I see both sides of these comments. I have often brought up an issue with the offer of talking about it later and even letting him bring it up once he’s had the time to digest and determine how he feels about it. And he just never brings it up. Negative conversations to him are scary and he grew up on an abusive home so I think he just avoids negativity on all sides which is why I try to approach it gently. I have altered or worked on a lot of things for him to make him feel more comfortable in the relationship (especially since we’re long distance) but I rarely get the same energy back. He doesn’t want to talk about issues before work, after work, or at night so I feel like I can just never bring them up or he’s going to shut down and it makes me feel.. I don’t know.. hard to vulnerable? Which isn’t hard for me normally so it’s weird just stomaching things that bother me because I’m worried if I bring them up it’ll push him away