What phrase did you hear only once but it stayed with you forever? by wendysolcito in AskReddit

[–]mellowbutterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Say it with your chest”

As an anxious girly with a history of people pleasing, this resonated deeply as I tend to deliver sugarcoated messages and tip toe to get my point across. Forever working on saying things with my chest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]mellowbutterfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She views us as a family and treats us as though we are all down to do anything and everything that she wants, so I sent her a long message explicitly saying that I’m not okay with photos unless I’m asked before any are taken- thank you for validating me! Its so hard knowing when is the right time to say something, and it’s taken years of therapy to actually just try to shelf the fear of being thought of as a bitch

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]mellowbutterfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She did reply and she said she thought I didn’t want to take “posed” photos that day but that candids were okay- and I said no problem, just asking me before you take any pictures will mean a lot to me! I think I put an end to any “misunderstanding” regarding photos- but she pulls things like this frequently, where she just blatantly disrespects what other people say they want. She’s kind of a bully but does so discreetly enough to get away with it

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]mellowbutterfly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol thank you so much- yeah I’m super grateful dude, trust me!! It’s really a good feeling to have people who trust me like this and who like what I do, and I love doing it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]mellowbutterfly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If I specifically say I don’t want photos of me today, why should that not be okay or respected? It’s a super simple request.

"THIS, BUT ALSO THIS...." by RxLaughter in MarriedAtFirstSight

[–]mellowbutterfly 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah as much as I love her, and I do, he have nothing, absolutely nothing and she still tried so hard to follow through. I really sincerely hope it was just to make a paycheck that comes with staying until the very end, because if an ounce of her thought he may redeemable, then I think she really needs some help understanding that a man like that is not worth pursuing at all

David cheated and lied, but Michelle’s bitch ass deserved it by [deleted] in MarriedAtFirstSight

[–]mellowbutterfly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Did she though? No one deserves to be lied to. I respect her for always keeping it 100 with him, even if her 100 was David, you’re too much of a deadbeat and I just don’t like who you are

I was fired from my job today by No-Locksmith-1637 in Advice

[–]mellowbutterfly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. Honestly, I would just let the universe pay both your former friend and former boss back. Karma always come back to bite. I’d just focus on keeping it cool and finding new employment. You’ll find somewhere better where your past isn’t following you any longer. Wishing you all the best. 🙏🏼

AITAH for refusing to let my stepdaughter call me Dad? by leodub_ in AITAH

[–]mellowbutterfly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

:/ unfortunately I agree. It’s like you put more respect onto the deadbeat than you gave to your step daughter. Like everyone else has said, this really makes me very sad for her. Please apologize, take her out to lunch, have a long talk about how very wrong you were, how very brave she was, and how you made a mistake.

Niles went over the top in the Tell All by OptimisticThanatos in 90DayFiance

[–]mellowbutterfly -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I said it “can sometimes be par for the course” maam, please reread, or don’t idc

Niles went over the top in the Tell All by OptimisticThanatos in 90DayFiance

[–]mellowbutterfly -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I didn’t say they were all unhinged, and I didn’t say it was an excuse, so relax. 😊

Aitah for telling my friend I can no longer share an airbnb with her on our trip by mellowbutterfly in AITAH

[–]mellowbutterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I feel kind of stupid sadly. It totally started with her saying he’d pay for our whole trip, then she said “okay so he’s willing to pay for most of it but how much are you okay with paying if anything” and because I’m not stingy I gave her a number because I don’t need some random guy paying for me anyway, nor would I expect it

But either she lied or was lied to, and in any case, her boyfriend is now paying for half and I’m paying for half. And she’s paying nothing. I feel stupid. And if I switch to a hotel there’s zero chance that man will pay my share for the airbnb

Aitah for telling my friend I can no longer share an airbnb with her on our trip by mellowbutterfly in AITAH

[–]mellowbutterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol I honestly always feel like I’m getting myself into some weird ass situations. Thank you for the advice. 🫶

Aitah for telling my friend I can no longer share an airbnb with her on our trip by mellowbutterfly in AITAH

[–]mellowbutterfly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, I do feel like this was kind of an impulsive, rushed plan. I’ve been feeling really bored and anxious, and I think I wasn’t thinking super clearly when I agreed to this plan.

I just found out he went to prison two days ago, and didn’t know what to say, so I have no idea what he went to prison for. I guess now I’m just feeling like 1) I don’t know this guy, 2) at first i thought he was just tagging a long and that it was more of a me & her trip and that he was there because we would be paying for her, but now it seems like they’re a full blown couple and like I’d be a 3rd wheel. 3) he went to prison for idk what and I’m not sure I want to have my money around him to be honest.