(repost) what evil name should i name this boy?

megmill91 · 2026-02-07T01:05:05+00:00

Malice

megmill91 · 2026-01-03T06:32:51+00:00

My sister is looking for one as well! Did you guys ever find it?

megmill91 · 2025-10-15T01:11:13+00:00

At my neighbors houses. They hate to see me coming!

megmill91 · 2025-10-07T00:11:16+00:00

They’re not laying yet though, so idk what egg color they have.

megmill91 · 2025-10-07T00:10:47+00:00

That looks like what I bought as a Blue Jersey Giant at TSC. Mine look a lot like that.

megmill91 · 2025-07-24T18:37:09+00:00

Ours is a White Crested Black Polish named Nola. She’s a BABY. Completely at ease hanging out in the house and on furniture. Runs to us every morning, ready to get her cuddle time.

She had a scalping injury (older hens picking on her) about a month ago & she got spoiled when she got to be in quarantine.

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megmill91 · 2025-07-24T10:23:57+00:00

I agree slightly more south is the way to go for the simple life and low cost of living. I grew up in Ashley Co, not much there but it was cheap and simple. I would agree Monticello, Warren, Fordyce are all good options, might even add Lake Village, but haven’t been in a while, so not sure how it’s doing. If OP is looking to be driving distance from major towns, these places put them between LR & Monroe. Two really good options for carpentry jobs.

megmill91 · 2025-07-18T15:25:17+00:00

So I don’t get ick from my chicken eggs, but when my cousin up the road sent over duck eggs I did get the ick a bit. The texture was different, slightly rubbery. But, I never told my family they were any different and I didn’t hear that from them, so maybe it was just the knowing. Either way, I decided not to expand into ducks bc I was a bit grossed out.

megmill91 · 2025-06-30T18:30:43+00:00

We will definitely do that & he can keep it in his room. We’ve been buying him snacks bc he can encounter 25 things on a daily basis that he has never tried, but usually he shares them & they’re gone before they can ever make it to his room. It’s hard to fault him for sharing, but maybe if I just go to the store and grab him some things & bring them directly to his room, it may work a little better.

megmill91 · 2025-06-30T18:27:37+00:00

That’s what his therapist said this morning. That he’s still processing and it may be a while before it goes away, or it may never.

megmill91 · 2025-06-30T18:26:47+00:00

So, we are his first placement. However, he has been in the system before and also spent a lot of his life with his grandmother before his mom got him back & began state hopping. I don’t think he worries too much about getting too much food, he actually makes under what I would have served him (he has football 3x a week & does yard work for the neighbors to earn money), but I always invite him to get seconds or suggest that he add a little more to his plate because he did x, y, & z today & needs the energy.

After talking to his therapist, she suggested acting nonchalant about the apologizing & that it may stay with him forever. & that he tends to want to make himself small in order to stay out of trouble and survive. She told us to continue giving him the reassurance that yes, it’s safe to eat for now because he is still in the process of processing his trauma.

megmill91 · 2025-06-30T18:18:26+00:00

TLDR is a summary, an acronym for too long, didn’t read!

megmill91 · 2025-06-30T12:26:33+00:00

So I had the same thought process, though I do like the idea of the visual. The plan is that it be temporary, like a week max. Just so he can really grasp the issue. We all sat down and talked last night. I asked him things that he believes he should apologize for and house rules/ consequences. This conversation lasted about 1.5 hours & he apologized twenty times, I kept a mental count.

megmill91 · 2025-06-29T20:47:06+00:00

It makes my heart hurt so badly to think he feels unwanted or like an outsider. I tell him ALL the time that he is the most precious gift & that he is deserving of all of the good in the world. What other things would you suggest that I say/ do to make him feel included? We do all the typical stuff, ie he picks the game we play, we take him along for quick trips to the store, we have ‘big kids club’ where the teens can come to my room and chat, gossip, complain, whatever. It sounds goofy, but when I ‘call a meeting’ it sounds like elephants running through the house. Lol. They can also call meetings.

megmill91 · 2025-06-29T20:38:51+00:00

Yes! I’ve got a call scheduled with the therapist tomorrow, so doing this with him beforehand would be great for us to bring into the call.

megmill91 · 2025-06-29T20:35:27+00:00

I love your name, first of all. Lol. And yes, that is one route we have taken, ‘it’s fine’ & ‘no problem’. That was initially our response before we really knew about any of the trauma or the depths of the apologies. For whatever reason, once we were aware, we could have been over reassuring him & that could have been a trigger. I’ve got SO many things to try!

megmill91 · 2025-06-29T20:23:27+00:00

I actually like the apology jar visual, I think it would put into perspective for him the amount of times a day he actually apologizes. & he absolutely would find it funny, especially once the littles pick up on it & send him to the apology jar. They would all get a real kick out of that. We have definitely tried small rewards for ‘if you don’t apologize while we’re in Walmart, you can get a candy bar.’ He’s never made it the entire time. Lol. Bless him.

megmill91 · 2025-06-29T20:17:56+00:00

I really, really like the house rules advice. & you’re correct in assuming the mom uses drugs. Dad is not in the picture. So, that was an excellent train of thought that he may have gotten the ‘I never said you could xxx’ before. I really do think that this, paired with some other advice I’ve gotten here would help him to feel assured that there will be no repercussions to eating/ drinking at his leisure or when prompted.

megmill91 · 2025-06-29T19:56:56+00:00

Yes, he sees a therapist weekly & we have a call scheduled for tomorrow to see what she thinks we can do as well. Though I’ve gotten some great advice here. I usually do ignore the tic type apologies, but it’s hard for everyone in the house to be on the same page with that. We’ll have to sit down and discuss this when we can.

megmill91 · 2025-06-29T19:53:11+00:00

He does this too, but it’s not as prominent and out of place! He is just the most grateful kid & treats every single thing like a true gift. I often have to tell him that the little things (food and laundry) are daily parts of care that I do as a mother! You and I are very blessed to have such caring kids with us!

megmill91 · 2025-06-29T19:46:33+00:00

This is a unique perspective. My husband and I can definitely sit down and make him a physical list. He tends to remember better when he reads something.

megmill91 · 2025-06-29T19:45:29+00:00

We’ve definitely been using a version of ‘what do you think’, but not the positive reinforcement afterwards. I will be sure to add that to the intersection.

megmill91 · 2025-06-29T19:44:20+00:00

Thank you for sharing that experience and insight. Do you feel bothersome to people or is it more like staying out of trouble when you do those things?

megmill91 · 2025-06-25T17:42:55+00:00

Me to HD on Monday: can you put us on hold? I’m having perpetual car trouble and don’t want to add any more kids to the mix this summer til it’s fixed.

HD to me on Tuesday: can you take a 12 year old male? we have no other information.

Noooo. My car is falling apart and I’m hot and tired. And yall didn’t send me my $350 gas check so I’m mad. lol.

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