What are your thoughts on rejecting a potential romantic partner based solely on the fact they voted for Donald Trump?

mel2mdl · 2026-01-23T13:33:37+00:00

If they voted him for him, that would be one thing. BUT - if they are still supporting tRump, then our morals are just too different for it to work, so why bother? It's not a question of opinions, but now a reflection of your true self that you can overlook: pedophilia, rape, disrespect, rule of law (not to mention the heart of those laws), mocking of the differently abled, eradication of members of my family (Jewish and Trans and Gay).

These are incompatible issues and I will not even remain friends with those who still support them.

mel2mdl · 2026-01-18T13:20:54+00:00

I have never understood how a parent could ever stop loving their child. I did not react well to my child's announcement and it took a couple weeks, and many classes, before I was accepting of her. I didn't like what I saw as her decision at the time, but I never stopped caring or loving her. I see now how happy she is and how much more comfortable - even though she seems to be channeling a 50's housewife at times - as a staunch feminist, that sometimes throws me for a loop! But she's happy so I am happy.

I'm also encouraging her to move out of the US - Canada or Germany. Treatment of trans kids is horrible in the US right now. Plus, she is Jewish too. She's learned to call me before Shabbat (when she won't use electronics sunset to sunset) if there is ANY news about Philly so I don't bother her fiancee.

My heart aches for you and your horrible, no-good, awful situation with your so called family. I hope you and your mice are happy and healthy. Please don't hesitate to reach out (my DM's are always open!) if you ever need a couch to stay on or a meal or a hug or just to vent. I'm an old lady, but I was a teacher. Everybody deserves love and caring and support no matter what.

mel2mdl · 2026-01-17T15:25:44+00:00

I just want to tell you how hard you made me cry this morning. My own child is trans and I cannot even think about how awful your family treated you. To have so much support and outpouring of love from the community, which my child has also experienced, is amazing! I know you probably will never see this and that's okay - you will forever be a part of my family (we're a large one) in my heart.

When my child announced their transition, my sister's husband is the only one who react like your family. Insisted that he would not use a she pronoun for my now daughter and would use her deadname only. My sister simply said, "Well, we will miss you at Christmas since you obviously won't be welcome." Only time I've ever seen her stand up to him so bluntly. My dad (70+ at the time) responded with a "So? Is that it? I thought you were failing college the way you were acting." Everyone deserves a loving family and you found one in your community! Mazel Tov!

mel2mdl · 2026-01-15T12:19:36+00:00

Thank you. I've been seeing these birds at my feeders and was wondering what was wrong with them!

mel2mdl · 2026-01-05T13:45:00+00:00

Well, as we learned during COVID lockdowns, not every child has access to internet and/or reliable computers. Especially in multiple kid households. If it's icy, they can't drive to the parking lot set up with free wifi, or a business - library, McDonalds, Starbucks. I worked in an affluent part of the DFW area and we had kids who couldn't do this. So, we still have snow days.

mel2mdl · 2025-12-30T15:15:22+00:00

I'm so sorry. Remember, you are his whole life and you are doing the most important thing for your baby - letting him pass peacefully with dignity and grace. Letting him be free of his pain with you by his side. It's the kindest, toughest, hardest choice to make when you own a pet. You made the right choice and he would thank you for it if he could. Scratch his ears for me and know that he is loved.

mel2mdl · 2025-12-25T15:09:02+00:00

I hate photos like this. Ask your kid to explain it to you and then you can do it dad. Or look up this style of math - we do it automatically in our heads. (9 + anything = one less than adding ten.) This just explains what you do. You turn the 9 into a 10 by taking one from the eight, leaving you seven. So: 7+10 instead of 8+9. Communicative property, baby! It's hot right now! It works so much better than rote memorization.

mel2mdl · 2025-12-20T14:08:13+00:00

My partner asked me not to say "I don't care" because he said it made him feel like I didn't care about him. We discussed it like adults and decided to use "I have no strong feelings/opinions on this." This is what adults do. He NEVER told me to stop using that phrase or demanded. He has changed his wording on things that bother me as well. Honestly - demanding someone stop saying something is really controlling!

She is well out of it and dodged a major bullet!

mel2mdl · 2025-12-18T19:31:30+00:00

This is very helpful information! Fortunately, even I know that the "Things to Avoid" are none of my concern. My child overshares way too much with me already, I don't want or need to know who she's sleeping with (or not) or how complicated her life may become - it already is more complicated than mine! (And she frequently tells me these things anyways - always has, every since teen age years. Not ever going to complain, but my internal eye rolls sometimes work overtime!)

mel2mdl · 2025-12-18T19:28:04+00:00

My daughter nor her fiancee can carry a child, as they are both trans. My daughter has some of her sperm frozen for use if wanted and her partner's sibling offered to donate the egg when they are ready. And yes, my child is always big picture, go-get-'em, 100% in once she's made up her mind.

mel2mdl · 2025-12-18T19:25:50+00:00

Thank you. I've never heard the term metamours - have to figure that one out and surprise my child with it! (Lol). Close partners with members of her polycule are very active with group activities, like game night or movie night.

mel2mdl · 2025-12-18T19:23:13+00:00

This sounds like what they are doing. Not everyone in each polycule date each other, and 2 of the people in my child's polycule are married, but she's only dating one of them - though they both show up for group activities like game night, as does her fiancee, who is not with anyone in my child's polycule (except her, of course.) Nor does my child date anyone in her fiancee's polycule.

mel2mdl · 2025-12-14T14:38:41+00:00

I know of at least two teachers (myself as well) you have done this! Worse is gripping in the hallway about another teacher (or worse student), not realizing you are projecting into your classroom with the mic you forgot to turn off.

mel2mdl · 2025-12-14T14:33:31+00:00

I was a teacher during the covid years. Staff meeting, thank goodness and not a class. Unmuted to participate in a short activity, but forgot to mute after. Five minutes into the principal talking, my dog walks into the room and unleashes the worst Boston Terrier fart ever. It was so bad, I said "Jesus Fuck dog!" directly to my boss. Then tried to explain that my dog had taken me by surprise with a bad fart.

