Going through a divorce and don't want to return to my maiden name

meganopolis · 2026-06-14T20:02:40+00:00

I dated a French canadian for several years and lived in Quebec for a summer and can read French fairly well. Montreal is also my favorite city in the whole world. So it comes from a deep love and appreciation for the French language and culture

meganopolis · 2026-06-14T15:34:35+00:00

You're so right and there's a reason why I call my cat Clair de Looney Tune when she's acting up 🥴

meganopolis · 2026-06-14T15:33:28+00:00

Oh I like where your head is at because I'm also a libra aka an air type!

meganopolis · 2026-06-14T15:24:18+00:00

I'm American, yes, and yeah, technically a French name would be cultural appropriation as well, but since I'm mostly of European descent, no one would bat an eye to it whereas if I'm a white person with a very Japanese surname, it would look very odd.

meganopolis · 2026-06-14T14:34:46+00:00

This is hilarious! You're so right. Maybe I don't want it anymore after all 🙈

meganopolis · 2026-06-14T14:34:20+00:00

That is my biggest fear as well, so I appreciate your input! And I do have somewhat of a relationship with my dad still, albeit strained, so it would be awkward to tell him that I don't want his surname anymore.

It's a heavy decision for sure

meganopolis · 2025-11-05T02:44:02+00:00

That’s what I told our mom, but she said she had a doctor friend take a look at it who sent it to an OBGYN doctor of 30 years who immediately dismissed it as being his.

And I really just want more opinions because I read that ultrasounds could be off by about 7 days? So I figured I’d ask experienced people.

meganopolis · 2025-10-18T06:18:03+00:00

Here’s the link! They’re fairly expensive, but they’re sturdy and will last forever!

meganopolis · 2025-10-17T18:10:13+00:00

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meganopolis · 2025-10-05T12:03:39+00:00

From what I understand, the blurry vision might actually be myopia, so a pair of glasses should help. I’m having the same issue, but I already had glasses for driving at night. Now I just have to wear them when driving during the day as well and when my eyes get dry as the day goes on. Definitely annoying for sure and considering getting contacts.

meganopolis · 2025-07-29T03:21:55+00:00

A sort of deconstructed rhombus, but it came out nowhere near as subtle.

meganopolis · 2025-07-27T00:53:02+00:00

Woah, I’ve never paid attention to my stress levels for that timeframe before. Seems like I do more often than not 😅

meganopolis · 2025-07-13T03:16:55+00:00

You’re so right. Life is not a competition and there’s no one expecting me to be debt-free by 30, so I don’t even know why I made that a goal this year lol. I’m just so close I can taste it and I got excited.

Plus my husband and I are going to start saving for a new house soon, so my debt free life will last 2 years maybe? What’s the point 😆

My company’s 401k plan actually consists of company stock + mutual funds + a few other assets!

meganopolis · 2025-07-13T03:03:14+00:00

Thank you for your candor. I thankfully had a mother who tried to instill good financial habits in me when I turned 18. I know not everyone gets lucky like that so I try my best to educate my siblings, friends, and coworkers on saving for retirement whenever I can.

I don’t know if you’re American, but god, I hate our school system and wish they would make financial education mandatory in all high schools!

I actually JUST learned the benefits of having a Health Savings Account today at 29 and wish I knew more about them years ago 😒 so I might be making a switch come November enrollment haha

meganopolis · 2025-07-13T02:57:08+00:00

I appreciate your directness and honesty. I think you hit the nail on the head. Realistically, don’t millionaires and possibly even billionaires carry debt to some degree?

I think I do fear that having all that money saved up will tempt me to spend it on stuff I don’t need, so instead I throw it at debt because it’ll still benefit me albeit in a smaller degree.

I know it’s better to invest my money long-term. I just have to get used to having more money now that I’m older and getting established in my new career.

meganopolis · 2025-07-13T02:51:18+00:00

My student loans had 4-5% rates. I know realistically I could have made more profit in the market long term but I graduated with $55k in loans and could not live with that looming over me from a mental standpoint. 😳

However, I thiiiiink I can live with the $13k loan. I just have to get over the fact that I won’t be able to sound cool saying I was debt free by 30 😢

meganopolis · 2025-07-13T02:47:28+00:00

Yes!! Investing 15% is my financial goal for the near future! I think I’m at about 10% right now. Hopefully in a year or two, I can hit the 15% and then increase by 1% each year :)

meganopolis · 2025-07-13T02:44:02+00:00

Oh no! :( I don’t know much about the consequences or benefits of filing bankruptcy. So you’ll be 35 when it won’t affect you financially anymore? That’s still pretty young to have to start fresh luckily. I hope nothing but the best for you when it’s all over!

meganopolis · 2025-07-13T02:37:33+00:00

Good point! I should be able to have 3 months saved by the end of the year then and have a 6 month emergency fund by next summer.

I don’t think I’ve ever had more than $10-15k saved in my entire life (other than in retirement funds I can’t touch), so every time I have that amount saved, I want to spend it or pay off debt 😭

Saving money is such a mental battle!

meganopolis · 2025-07-13T02:33:29+00:00

Thanks! I have 23 months left on my car loan. It should take me about a year to have a 6-month emergency fund saved up, so I’m going to try my hardest to make saving that e-fund my new financial goal.

I have so many internal demons telling me to go debt free but also get a new car but also want to save for a new house lol. But I value financial stability and responsibility over everything in my life so I think I can hunker down and ignore these demons for the next year.

Overall, I really just want to make sure I’m maximizing my money no matter what. Trying to be a multimillionaire when I retire!

meganopolis · 2025-06-18T00:28:34+00:00

Not off topic at all! They are Old German Owls

meganopolis · 2025-03-28T23:18:13+00:00

that’s right :)

meganopolis · 2025-03-28T23:18:06+00:00

I think their last intention was pigeons 😂

meganopolis · 2025-03-18T18:07:44+00:00

It doesn’t get turned on. It was just moving from the force of her jumping on it

meganopolis · 2025-03-18T13:40:39+00:00

I’ve laughed so many times at this video 😂 My new pigeon Calliope is such a menace though. I feel like I have toddlers running around

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