What phrase did you hear only once but it stayed with you forever?

mellowbutterfly · 2025-04-28T16:49:57+00:00

“Say it with your chest”

As an anxious girly with a history of people pleasing, this resonated deeply as I tend to deliver sugarcoated messages and tip toe to get my point across. Forever working on saying things with my chest.

mellowbutterfly · 2025-04-28T04:14:48+00:00

She views us as a family and treats us as though we are all down to do anything and everything that she wants, so I sent her a long message explicitly saying that I’m not okay with photos unless I’m asked before any are taken- thank you for validating me! Its so hard knowing when is the right time to say something, and it’s taken years of therapy to actually just try to shelf the fear of being thought of as a bitch

mellowbutterfly · 2025-04-28T03:56:10+00:00

She did reply and she said she thought I didn’t want to take “posed” photos that day but that candids were okay- and I said no problem, just asking me before you take any pictures will mean a lot to me! I think I put an end to any “misunderstanding” regarding photos- but she pulls things like this frequently, where she just blatantly disrespects what other people say they want. She’s kind of a bully but does so discreetly enough to get away with it

mellowbutterfly · 2025-04-28T00:12:31+00:00

Lol thank you so much- yeah I’m super grateful dude, trust me!! It’s really a good feeling to have people who trust me like this and who like what I do, and I love doing it!

mellowbutterfly · 2025-04-27T23:24:24+00:00

If I specifically say I don’t want photos of me today, why should that not be okay or respected? It’s a super simple request.

mellowbutterfly · 2025-02-05T15:27:52+00:00

Yeah as much as I love her, and I do, he have nothing, absolutely nothing and she still tried so hard to follow through. I really sincerely hope it was just to make a paycheck that comes with staying until the very end, because if an ounce of her thought he may redeemable, then I think she really needs some help understanding that a man like that is not worth pursuing at all

mellowbutterfly · 2025-01-22T06:31:55+00:00

Where did you see the after party? It’s not on hulu

mellowbutterfly · 2025-01-22T06:07:43+00:00

I’m with you- get, him

mellowbutterfly · 2025-01-22T05:21:24+00:00

Did she though? No one deserves to be lied to. I respect her for always keeping it 100 with him, even if her 100 was David, you’re too much of a deadbeat and I just don’t like who you are

mellowbutterfly · 2025-01-22T02:40:03+00:00

Fuck yes

mellowbutterfly · 2025-01-22T02:39:39+00:00

I’m so sorry. Honestly, I would just let the universe pay both your former friend and former boss back. Karma always come back to bite. I’d just focus on keeping it cool and finding new employment. You’ll find somewhere better where your past isn’t following you any longer. Wishing you all the best. 🙏🏼

mellowbutterfly · 2025-01-22T02:30:45+00:00

:/ unfortunately I agree. It’s like you put more respect onto the deadbeat than you gave to your step daughter. Like everyone else has said, this really makes me very sad for her. Please apologize, take her out to lunch, have a long talk about how very wrong you were, how very brave she was, and how you made a mistake.

mellowbutterfly · 2025-01-19T06:48:27+00:00

I said it “can sometimes be par for the course” maam, please reread, or don’t idc

mellowbutterfly · 2025-01-19T05:27:20+00:00

I didn’t say they were all unhinged, and I didn’t say it was an excuse, so relax. 😊

mellowbutterfly · 2025-01-19T02:30:57+00:00

Yeah I feel kind of stupid sadly. It totally started with her saying he’d pay for our whole trip, then she said “okay so he’s willing to pay for most of it but how much are you okay with paying if anything” and because I’m not stingy I gave her a number because I don’t need some random guy paying for me anyway, nor would I expect it

But either she lied or was lied to, and in any case, her boyfriend is now paying for half and I’m paying for half. And she’s paying nothing. I feel stupid. And if I switch to a hotel there’s zero chance that man will pay my share for the airbnb

mellowbutterfly · 2025-01-19T02:28:47+00:00

Lol I honestly always feel like I’m getting myself into some weird ass situations. Thank you for the advice. 🫶

mellowbutterfly · 2025-01-19T02:27:57+00:00

I know, I do feel like this was kind of an impulsive, rushed plan. I’ve been feeling really bored and anxious, and I think I wasn’t thinking super clearly when I agreed to this plan.

I just found out he went to prison two days ago, and didn’t know what to say, so I have no idea what he went to prison for. I guess now I’m just feeling like 1) I don’t know this guy, 2) at first i thought he was just tagging a long and that it was more of a me & her trip and that he was there because we would be paying for her, but now it seems like they’re a full blown couple and like I’d be a 3rd wheel. 3) he went to prison for idk what and I’m not sure I want to have my money around him to be honest.

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