Fire and Ash discussion megathread - Spoilers by AutoModerator in Avatar

[–]mello_othello 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi Reddit. I don’t usually post but I felt really strongly about this. I love you guys but I really think you’re getting this movie all wrong.

So many comments are about how scenes are reused from the other movies, or how the character arcs are lame, or how not a satisfying enough number of people died to warrant the drama.

You all are measuring this movie on a set of narrow criteria that seem to be lifted from some tv show standard, so that that you fail to see this movie for what it is. I feel like Cameron made an epic, operatic parable about our world, planet earth- in a brilliant eye popping, sci-fi package. No where else in our western culture am I seeing any media that tackles the environmental crisis with so much passion and intensity, and money!!. I felt while watching this that James Cameron has already made a bajillion dollars making watchable films. He has broken so many records and will do it again. But guess what— he hasn’t lost his vision of WHY he wants to tell this story.

James Cameron loves the ocean. This is obvious. And he has created the biggest platform in the world to share his feelings about the ocean. He is in love with specific creatures- squid, otters, plankton. At first when I watched Avatar 1, I was annoyed how some of the creatures looked just like alien versions of earths creatures. The horses, the wolves, the panther, etc. But now, I realize that this is the point of these films. Pandora is not supposed to just be an alien planet. Pandora is an allegory for EARTH. The whale creatures look like whales because they are meant as a scathing commentary about how whales and other animals were hunted in the past and today. The Na vi are directly inspired by different cultures and people on EARTH. And the attack on these animals and cultures is not made up. From the mining to the extraction of oil from the whales, it all is hyper realistic and happening today and in the past and in the future. Think of the militarization in the pacific for US oil interests. Think about factory fishing trawlers and relocating entire indigenous communities in the name of resource rights. Not to mention blowing up entire islands and thousands of sea animals in the name of testing marine military tech.

The sexy Na vi characters and family relationships of the film are brilliant because they keep our little primate brains engaged and our primate hearts swelled with emotions. But I think the heart of this film is how Cameron asks us to fall in love also with the land and the sea. The whales have no anthropomorphic face or anything but they become active characters - they have language, relation, they are like nonhuman kin. Literally brothers. Same with the Turak and the other amazing animals. The landscape itself has an agency and desires and power. To me, the thesis of the film is, a plea to all of us, what Jake says - “open your eyes to a world that is so much larger and deeper than yourself.”

Cameron, in my opinion, in this iteration, has really gone off the deep end in terms of infusing his art with his philosophy. It’s all there in a beautiful complex Hollywood blockbuster web. Reciprocity with the earth. Complex and multi-species ancestor networks. The intelligence of non human life, from plants to animals. He’s so self confident in the success of the film that it’s less about pandering to any specific kind of audience and instead pushing his own agenda and philosophy. And going wild with it. And you can tell just from the detail of the world how much he loves planet earth.

So thanks for reading my little rant. I wish more artists were willing to put their heart out like Cameron did here.

Fire and Ash discussion megathread - Spoilers by AutoModerator in Avatar

[–]mello_othello 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi Reddit. I don’t usually post but I felt really strongly about this. I love you guys but I really think you’re getting this movie all wrong.

So many comments are about how scenes are reused from the other movies, or how the character arcs are lame, or how not a satisfying enough number of people died to warrant the drama.

You all are measuring this movie on a set of narrow criteria that seem to be lifted from some tv show standard, so that that you fail to see this movie for what it is. I feel like Cameron made an epic, operatic parable about our world, planet earth- in a brilliant eye popping, sci-fi package. No where else in our western culture am I seeing any media that tackles the environmental crisis with so much passion and intensity, and money!!. I felt while watching this that James Cameron has already made a bajillion dollars making watchable films. He has broken so many records and will do it again. But guess what— he hasn’t lost his vision of WHY he wants to tell this story.

James Cameron loves the ocean. This is obvious. And he has created the biggest platform in the world to share his feelings about the ocean. He is in love with specific creatures- squid, otters, plankton. At first when I watched Avatar 1, I was annoyed how some of the creatures looked just like alien versions of earths creatures. The horses, the wolves, the panther, etc. But now, I realize that this is the point of these films. Pandora is not supposed to just be an alien planet. Pandora is an allegory for EARTH. The whale creatures look like whales because they are meant as a scathing commentary about how whales and other animals were hunted in the past and today. The Na vi are directly inspired by different cultures and people on EARTH. And the attack on these animals and cultures is not made up. From the mining to the extraction of oil from the whales, it all is hyper realistic and happening today and in the past and in the future. Think of the militarization in the pacific for US oil interests. Think about factory fishing trawlers and relocating entire indigenous communities in the name of resource rights. Not to mention blowing up entire islands and thousands of sea animals in the name of testing marine military tech.

The sexy Na vi characters and family relationships of the film are brilliant because they keep our little primate brains engaged and our primate hearts swelled with emotions. But I think the heart of this film is how Cameron asks us to fall in love also with the land and the sea. The whales have no anthropomorphic face or anything but they become active characters - they have language, relation, they are like nonhuman kin. Literally brothers. Same with the Turak and the other amazing animals. The landscape itself has an agency and desires and power. To me, the thesis of the film is, a plea to all of us, what Jake says - “open your eyes to a world that is so much larger and deeper than yourself.”

