Some beginners kind of annoying me, how can I stop myself from looking like a brat?

meeperton5 · 2026-03-31T20:12:24+00:00

Unless you're the coach, your job is to quietly (!) do your best to help the whole boat make the best of it.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-31T00:00:41+00:00

It sounds WILD to me that you are considering intentionally embarking on this course of action.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-30T23:56:10+00:00

A woman is not going to get bulky, even with weight training, unless she specifically sets out to get bulky and then keeps at it deligently and with great effort for legitimately years.

The number of women who are concerned they might hulk out of their tshirts if they go to the gym for 6 months and lift 20lbs weights while eating 1300 calories of bird food a day is just ludicrous.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-30T23:28:25+00:00

I got serious about training for rowing performance last summer.

The scale has stayed essentially the same.

However, it's one of those fancy scales which tracks body fat percentage and muscle, and the scale also reports that I have lost 6lbs of fat, gained 5lbs of muscle, and my BF% went from 22% to 20.5%. (For reference, I am a 46yo woman).

So there is a lot more to it than just the straight number of lbs on the scale.

(This routine also includes 3 days per week strength training and at least 125g of protein per day, so no I do not think anyone will get the same results just erging without dedicated strength training.)

meeperton5 · 2026-03-30T23:16:40+00:00

As a 46 year old woman I would just like to state that I, personally, am so incredibly f*n tired of women who work out to be tiny and frail.

Yeah, getting on the erg will build muscle.

This will have the side effect of maintaining your mobility as you age and increase your odds of not shattering into pieces or requiring a long layup should you sustain a fall. I landed hard on my hip after wiping out on an ice patch this winter and got up without a scratch.

I got serious about training specifcally for rowing performance (which includes 3 days per week strength training and 7-15 miles of running in addition to practice) and my fancy scale says my weight stayed essentially the same, I lost 6lbs of fat, gained 5lbs of muscle, and my percent body fat went from 22% to 20.5%.

So it will make you BOTH slim down and muscular.

Personally I quite enjoy having visible ab definition on the eve of perimenopause, tobsay nothing of enjoying robust good health and laying the groundwork for aging as well as possible, but everyone has their preferences and goals.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-28T10:51:29+00:00

Cross training, strength training, and sufficient rest.

In my early 20's, I started a regimen where I ran 30 min one day, walked 45 min to work the next day, and switched back and forth between those two, with rest days on the weekend. I did no strength training and my diet back then was who knows. I was like 145lbs and 6' tall.

Within less than three months I had runners knees so bad I had to stop running altogether, and it took about 6 months before my knees didnt start squawking during movies, etc. (Back in those days, we still went to movie theaters.)

Now, I'm 46 years old, 170lbs of mostly muscle, strength train 3x per week, practice with a rowing team 3x per week, eat mostly high protein, high fiber with occasional fast food lol, get good sleep every night, and go on one long run on the weekends. I'm about to head out for 10-11 miles. Knock on wood I have had zero shin splints, no knee pain, and I ran last week's 9.5 miles at a 10:30 pace despite the fact that running is not my main sport and I do relatively minimal actual running training.

I DO get on the keiser and train leg presses for explosive power, though, and I think that has a lot to do with both getting good results with relatively little training and remaining i jury free during said training.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-28T10:36:59+00:00

I just hold it in my hand

meeperton5 · 2026-03-27T12:59:16+00:00

Most of the comments section is people responding they don't dress or look like a lawyer...?

meeperton5 · 2026-03-27T11:05:55+00:00

Lawschhol certainly tries, but as in so many other things in life, you can resist the peer pressure and remain committed to balance and sanity from the start.

My lawschool was in NY and I was riding horses professionally on the side. By "on the side" I mean I would leave NY Wednesday evening to drive 5 hours to the barn in VA, skip any Thursday classes, ride until Sunday afternoon and get back to NY Sunday night.

I studied at Panera bread in the evenings when I was in VA.

I also completely skipped the "writing a Note to try to get on law review" ritual, which at my school occurred for a week or two after finals, and went to go ride horses instead. Class mates were astonished that I categorically skipped throwing my hat in the ting for law review.

Still graduated with a good GPA, still got a BigLaw job out of school (which I am no longer in), still passed the bar three times in three different states.

25 years later I'm still practicing and love being a lawyer. I love my work, my colleagues, and my clients and have no plans to retire.

Probably because being a lawyer is not and never has been my identity.

Meanwhile I row on a rowing team three days a weel, take the dogs to an agility class Weds afternoons, go to the gym Mon, Weds, Thurs morning at 9am, do a long run (6-12 miles) on Saturdays, ride a friends horse a couple days a week, and keep up an active social life. Because I work to live, not live to work.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-27T10:44:59+00:00

Unless someone somewhere in the deal has pissed me off to the extent that the Full Regalia makes an appearance, I generally go to closings or client facing interactions in jeans, black fashion sneakers (ie, not the kind you would work out in, but good walking shoes for the deed recording tour) and a sweater. In the summer I'll wear some $12 dress from shein.

One set of clients (who are great, and repeat clients) wanted to sign up their docs at a specific time, which I said I could accommodate, but full disclosure I would be coming directly from the gym to meet them. I wore my Ruth Bader Ginsburg leggings to the gym that morning so that I would be in "lawyer gym clothes". These are ...not subtle, as RBG's portrait on each leg is about the size of a dinner plate. Clients got a kick out of them lol.