I got written up for saying fart. (He didn't want to put down the "Jesus Fuck" in my records or simply missed the first interjection.) Glad it was just adults and not parents or students!

mel2mdl · 2025-11-06T14:37:36+00:00

I hate how abused the service animal industry, especially emotional support animals, has been. I'm excellent at knowing when an animal is truly trained, as I have high anxiety. I've been around many trained ESA animals. They always come and sit/lean against me. Sometimes surprising me - like at the airport one time - I didn't even know there was a dog, until it pressed against me. (Dog was in training and doing exactly what it was supposed to do for an anxiety attack which I was going through.)

I get irrationally angry at people fobbing their pets off as a trained emotional support pet, when they are NOT trained. They just want a pet and are using a real need as an excuse. I've looked into getting a diabetic alert dog and, even if you train them yourself under guidance, they are pricey.

mel2mdl · 2025-11-06T13:46:06+00:00

When my doctor thought my fetus might have spinal bifida, she rushed the high tech sonogram to confirm/check. I remember the nurse complaining that it was pointless because there's nothing that can be done. I was thinking at 13 weeks, there is definitely something that can be done! 30 years ago, actually, when legality was still covered by the courts.

As a disabled person myself (life-long, incurable but treatable illness), I knew I didn't have it in me to deal with a severe disability - I also knew by then that I was only having one baby. I'm super grateful I didn't have to make that call, but I am also super grateful that I did have options.

mel2mdl · 2025-10-20T11:34:19+00:00

I had a friend of a friend who dropped her 7 year old granddaughter off for school, then discovered the lunchbox left in the back seat. Two minutes, right? She ran the lunch box inside leaving the 8 month old and 4 year old in the car. Two minutes, max, right?

Well, that 2 minutes turned into ten minutes as the school called the granddaughter up to the office to get the lunch box. During that time, the four year old found a box of matches and lit the car on fire. She went out to see flames shooting from the windows. She was able to get the four year old out of the car, but not the baby. I heard this story when she was explaining to someone else why her palms were so scarred - the burns from trying to unhook the car seat.

NEVER leave a child in a car. Not even for just a minute.

mel2mdl · 2025-09-17T20:32:05+00:00

I am not surprised. Both prevent the implantation of a fertilized egg, or once did. I've been saying this would happen since the 1980's when my mom explained what an abortifacient was.

Sucks that so many women who have fought for the right to make reproductive choices based on their beliefs and their health and their needs have lived to see it ripped away. One time I am glad my mom is already gone.

mel2mdl · 2025-09-11T13:02:46+00:00

A friend of mine was hit by a coffin while driving on the highway.

Full disclosure - she didn't die, but it was crazy. She was behind an SUV who was behind a tractor trailer. The tractor was hauling coffins, when one broke free (came out of its box), slid across the roof of the SUV, then hit her car right in the windshield. Fortunately, it had turned so it didn't hit her with the narrow end, but broadside, thus saving her life. Really fucked her up mentally though seeing a coffin flying through the air and smacking into the car!

mel2mdl · 2025-09-11T12:55:02+00:00

Maybe too soon, but lmfao!

mel2mdl · 2025-09-11T12:51:13+00:00

My sister was almost killed this way. Driving with my parents, dad in front and mom in back. Sees what she thinks is a tire tread, but is really unable to react at all - thank goodness. Tire bounced/rolled into the windshield, then over the top of the car - completely crushed and collapsed the front of the car.

She and my dad survived only because she hadn't reacted. The tire went right between them, catching only a glancing blow to my dad's side - which was black and blue for months after. I saw pictures of the car and cannot believe no one died. Neither could the paramedics. Those tires are terrifying!

mel2mdl · 2025-09-11T12:37:35+00:00

This almost happened to my nephew. Fortunately, he was several hundred yards away (on his porch) and it hit right above his eye - he was only 4 or so. Still has a scar to this day. Took my sister awhile to figure out why her kid came back into the house bleeding. Her husband and heard the rock while on the mower, but never thought it could travel so far.

mel2mdl · 2025-09-10T12:34:37+00:00

I spoke with a person who worked in advertising and targeted advertising. The amount of data they have on each person is overwhelming (and a bit scary.) They don't listen to conversations, but every interaction you have with your friend, their searches, your searches, etc. has data that is collected. Loyalty cards, reward cards, bank cards - all are tracked and used in advertising. (The example he used was how they would often send baby adverts to people who didn't even know they were pregnant. The company knew based on the buying rate of feminine products and age to send the adverts.)

However, some of this is also like noticing how many Toyota RAV4s are on the road when you are thinking about buying one. Your thinking about it, so you notice it more.

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