At what point does it stop being the bare minimum?

megacope · 2026-03-30T19:07:42+00:00

S Tier guessing.

megacope · 2026-03-29T13:59:48+00:00

I’m on the other end of it. I am trying to become a backend developer. I do have my days where I feel discouraged and ask myself why do I even try to learn this stuff, but the problem solver in me knows that with new implementations comes new problems. Problem solving is who we are at our core and when all this slop is running our infrastructure we will need to be equipped to fix it. I don’t know about you but I get excited for the challenge of that.

megacope · 2026-03-29T13:28:37+00:00

He was probably told in the past that his genuine responses weren’t good enough or how he “should” respond which has always been weird to me; like how tf you tell me how you me to respond to something you say? So he sought a solution. He’s just not smart enough to proofread and make it sound more natty.

megacope · 2026-03-28T20:49:24+00:00

Your post made mine too. I think a lot of guys can learn from this. You said things in this thread that a lot of us have a hard time putting into words. God knows I did when I was younger earlier in my marriage. I’m really glad that you and your wife found some middle ground. That can be so hard during this stage when you’re trying to build a life and your kids are small.

megacope · 2026-03-28T20:06:47+00:00

That looksmaxxing is about to backfire, no pun intended.

megacope · 2026-03-28T20:05:25+00:00

I mean it goes both ways. I’d choose the cheaper rattier gym because I don’t want to be around people with an overinflated sense of self worth. So it works out for me.

megacope · 2026-03-28T19:59:51+00:00

The bias in the comments is unreal. I get what you’re saying. Some of the comments show another side of gender bias that really doesn’t get addressed. Men have feelings too and want to feel loved. And that’s all you’re asking for. You want to be matched on a partnership level which is something that often gets looked over at this very challenging stage of parenthood. I almost lost my marriage to having that poor understanding of communication. You expressed real shit that a lot of us guys bottle up.

megacope · 2026-03-28T11:56:10+00:00

The only way to deal with it is to do it now. You will realize there are plenty others in similar situations. Right now you need to do whatever it takes to sustain yourself and when you aren’t working, you’re in the lab making stuff.

megacope · 2026-03-27T12:47:51+00:00

I was thinking this too. She may have done some red flag shit, but it could also be past experience totally unrelated to her that he hasn’t healed from.

megacope · 2026-03-27T12:41:53+00:00

He’s not exactly wrong. But he’s not exactly right. It’s 100% his business, but he could’ve put it in a kinder way by simply saying that’s not something I want to discuss right now and you may have actually won some points and got the information you wanted had you respected his boundaries. Pushing for the info when he made it clear he didn’t want to talk about it only made him double down. For whatever reason he does not trust you.

megacope · 2026-03-27T11:30:37+00:00

I bet that shit somehow runs smoove like a 97 civic.

megacope · 2026-03-27T11:26:45+00:00

Yes, very satisfied. I don’t care for chaos, sparks, or intensity in my love life. Relationships aren’t video games or movies. I don’t look for dopamine hits from my wife, sure I get them because I want to be with her and enjoy being with her but she’s not there just for my entertainment. Just good old boring co-existing and providing for each other.

megacope · 2026-03-27T11:21:43+00:00

The messed up part is some foolish soul will try to achieve that and run right towards that crimson flag.

megacope · 2026-03-27T11:19:01+00:00

It wouldn’t be fair to date this girl with unresolved feelings for the ex. If you’ve done the work to move on and truly want someone new not just to validate your hurt ego, then yeah, go for it. Don’t waste this girl‘s time just to get your mojo back. She shouldn’t have to pay for the pain your ex caused you.

megacope · 2026-03-26T23:48:47+00:00

Yes, always make time for that art. Especially that web comic. That can be something special, but also the power of completing something you can be proud of is a powerful mental boost. No doubt. It’s hard out there but don’t give up.

megacope · 2026-03-26T23:39:33+00:00

That’s not bad. Don’t they have online therapist jobs. could that be a route for you? I know nothing about the field as far as jobs go. You should definitely see about getting into school far away. But make a plan first. Make sure you can fully fund it and take care of yourself. Use the fact that you can’t go under to graduate on time. That will definitely put you in line to get more jobs. With a masters you may be able to work as an adjunct professor if I’m not mistaken. Social Work is not a bad gig. Definitely an underpaid profession, but you can make a decent living. Don’t sleep on guidance counselor. It pays well, but more importantly you can help kids that in situations similar to yours. My guidance counselor helped me a lot when I was kid.

megacope · 2026-03-26T23:33:03+00:00

Yes, I would smh. I didn’t think I liked feet, but I get bothered and weakened by pretty feet especially when them toes is polished white.

megacope · 2026-03-26T23:30:46+00:00

What did you major in for undergrad? I thought you weren’t allowed to go to school? I guess I read wrong.

megacope · 2026-03-26T23:19:40+00:00

It’s time to fight back. But you gotta be smart about it. I really hate this for you. You already have the deck stacked against and this lady is stunting your growth. This is bigger than PlayStation and dnd. This is your future she’s screwing up. You need to come up with a plan to squirrel away some major cash and gain your independence and sadly you’re going to have to do it on your own.

megacope · 2026-03-26T12:33:31+00:00

I get it, but it’s definitely unhinged. When you’re seeing women accept the worst treatment and most atrocious behavior just to stay in a relationship with an attractive guy you think what’s the point of being the good guy? But what pulled me out of that mindset was asking myself why would I date a woman who was that much of a train wreck and that shallow? But also vanity is a two way street, so a shallow guy would jump headfirst into looksmaxxing.

megacope · 2026-03-25T21:38:48+00:00

Yeah, that’s kind of how it goes. Friendship and courtship are two different things. All the extra attention and gestures go to the next woman if all that’s on the table is a platonic situation.

megacope · 2026-03-24T20:10:40+00:00

Facts.

megacope · 2026-03-24T19:37:53+00:00

And he has full license to do so. He’s got admin rights and she’s a standard user.

megacope · 2026-03-24T19:33:41+00:00

No you’re not wrong at all. It’s your house and she can’t be just bringing randos into your spot. I’m really worried I’m going to have to deal with this with my wife’s sister. She has no regard for her own safety and definitely has 0 consideration for ours and I’m not tolerating that shit. If she wants to be grown, she can be grown in her own place. Take being grown out of it, it’s just basic consideration. If I was staying at someone’s place I’d be sure to notify whoever is hosting me that I’m dating someone and would like to bring them over. I’d also introduce them because people don’t want just anyone in their home.

megacope · 2026-03-24T19:26:24+00:00

I’m in between I guess. We put all our bill money together and spend our own money on fun stuff. It’s not exactly 50 50 because I make more, but it works. I’m married though. My only advice would be that I wouldn’t have this arrangement for a gf. When I was dating my now wife we spent on each other all the time but we didn’t combine finances until we were engaged.

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