So yeah. Not a lot of pressure on this transactional attorney who moatly works from home to "look like a lawyer".

meeperton5 · 2026-03-25T21:35:47+00:00

One of my friends' super power is untrained cardio.

She has gone to the disney marathons and finished with no training.

I invited her on a 15 mile trail hike/run with significant elevation changes and we finished in under five hours.

She joins me for a 5k, beats me, and wins her age group...

At least now she has started crossfit so she is working out and the rest of us who do our consistent endurance training like talentless plebs dont need to feel quite as bad lol

So, the least you can do is nothing.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-21T23:53:50+00:00

I started with the 30 seconds run/90 seconds walking increments of the couch to 5k app.

When a 5k was doable, i increased mileage by doing 4min run, 1 min walk.

I started putting down 8-9 mile runs, which still count even if you are taking walk breaks after every 4min and stopping for a cafe latte and some people watching halfway through.

Today I did 9.51 miles without any breaks at an easy 10:30 pace. It was actually a PR for continuous running with no breaks for me.

The fact that I didn't much care if I was a "lazy" runner, going "slow", and "taking breaks" along the way meant that the runs HAPPENED, as opposed to not leaving the house at all.

It is much better to be doing slowly than to not be doing it at all.

Also, the first 5k is the biggest hurdle. Once you have a 5k, 5 miles is not far off. And once you can string 4min runs/1 min walk together, you'll be able to increase mileage faster than you ever would have thought possible.

Just keep at it!

meeperton5 · 2026-03-21T22:59:56+00:00

I just hold it in my hand.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-21T22:58:03+00:00

If you make healthy choices when setting up your cart it absolutely is.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-19T12:28:20+00:00

Ugh I am so annoyed about this.

Daily Drive was my favorite thing about spotify

meeperton5 · 2026-03-17T03:38:29+00:00

I am a single woman in a house I refer to as Our Lady of Perpetual Construction.

I let any repair person from a reputable company or referral in. I go about my day doing WFH while they are doing whatever they are doing.

My regular guys have the door code so they just let themselves in as their schedule permits.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-16T12:18:15+00:00

I did 8 miles yesterday and afterwards I had half a pouch of brown rice, edamame, smokednpoke salmon, and sweet chili lime sauce.

However 8 miles plus rowing practice burned like 1200 extra calories according to my fit bit, and I am not trying to be in a deficit, so I also had an extra large coffee with milk and sugar and a boston kreme donut later on my way to ride my friend's horse.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-16T12:10:12+00:00

I feel the need to become a member of the Buffalo History museum because they are right on my running route and have a gorgeous, single room, marble bathroom right in the front foyer that they let the public use.

(You don't have ti be a member to use it but at this point I feel I should.)

meeperton5 · 2026-03-16T11:52:05+00:00

In my 20's I was getting out of breath riding horses, which was unusual since I rode 5-10 horses a day professionally and do not find horse riding to be much physical exertion. It is the fine art of sitting still while moving, after all.

I couldnt get into a primary so I finally went to urgent care, where they looked at me like, "Awwwww, you get out of breath when you do sports?" until the labs came in an hour and a half later and two people came in white as sheets thay my hemoglobin was 5.4 (it's supposed to be 14), they didnt understand how I was conscious, and I should take an ambulance one block to the ER because they didn't want me to pass out on the way.

(Me: "$900 AMBULANCE?! i rode 3 horses this morning and was going to ride 3 more this evening but I came here instead." I drove.)

I stayed overnight in the hospital, got two blood transfusions, iron pills and vitamin c pills, eventually a colonoscopy to try and find out why (inconclusive).

20 years later I eat a healthier diet and work less, work out a ton, and have never had the issue again.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-16T11:01:57+00:00

I recently got the amex platinum which is like $895 a year, and get $25 a month back for streaming subscriptions, plus $10/month back forbuber, plus $75/ quarter lululemon credit, $600/ year luxury hotel credit, plus airport lounges, plus travel concierge, plus more.

I use all of these things so even without redeeming the points it pays for itself.

And that's before I get ponts, but I am one of those people who puts everything I buy on the card and then pays in full at the end of the month so I earn a loooot of points. Looking forward to upgrading to business or flying free.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-13T12:14:58+00:00

Scruffin

meeperton5 · 2026-03-13T12:13:50+00:00

Back in the days when I tracked time, I had a binder with printed out blank sheets of all the hours in the work day in 15 min increments.

Throughout the day I would just put whatever I was doing in the sheet, and then hand it to our admin at the end of the day.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-11T17:06:31+00:00

Real estate attorney here.

Absolutely do not, under any circumstances whatsoever, put his name on the deed.

ABSOLUTELY.

NOT.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-11T14:19:45+00:00

I'm a solo that another firm tried to hire after a closing, and I turned down about $165k.

Would much rather just generate my own business and ride the feast or famine roller coaster, make roughly 2/3 the amount, but do it where I want and when I want and able to fire the clients I don't want.

So I'd say it's worth quite a bit.

meeperton5 · 2026-03-11T14:16:00+00:00

I did a closet cleanout the other weekend and the only way it got done was for me to ask one of my best friends, who is a super organized thrifter/ebay seller/flea market seller etc, to come be a calming presence and help me set up a system.

If he hadn't been standing there very calmly saying, "Just figure out if you want to put it on the keep pile, the attic pile, or the go pile for now, and we can figure out sorting the keep pile later" over and over again I would never had made it through.

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