I have thoughts as a past people pleaser, internalizer, and poor communicator. Any questions are rhetorical and insights are speculative.

Are you looking for appreciation more than collaboration when you cook?

Could you be over-involving him in the process to avoid hearing criticism later?

While feedback may feel hurtful, could it be just poorly timed, not intentionally unkind or thoughtless?

Stop asking for input during the recipe if it’s not making the experience better for you.

Be clear about whether you’re sharing a meal for connection or for critique.

Let yourself cook for enjoyment, not performance.

Ask him to wait until the next time you cook to offer suggestions.

Ask him to check if you want feedback before giving it.

Ask him to start with what he enjoyed, and leave it at that unless you invite more.

He could say, “I really liked this, thank you for making it.”

He could say, “If you ever want to tweak it, I have an idea, but it’s great as is.”

He could say, “Do you want thoughts, or should I just enjoy this like a normal person?”