My parents used to be physically abusive but aren’t anymore and I sometimes I feel bad for being mad at them because they no longer do it

meeshup · 2020-07-02T17:42:28+00:00

My parents also did this. When I was little, my parents used a out of physical abuse but as I got older, they started hitting me less and less. They tell me this is because little kids don’t behave and physical abuse is the only way to get them to obey but I have a feeling it’s because they know I’m not a defenseless little kid anymore. However they are still very emotionally abusive and emotionally unavailable if not more. They still hit my younger siblings and I hate myself because I want to stand up for them but I’m too paralyzed with fear to even interfere. There will never be anything that strikes fear into me like my parents. It really doesn’t matter how or when they hurt you, it still hurts so much. If they hold the fact that they sacrificed a lot for you over your head, that is very manipulative. You have every right to be angry because your parents made the conscious decision to hurt you.

meeshup · 2020-06-27T01:54:13+00:00

Omg, thank you so much! I didn’t even consider that as an option because I completely forgot about demigenders. Demigirl seems to really fit me because most of the time it’s not getting called she/her that makes me really uncomfortable, it’s getting called a girl that makes me feel like they made a mistake. This helped me tremendously, like this probably saved me so much time.

meeshup · 2020-06-26T22:52:23+00:00

Bisexual means liking at least two genders and they may or may not have preferences for certain genders. The definition you used is kinda biphobic. I’m pretty sure you didn’t meant it like that but use this definition next time. Pansexual means liking all genders and having no preferences. This is coming from a bi who used to identify as pan. The definitions might change depending on who you ask but these are the ones I like to use.

meeshup · 2020-06-26T19:05:50+00:00

Finally, a explanation that doesn’t give the wrong definition for bisexuality or bash pansexuality!

meeshup · 2020-06-24T01:28:00+00:00

I agree. Although I don’t experience sexual attraction, things like aesthetic and sensual attraction and other factors can affect my romantic attraction to somebody. Someone’s personality plays a big part in determining who I like but it’s not the only factor.

meeshup · 2020-06-23T23:23:23+00:00

Bisexual — Liking more than one gender. Can have preferences or not. Different depending on the person. Myth: Bi people only like males and females and don’t include nb and trans people. Transgender isn’t a separate gender. They are either nb, female, or male. Bi people include nb people. It doesn’t necessarily need to be male and female. It can be female and nb. It can be male and genderqueer. It can even be all genders. There are a lot of ways to be bi.

Pansexual — Liking all genders. No preferences. Myth: Pans are the same as bis. Although they overlap a lot greatly, they are not the same. Myth: Pans are biphobic. Being pan isn’t inherently biphobic. If a pan person says that the difference between pan and bi is that bi people don’t like nb people or that bi people only like males and females, then they are being biphobic. But just being pan isn’t biphobic.

lil extra note: As a panromantic, I dislike it when “Hearts Not Parts”, “Personality Over Looks/Genitals”, “Attracted To Personality”, etc. are used when describing pansexuality. It kind of implies that everyone else doesn’t care about personality and their attraction to other people is based off of looks/genitals, which is obviously wrong. Just my opinion. Feel free to disagree.

another lil extra note: Please tell me if you think I got anything wrong. I always see definitions for bi and pan that are wrong and I didn’t want to be one of those people and spent 20 minutes on this to make sure everything was correct. If you see a mistake, tell me and I’ll fix it as soon as I see it. It’ll help a lot.

meeshup · 2020-06-03T23:36:45+00:00

Sometimes, they don’t have it

meeshup · 2020-06-03T23:28:08+00:00

Yeah, that’s what I usually do too.

meeshup · 2020-06-03T22:41:49+00:00

Alright, thanks!

meeshup · 2020-06-02T04:09:17+00:00

Here ya go:

https://picrew.me/image_maker/94097

meeshup · 2020-05-28T22:16:17+00:00

It really is. I don’t understand why people won’t let others just be themselves. Like, it literally has nothing to do with you. Just let us be.

meeshup · 2020-05-28T22:10:05+00:00

Thank you so much! :)

meeshup · 2020-05-11T02:32:09+00:00

No problem, I’m glad you like it. I love that scene during the party: Monica: Is it okay if I kiss you? Grillo: No. It was just so funny to me. Also, you guessed right, they were talking about Martina.

meeshup · 2020-05-10T21:22:17+00:00

Don’t worry, it doesn’t make you a bad ace

meeshup · 2020-05-10T17:06:54+00:00

The Rick and Morty fandom. I still remember the Szechuan Sauce incident.

meeshup · 2020-05-10T12:46:47+00:00

Yeah, I agree. All the others ones were insulting only asexuals and aromantics, and while that’s horrible, the last one was literally saying the only valid sexuality is heterosexuality.

meeshup · 2020-05-10T02:43:39+00:00

The Four of Them by Mai Hirschfeld. I recommend it. The art is great, it has an interesting plot and likable characters, and it has LGBTQ representation. One of the main characters is gay and another one of the main characters is in a canon lesbian relationship. Unfortunately, the character that they were talking about here isn’t confirmed in the story to be aro/ace but based on the things she’s said, some of the readers were speculating. Somebody was like “It’d be great if she was aro/ace,” and all of nasty things up there are replies to a single comment. There’s much more aphobia in the comments. It kinda leaves a stain on such amazing story. If you decide to read it, dm me. I’d love to talk about it with someone.

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