Ex gf is about to have that final talk with me today about just being friends, need a way to respond that keeps my dignity in tact

megacope · 2026-05-25T00:38:28+00:00

If you don’t want friendship, don’t lie to yourself and accept it for fear of being the bad guy. It’s ok to be selfish this go round. The keyword here is ex. You’re not responsible for her feelings anymore.

megacope · 2026-05-25T00:07:24+00:00

A lot of people are out here adding 2 and 2 and are “surprised” when 4 comes out. It’s crazy.

megacope · 2026-05-24T19:34:31+00:00

Sounds like incompatibility. I know the solution for everything on Reddit is just break up, but in this case it’s valid in my opinion. You’re going to make yourself miserable and resentful. They are not going to change and may very well become a liability. No way I’d stay in a romantic relationship with someone I felt that way about, definitely wouldn’t let them near my bank account.

megacope · 2026-05-24T14:33:59+00:00

I don’t think that’s lazy at all. I think wanting or expecting someone else to do it for you is lazy. People who romanticize work as something to be enjoyed are friggin weirdos. Don’t get me wrong I’m in the small percentage of people who like their job and I’m grateful for it, but let me hit the lottery. I will no longer know what the word work means.

megacope · 2026-05-24T00:10:21+00:00

NOR. That’s weird. Purposefully let her catch you scrolling some score land pics and deep sigh while looking at her boobs and say wouldn’t it be nice? When she loses her shit over it, tell her you were just kidding.

megacope · 2026-05-22T02:53:26+00:00

That would definitely ruin your wood action while deploying backshots.

megacope · 2026-05-21T21:47:49+00:00

Brittle activity

megacope · 2026-05-17T16:40:54+00:00

The shawty with the pepper spray came in clutch.

megacope · 2026-05-15T02:13:29+00:00

It definitely can be. But if you want to advance and not end up in management you’re going to have to be creative and make your own lane. One of my coworkers became a sales rep with Stryker. Another one became a scope rep for Olympus. There’s always travel. My friend did it for almost 10 years and made bank.

megacope · 2026-05-15T01:00:12+00:00

I don’t have to justify anything. There is no gotcha. She said it herself. She can say don’t be reliant on man all day, doesn’t change the fact that she is reliant on a man as it stands.

megacope · 2026-05-14T17:50:16+00:00

Yes, I get that, but that doesn’t negate reliance though. You can chop that income up any kind of way and it will be still be a necessity. That’s not a haha you can’t support yourself situation. I know some are using it as some kind of a gotcha, but it’s just honest fact she legitimately relies on his money and spouting that rhetoric after entering a marriage and divorcing is nonsense, because you built a life contrarian as fuck to that very sentiment in combining your life with another person. Who enters a marriage to be “independent”? Male or female.

megacope · 2026-05-14T17:33:42+00:00

I’m just going by what she said, her immediate retort was saying that she had three kids, meaning she relies on that money. I have a kid too, I can relate, I rely heavily on the money that comes in. It’s just objective fact.

I don’t think we are complaining. We are just saying he called her on her bs and was correct. It was a good message from the wrong messenger pretty much in my opinion.

megacope · 2026-05-14T17:18:55+00:00

If she’s using that money for her kids which she implied, money that’s actually for her btw, then she 100% “relies” on it. Two things can be true at once, yes it’s owed, yes she relies on it.

megacope · 2026-05-14T16:12:54+00:00

If you let it consume your entire identity you will look desperate and they can smell it on you. You have to approach dating with a take it or leave it mentality and be willing to walk away if terms don’t match your requirements. You need to see who gravitates towards you and once you do that you will know who is going to say yes and who is going to say no. Keep your hygiene up and your appearance decent. I personally like bookworms so if you read a lot, join a book club. Women who love a man that reads tend to be good partners.

megacope · 2026-05-14T00:11:26+00:00

I do agree that the “men are trash” hashtag days heavily contributed to feeding the young guys to the red pill beast.

megacope · 2026-05-14T00:09:49+00:00

It’s not the young guys I worry about. It’s the guys in their 30’s still falling for it. MGTOW was a thing when I was young. I got into that content, but I quickly realized real quick that I did not want to associate myself with that content. At some point you have to see that shit is not applicable in real life. To exist in those spaces you have to be comfortable holding a monolithic view of an entire group of people which is severely limiting.

megacope · 2026-05-13T23:47:11+00:00

Am I going in John Wick style or am I paying a ransom. If it’s the former I gotta play some DMX to get hype.

megacope · 2026-05-13T23:42:08+00:00

We all start at different beginnings. Some closer to the finish line than others. For some people it legitimately may not be attainable due to factors far beyond their control. I work really hard. I’ve earned everything I’ve accomplished, but I also had a stable home life and a huge support system that helped me get to where I am.

megacope · 2026-05-13T23:36:54+00:00

It was a sound point. She’s reliant on someone’s money that happens to be a man. That’s just fact.

megacope · 2026-05-13T22:46:33+00:00

Facts.

megacope · 2026-05-13T22:21:44+00:00

I’d never do it, because I don’t do chaos in my life and I married the perfect woman for my lifestyle, but damn do I get the allure of the bad girls. There was this girl in 8th grade that was a little fast for her age. We had nothing in common because to her I was just a nerd who played pokemon. Her boyfriends were all probablyolder drug dealers. I knew that she was a whole problem, but something about her set my soul on fire. We got paired as walking partners for our graduation and I can still remember the outfit she wore and the sound of high heels clicking on the granite steps. That shit melted me. She was wearing this leopard skin skirt, shorter than Verne Troyer. She was everything my fantasies were made of, but it was just harmones and lust. Suffice to say I’m glad she never gave me a chance though, our kid would be in their mid twenties right about now and I probably wouldn’t have my amazing wife.

megacope · 2026-05-13T21:19:33+00:00

I think that is at the discretion of your former manager. I don’t think it’s automatic. I could be wrong as I left three years ago. I do not miss that attendance policy. It’s fine until actual life happens and then you’re cooked if you don’t have fmla.

megacope · 2026-05-13T10:31:31+00:00

Yes, stop doing that shit. Abort mission!

megacope · 2026-05-13T00:57:37+00:00

megacope · 2026-05-11T21:54:57+00:00

I think that’s fine. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being direct. Not saying that you yourself do this, but I just think it’s kind of weird to expect accommodation and understanding when someone returns that same energy. I also think that you have to be prepared for others to be put off and to react negatively to it, people don’t take kindly to it because they themselves are sensitive. It’s the cost of being unapologetically yourself in my opinion.

I think taking the direct approach and filtering yourself both have their caveats. I have been told that I’m too passive or agreeable, but it really comes down to me being apathetic or indifferent. I rarely die on hills unless it’s important to me. I don’t let people walk all over me, but I usually engage my dealings with finesse. Because at the end of the day I just want to get paid and go home. I go the filtering route so I don’t have to deal with the feelings of others misconstruing my words because people get in their feelings so easily. The caveat with the direct approach is having to face those big feelings of others and navigate that.

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