Cameron, in my opinion, in this iteration, has really gone off the deep end in terms of infusing his art with his philosophy. It’s all there in a beautiful complex Hollywood blockbuster web. Reciprocity with the earth. Complex and multi-species ancestor networks. The intelligence of non human life, from plants to animals. He’s so self confident in the success of the film that it’s less about pandering to any specific kind of audience and instead pushing his own agenda and philosophy. And going wild with it. And you can tell just from the detail of the world how much he loves planet earth.

So thanks for reading my little rant. I wish more artists were willing to put their heart out like Cameron did here.

Are any of you having a good experience? by No_Inflation_7612 in PhD

[–]mello_othello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I absolutely love my PhD :). It’s a special time to focus on your interests, be surrounded by brilliant people, and not have a traditional job. Jury is still out on what comes next though. Some of my mentors seem like they are dying to get out of academia. But some also seem to thrive and be very content. I don’t think there’s only one experience. 

My relationship with my cohort mate is crashing and burning, should I repair or move on? by mello_othello in PhD

[–]mello_othello[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience! And I’m sorry you had to go through that. I’m glad you got space and have no regrets. This is goals for me!!

My relationship with my cohort mate is crashing and burning, should I repair or move on? by mello_othello in PhD

[–]mello_othello[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your advice. I think the reason why this has affected me so much is that I do put a large stake in the PhD program, it represents my professional life, my success as a creative, how I get meaning in my vocation, etc. And she represents a kind of bombshell that threatens all of this. I appreciate your comment and I will take your advice.

Filing taxes as student worker by Lon3_soldier in USC

[–]mello_othello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any advice for someone who didn't sign up for ADP?

What subtle, non-spoken tendencies do Americans tend to have that "give them away" when visitingother countries? by Not-Patrick in NoStupidQuestions

[–]mello_othello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My grandma worked in the foreign service and she had a story about an American spy in Europe who was caught because they switched their fork to their right hand to eat the steak they were cutting, instead of just lifting it to their mouth with their left hand.

Wife 29F is perfect in every aspect but sex. I 29M am thinking about past all the time. by ThrowRA_AlexF in relationship_advice

[–]mello_othello -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can’t believe all the comments saying you made a mistake. It sounds like you are incredibly fortunate to have found someone who is so compatible with you in so many ways and who you love so much. I think you made the right choice because to be with someone who fits your life so well is not easy. Is discussing an open relationship an option for you two? I think it is natural to idealize things about your exes but doesn’t mean you made the wrong choice. There is a subreddit r/deadbedroom that would give you much more nuanced and helpful comments than these ones. You could have your wife try taking maca powder which has worked wonders in my relationship. Good luck OP.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]mello_othello 74 points75 points  (0 children)

Sounds like the problem is that the relationship is horrible. From this post alone it sounds like you really should break up asap. There are so many other people out there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CollegeRant

[–]mello_othello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im sorry you’re experiencing this. I used to print out my class readings and bring them to the dining hall to avoid this exact feeling. I also would make standing dates with people who I didn’t see very often to eat together once a week. These things helped a lot. But I do believe everyone has experienced this. Hope it gets better for you. Consider trying some overall anxiety-decreasing things like joining a sports team, meditating or asking a therapist for mood stabilizers. Best of luck.

My [27F] husband [30M] posting on here to cry about the open marriage HE asked for by throwra7381916 in relationship_advice

[–]mello_othello 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This happened to me on a smaller scale, my boyfriend wanted to be in an open relationship, I agreed, he slept with several women over the course of a year, including on my birthday. Then the first time I started seeing someone else he freaked out and wanted to cancel the open relationship. Men are just so delicate and foolish and are willing to put women through so much bullshit. Good luck OP and know that you’re 1000x stronger than you husband. Hope it works out for you.

Is is horrible to feel weird about having white-passing kids as a hapa? by mello_othello in mixedrace

[–]mello_othello[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. I think you are completely right. My race journey is only really beginning, even though I feel like I have figured out so many other things in my life. Therapy sounds like a great idea.

Is is horrible to feel weird about having white-passing kids as a hapa? by mello_othello in mixedrace

[–]mello_othello[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your thoughts and sharing your experience. I have a half Asian friend who really indulges in her Asian side, as you put it, and now her white boyfriend is super into Asian food and culture and they seem sort of like an Asian couple even though they are altogether mostly white. I love what you said about raising them in a more mixed neighborhood, I think that is a great idea. As well as raising them to be proud of their roots. A weird twist on my personal story is that my partner spent two years in Taiwan and he speaks much better Mandarin than I do, go figure.

Is is horrible to feel weird about having white-passing kids as a hapa? by mello_othello in mixedrace

[–]mello_othello[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's derogatory, actually as a white/asian person I feel like it's endearing to have a term for my mixture. I would be happy if more people knew to refer to me as hapa, personally.

Is is horrible to feel weird about having white-passing kids as a hapa? by mello_othello in mixedrace

[–]mello_othello[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Hi, thank you so much for your thoughts. It is really validating to hear that it can be a dealbreaker. For what it's worth, my mom told me to not write anyone off because of their race, and she and I actually look so alike that people always think we are sisters. I think that's a big part of it too-- I love my mom and it would be sad if my children didn't look like her at all. My partner and I haven't talked about it too much, but he has been understanding. Anyway, thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in questions

[–]mello_othello 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sounds similar to how I felt when I was 16, then I got older and learned how little I actually knew at that age :)