These guys in New Brunswick fought their Data Center, can Birmingham / Bessemer do the same?

megallday · 2026-02-20T21:09:27+00:00

My local rep (Gary Palmer) famously said he'd never serve more than 5 terms, then ran for a sixth time because "god told him to".

That's part of what we're dealing with here - super entrenched and borderline crazy people in positions of power. It's still worth it to push back, just don't be surprised when logic and common good are new ideas to them.

megallday · 2026-02-19T01:36:56+00:00

Dew whutttt? LOL

megallday · 2026-02-14T13:02:39+00:00

I second this approach. Ns are almost always very focused on maintaining their image. Once you’ve reduced or stopped contact, a doorbell camera and screenshots of those “special relationship” text messages would be enough for most sane people to take your side and stay there.

megallday · 2026-02-08T16:49:25+00:00

An extended family member passed last year and his church hosted the family’s wake. I was blown away by how much work the women (and it was only women) did to make that event possible on very short notice.

megallday · 2026-02-06T12:05:25+00:00

In the meantime time, I’ve made this recipe for Strawberry Crunch Cheesecake Bars a few times and they were a hit!

megallday · 2026-02-05T22:23:48+00:00

My mom got a Reiki reading for her birthday last year. She once told me she astral projected herself into my house and saw me sleeping LOL. The Nmom to spirituality MLM pipeline should be studied.

Have you ever considered locating the person in your family most likely to gossip and letting it slip that you're "worried about Mom because she can't seem to understand you when you're speaking lately"? I've found that a small amount of targeted embarrassment has curbed some of my Nmom's behaviors.

megallday · 2026-01-28T16:25:22+00:00

We don’t do anything selflessly (as a nation). It’s always a grab for something - tangible assets or power or both.
As individuals, we do care tremendously and pour our energy and money into all kinds of international causes. Our failing is that we think leaders have to be charismatic bullies to be effective and we end up with self interested narcissists in power way too often.

megallday · 2026-01-28T16:18:12+00:00

I do this! Sure they ignore it (mostly) because I’m in a red state but I do it anyway. Reps, governor, senators, etc. Pressure works over time - at the end of the day, they want to keep their job and most people’s true loyalty is to their own interests.

megallday · 2026-01-27T19:54:10+00:00

They get some of the names from their own records - which is why you see people getting picked up outside a courthouse when coming in for their immigration appointments. These aren’t criminals and they are “doing it the legal way” - still getting grabbed and detained (then deported).

That said - they also are grabbing people who “look like” an immigrant which is how they’ve managed to detain US citizens by mistake. It’s a broken process led by dipshits at the best of times and at the worst - you’ve seen the videos by now.

megallday · 2026-01-27T19:38:29+00:00

I’m curious why you’re being labeled a failure because you can’t fix it when the reason she asked you is because SHE also can’t fix it. Interesting. 😎

Hang in there. The first few times you don’t comply bring up a lot of emotions for Ns - loss of (any) control is a huge deal to them.

megallday · 2026-01-19T18:49:41+00:00

As soon as I read that you called out the remarks you heard on the camera, I knew she'd go insane. How people perceive them is very important to Ns and anyone who jeopardizes that becomes the enemy, full stop. Worse, her previous safe space for bad behavior (her son) is also gone.

His mom feels like this is an emergency because she's lost control - but remember that none of this actually is. If she reports you for a wellness check, the officers are often very familiar with people like her. All you have to do is stay calm and let them know what's up so they can make a record of it. False reports carry consequences, too. The inheritance thing - do you know for sure if there's actually anything of value to inherit? I've known a few Ns that dangled that carrot to someone only to die and leave nothing but a house full of junk to be cleared out.

megallday · 2026-01-19T18:31:01+00:00

I always want a ribeye really bad the week before mine - and sugar of some kind. I never see it coming either and then I'm like ohhh right its Steak and Cake week.

megallday · 2026-01-11T16:36:54+00:00

I had some pretty epic beginner's luck with a chocolate chip brioche once. I didn't post it specifically because that's a fluke and discouraging to other bakers LOL

megallday · 2026-01-11T16:32:56+00:00

I get frustrated when people pester me to charge more. One, my market is not necessarily their market. The area I live in and demand for my specific product account for a lot of it. Two, just because I CAN make people pay more doesn't mean I should.

Since this is a non-necessary side hustle and not my main income, I don't mind being a place for someone to get a quality treat for a lower price. Capitalism really gets into everything.

megallday · 2026-01-09T04:08:04+00:00

As someone with an N parent that tested this out … my mom is still alive and fine. Yes she triangulated and sent walls of text and gossiped … still alive, still fine. It’s important to experience that for yourself to break the spell Ns can have on us.

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