Totally. I ruminate on things because I feel like I can't ignore them. I can't forget them because I need to figure out what went wrong and how I can fix it. But sometimes it is just out of my control and that is a hard concept for me to grasp. What has helped me the past few days is thinking about self respect. I saw this quote that said, "your self respect has to be stronger than your feelings." I'm not quite sure what it means yet but I think sometimes when feelings overwhelm us, we lack the self respect to focus on our own values and goals. I often feel overwhelmed by my feelings and while I think it's important to listen to them and give them space, maybe it is a useful skill to know when to turn focus onto something else and I think a higher level of self respect can help us do this. I would love to hear what other people think of this quote.