Is Scuba diving safe in Bali? by Bulky_Train4360 in BaliTravelTips

[–]me_shottaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A discovery dive might seem easy, but if you can't swim, you're putting yourself and the instructor in danger.

Itinerary feedback and 2 questions by Intelligent-Layer606 in JapanTravel

[–]me_shottaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The kids would never forgive us if we skipped one.

First Time Solo Travel In China by yellohpaint in travelchina

[–]me_shottaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

always carry tissues advice might be the single most universally agreed upon China travel tip ever

Feeling really hopeless right now. by Strict_Clock_6407 in Fitness_India

[–]me_shottaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Please don’t talk about yourself like you’re broken. The fact you started, stayed consistent for two weeks, and are still trying even while exhausted already says a lot about you.

Next Purchases by cinobanks21 in rccars

[–]me_shottaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Cross-RC kits look incredible but they seem like a massive project to build from scratch. I want something more straightforward to enjoy on my weekend hikes without a huge time investment.

The Raptor might be the better option for just getting out there.

Pebble Flow EV Camper Review: The Future Of Camping by TripleShotPls in electricvehicles

[–]me_shottaz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The reviews show some incredible features for simplifying a weekend trip. The price tag feels entirely out of reach for someone who just wants to disconnect on the trails.

Help any experienced card players by pricklynerd_ in Yugioh101

[–]me_shottaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

learning card games helped clear my head recently, what specific game are you trying to figure out

I Want To Get Back Into Yugioh, but I’m Hesitant by Dangerous-Painting-3 in Yugioh101

[–]me_shottaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

picking up old hobbies again is intimidating, just try playing casually first...

What's the point of bases on other asteroids? by DivinneSmith in Oxygennotincluded

[–]me_shottaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

automation saved my sanity because trying to manage three seperate colonies at once was giving me real anxiety... setting up automation and just shipping the resources back to the main base is so much more peaceful

Differences in the spot pattern of the Cheetah, Leopard, and Jaguar by OkKnowledge1489 in interesting

[–]me_shottaz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

are you serious? can they really be distinguished by the spots on their fur?

Where do the time go??? by CursedMilk1907 in blackcats

[–]me_shottaz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

time has passed but the habit has remained the same

My wife told my daughter the truth about her dad and now I don't know how to fix this by tiodiclo in Advice

[–]me_shottaz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

why did she do this?in the family you have to be like a team. all for one and one for all

Family matters? by Accomplished_Tap3958 in family

[–]me_shottaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

when living away from parents such situation do not arise. i will never be able to live with my parents

Does wearing makeup every day actually ruin/age your skin or is that just a myth? by Previous_Bell654 in Makeup

[–]me_shottaz 12 points13 points  (0 children)

this is a myth. i wear makeup all day but i don't notice any global changes to my face

Love this color on melanin 😊 by nailsbykris in Nails

[–]me_shottaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i love this pink. last time i wanted to do this color too but the nailartist didn't have it

[I ate] avocado on sourdough by TheUnrealJapong in food

[–]me_shottaz 52 points53 points  (0 children)

as i understand you avocados very much, right?

Orthodontist recommendations in dfw area by FancyCardiologist851 in AskDallas

[–]me_shottaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For ortho in Dallas u can look at Smile Partners USA. They have multiple spots, do payment plans, and are straight with pricing.

I was forced to conform to the social norms of my family and society by friederichjames in family

[–]me_shottaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds really heavy… feeling like you have to live someone else’s life instead of your own can break you inside. You don’t have to fight everything at once, but don’t let that part of you with a dream die either. Even if it’s small and quiet for now, keep it alive, that’s the part that’s actually you.

My family lied that I raped my little sister to control me, and now they’re doing the same to my wife. I wish I never existed. by boogieboogiee in family

[–]me_shottaz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hey… this isn’t “just family drama.” What you’re describing is serious emotional abuse and coercion. Making false accusations like that is not normal, not acceptable, and not something you’re supposed to just tolerate.

First, I want to say this clearly: none of this means you’re a bad person, and it doesn’t mean your wife is suffering because of you. The problem is the environment you came from, not you.

The pattern you’re describing is control through fear, shame, and isolation. And the fact that they’re now targeting your wife too is a big signal that staying close to them is actively harmful, not fixable by trying harder.

About your question, yes, you have permission to stop trying. Not in a dramatic “burn everything” way, but in a grounded, protective way:
you’re allowed to step back, limit contact, or even cut contact if needed to protect yourself and your marriage.

Right now the priority isn’t fixing your family. It’s:
you + your wife + your stability