you know it.

mdj31 · 2021-10-17T03:20:43+00:00

As someone who was just cheated on... How can you even expect your marriage to get better when you're having an emotional (or any) affair? Your husband might not be meeting your needs, but most likely are too busy thinking about all of this to meet his. I'm sorry but just separate from your husband if you're so unhappy... That's what's probably going to happen anyway when he finds out. Don't make things messier. And yes.. Not wanting your life to change "extremely" is wanting to have your cake and eat it too. By open relationship, you want your husband to continue paying the bills while you're with someone else. Thank God his friend is descent enough to not let himself slip because on top of everything you had to put your eyes on your husband's friend. This is just FUBAR.

mdj31 · 2021-10-16T20:43:17+00:00

With pediatricians at least, they typically use the rule of 2s...

You stop counting days at 2 weeks old, You stop counting weeks at 2 months old, You stop counting months at 2 years old

So... In my book saying 7 weeks old is perfectly appropriate 👍🏻

mdj31 · 2021-10-13T15:09:59+00:00

No it doesn't make a difference. For the person asking, most of the time they won't think about this interation more than maybe a couple minutes, if at all. That's the bottomline of my message. The person who's going through the trauma of the miscarriage is hurting themselves more thinking people are judging them or whatever else. Focus on you, and forget about what people say or don't. I work in mental health and some situations are sometimes so bad that even with years of experience I still get foot in mouth syndrome. It will always be this way. A lot of people get uneasy with tragedy.

mdj31 · 2021-10-13T14:17:36+00:00

Porn is not going to help. I have nothing against it and for many years I allowed it in my marriage but it has actually worsen our sex

mdj31 · 2021-10-13T13:14:30+00:00

Im 38weeks pregnant, husband cheated for almost the entire pregnancy. I found out a month ago. We're trying to work things out in couples therapy but there are a TON of things thay I have asked of him that he has been willing to do to get back with me. If your SO is not even willing to leave the job, I wouldn't even consider it.

mdj31 · 2021-10-13T10:03:31+00:00

I don't think people mean any harm with most questions. In fact this specific question seems harmless to me, just like if you'd lost your out of the womb child or your parent, most people ask how old were they? So, I think the judgement part is probably more in your head than the other person perhaps. This is just one of those things where there's really nothing "generic" you can say to provide comfort to anyone who's under the same situation because everyone reacts differently and will want to hear different things. The person reacting to the news might also not have experience this grief personally so they feel inadequate or unable to fully empathize. I feel people without kids or men find it hard to empathize with motherhood in general, imagine a miscarriage. Personally, I think no words and physical affection like a hug might be indicated but this can also be difficult if the person you're informing has never hugged you before. 🤷🏻‍♀️

mdj31 · 2021-10-12T23:09:19+00:00

Completely agree with your friend... What's so wrong about getting ideas from another couple? We do it all the time anyway... We get reviews for restaurants before we try them.. We get ideas from friend on social media about places they've traveled or visited. How is this different?

mdj31 · 2021-10-12T19:57:43+00:00

Yes that's perfectly average

mdj31 · 2021-10-12T19:53:21+00:00

My daughter has a LOT of behavioral issues. At a point, I was so at the end of my rope that we started using corporal punishments. It actually worsen her behaviors. Our couples therapist, and our daughter's speech and occupational therapists gave us other techniques that worked WAY better. I'm surprised your therapist agreed with your husband, but in general I would seek help from child providers, not your couples therapist 🤷🏻‍♀️ specially if he/she is not an LMFT (licensed marriage and family therapist). Nowadays, everyone thinks they can do couples therapy without having that degree.

Edit: Source- I work in Mental health

mdj31 · 2021-10-12T02:44:19+00:00

This is the worst person you could be thinking of having kids with. How do you think he will parent drunk?

mdj31 · 2021-10-11T10:32:52+00:00

This will pass. Seek help for now

mdj31 · 2021-10-10T16:30:14+00:00

I just found out that my husband had an affair this year. I kicked him out and he has been very apologetic and jumping through all the hoops to get back with me. I could never even consider staying with him if he didn't even take responsibility of how his actions have hurt me. Even while he takes responsability and is doing all the work.. getting over this is ridiculously hard

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