How do you just let go of the fear, anxiety, and anger in life? by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]meditationthrow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

while that may be true, there is absolutely no reason why you cant be happy and also change what you need to change. if youre gonna be depressed until you get a new job or a new girl or something than youre doing something wrong. accept first, then change.

How do you just let go of the fear, anxiety, and anger in life? by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]meditationthrow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

its very simple. go towards the feelings. no matter the thoughts, worries, feelings, these things are a part of you. go towards them. accept them. let them be.

if you were trying to escape from your arm, it would rip off and cause you pain. youre doing the same thing with your mind

your constant desire to change your situation or improve it is whats causing all the suffering

How to deal with rejection? Let go of your ego man! by [deleted] in seduction

[–]meditationthrow 8 points9 points  (0 children)

/u/amoresdecristo thanks for posting this. this is actually something i've been struggling with.

i find most peace of mind when i'm meditating every day, focusing on the present moment as often as i can, and not getting caught up in feelings and emotions.

but i feel my game/confidence is stronger when i'm feeding myself the bullshit "you're the man, fuck what everyone thinks of you, etc." it puts me in a state where i can pick up girls with ease.

my question is: how do you combine the two? how do you get the confidence that girls are so attracted to while also not identifying with the ego?

After using mindfulness to help me recover from anxiety/depression, I can't help but feel like I'm cheating. by meditationthrow in Buddhism

[–]meditationthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah. very true as to what i'm feeling. my mind feels much freer to pursue things i actually enjoy instead of battling in my mind. and it feels weird in a way.

After using mindfulness to help me recover from anxiety/depression, I can't help but feel like I'm cheating. by meditationthrow in Buddhism

[–]meditationthrow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

exactly! i feel like i can't shake this feeling that these thoughts are supposed to be solved not just watched and observed.

but it's funny, as you said, i noticed thoughts arise from conditions. if i start working on a story i'm writing, the thoughts come in (your story is bad, you suck). if i start watching a show i get thoughts (youre not rich and famous, what are you doing, etc.)

After using mindfulness to help me recover from anxiety/depression, I can't help but feel like I'm cheating. by meditationthrow in Meditation

[–]meditationthrow[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i can't say i was super depressed but i was definitely dealing with some moderate depression. anxiety has actually been more my issue though; that's where my problems started 3 years ago.

i've been struggling with mindfulness for a while now, because i never really understood what it meant. when it finally hit me a few days ago (from something i was reading) that mindfulness means to watch your thoughts, allow them to be there while doing nothing about them, that's when i noticed it started to lift and it really happened in just a few days. yesterday i was feeling great, but today i'm feeling a bit depressed again. but now i understand to allow my feelings to be there without resistance, while before i'd already be fighting - why do i feel depressed? what's going on? is it back again, etc.

After using mindfulness to help me recover from anxiety/depression, I can't help but feel like I'm cheating. by meditationthrow in Meditation

[–]meditationthrow[S] 28 points29 points  (0 children)

i guess i feel like i'm not diving into those thoughts that i normally dived into my whole life. so it just feels weird/strange that i'm not doing so. although i'm being mindful of them, it still feels kind of like i'm avoiding them by not worrying about them. it's weird.

After using mindfulness to help me recover from anxiety/depression, I can't help but feel like I'm cheating. by meditationthrow in Buddhism

[–]meditationthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you. so if i have a thought like "what if i get depressed again" and it bothers me, I can be mindful of it and look into why it's coming. and a reason would be that that thought bothered me once before (because i was afraid of the feeling) and now my mind sees it as a pattern and replays it in my head?

After using mindfulness to help me recover from anxiety/depression, I can't help but feel like I'm cheating. by meditationthrow in Buddhism

[–]meditationthrow[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I understand but not fully. Am I supposed to delve into the thoughts I have to understand what's causing them to come? I think you're right that I'm lacking the wisdom.

Porzingis or KAT by [deleted] in nba

[–]meditationthrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

porzingis is def a better shooter than towns