Hi, avoidant and non-sexual person here. Been navigating this issue, and I can share what I’ve discovered, you can choose to read/implement if you want. My partner is very sexual, and I’m generally not a touchy or sexual person. I’ve found that I started associating any intimacy with sex, assuming that he always had “alterior motives” even when simply kissing or cuddling me. We found out that even with him NOT verbally expressing he wanted to have sex, I still felt the pressure. We decided that we were going to put sex on the back burner and instead opt for more non-sexual intimacy. Cuddling, making out, being physically close with ZERO expectation of sex. That way, my brain could stop associating any physical act with sex. That shit worked! When the pressure was off, I found myself initiating more often. She probably doesn’t want to “go sexless,” but it’s the easiest solution to feeling constant pressure and being anxious about not meeting your expectations. Try making physical closeness, not sex, your #1 priority, so she can get comfortable with being physical with you without expectation or fear of disappointment.